He said he would get me a birthday gift when we'll meet, but not now. Is it normal?

[Anonymous]

We are on ldr for now, I have a birthday in 2 days. He said 1-2 weeks ago that he could not find a good option on a website to order me anything online so asked if it was okay to buy me something special in Paris (we're going there in a month). I said it's fine, and said a little something would be still fine.. but he expects to buy me something still in Paris and I think I won't have anything from him now.

Its not about how much he spends or how big the gift is, it's about him planning about it beforehands to make me happy (he did it last year). I prepare his gifts months ahead, so even though rationally I'm happy to get it in big ways in Paris, I just feel like a little thoughtful gesture would have been amazing... even a small precious one.

Am I exaggerating? Kind of feel like I'm not being reasonable, but at the same time valid.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you feel disappointed that your partner didn't plan ahead and get you a little something for your birthday, especially if you have been putting effort into preparing gifts for him months in advance. However, it's important to communicate your feelings to him and explain why a little thoughtful gesture would have meant a lot to you.

It's possible that he didn't realize how important it was to you and thought that buying you something in Paris would be a better option. However, it's important to remember that everyone expresses love and affection differently, and he may show his love in other ways that are not gift-giving.

Having a conversation with your partner about your feelings and expectations can help avoid misunderstandings in the future. It's important to express your feelings in a calm and respectful way and to listen to your partner's perspective as well.