At what point in a relationship do you feel comfortable receiving a gift? At what point are you comfortable asking for a gift?

[meetkitty123]

I am very much A gift giver. I give little gifts sometimes early in the relationship. Early being like a month in. As far as I myself have never been one who's been comfortable asking for a gift.

Before I continue that statement I do feel there are times where it's perfectly okay to ask for a particular gift if for example it's your birthday or there's a holiday coming up and especially if you've been asked what exactly do you want.

However even when I'm asked what do I want I struggle to the answer. I become rather shy.

Now if it is a specific holiday Coming up or my birthday I have noticed in relationships under a year I won't even hit at wanting anything now relationships pushing a past year into two I may hint at once in something.

But in general I'm very shy about asking.

What about you? Do you feel there's a certain rule to asking for a gift or giving gifts in relationships?

Updates

11 mo

I forgot to ask at what point do you feel comfortable giving a gift.
And I must say I'm so shy about asking for a gift in my 9 years of marriage I only asked for a gift ONCE without initiation. Mother's day was approaching and I saw a beautiful musical snow globe. It was the only time I to said what I would love to receive without being asked...

[OlderAndWiser]

I have taken a single rose to a lady on a first date, but nothing more than that until we are dating exclusively and at least 3-4 months into the relationship. I would never ask for a gift but would offer modest suggestions, if asked, around my birthday and Christmas.

A gift is not just about how you feel as the recipient. It is a symbol of affection and caring by the giver of the gift. Rejection of the gift may be perceived as a rejection of the affections. Everyone should learn to be gracious in accepting gifts.

[Genie23]

After a relationship, it's fine... but before the relationship I would feel too awkward to accept the gift and I'd refuse. I honestly feel there are so many other ways he can show that he appreciates me and loves me by doing other things especially sweet gestures and saying sweet little things. So, there's no expectations from me to receive gifts. I am not crazy about materialistic gifts, so I'll never ask for one and even if I'm in a relationship with someone for 5 years, I'd still not ask why don't you get me something for my birthday. 😅

[Babygirl_S]

I wouldn't ask for a gift but I like receiving flowers on the first date itself and later more expensive things if he likes.

[Sparkie460]

On first dates I always brought her flowers. One time I knew the girl liked smurfs because we talked on the phone a lot before we went on a date. When I picked her up I gave her flowers and a pin with a smurf on it. It was the first time I ever bought a gift so early in the relationship.

I never asked for any gifts. Even now my wife will ask me what I want as a gift for holidays and I just tell her I don't want anything. She gets mad at me all the time when I do that.

[dudeinohio]

I gave my now fiancée a gift first date. It was the day before Valentine's day. Was a small box of candy with the statement "good vibes " on it, symbolizing the good vibes we got off each other in the talking stage.

Was a total success.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

When I'm heading into a month or two months of a relationship, I feel it's okay to give or receive gifts in a relationship. I think I would hint around to a Lady to ask her what she really needs. I always like to put a Lady first before myself.

[Jamie05rhs]

I would NEVER ask for a gift. Ever. Ever ever ever.
Even after we've been married for 25 years. It's just not happening. Lol. I'm not like that. That's not how I roll. (Now, I might ask for a blow job, but that's different.)

If she WANTS to give me a gift, that's perfectly fine! And I will accept it graciously. And long as she doesn't get out of hand. I really don't want her to be spending a lot of money on me. I would feel bad. I don't want to take advantage of anyone.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

At any point is fine with me as long the gift she's giving me are thing I need like soap, shampoo, toothpaste and deodorant.

I don't ask for stuff but if she's willing to give me those things I will gladly accept it.

I don't like gifts of material stuff unless it's important stuff like I mentioned.

[NathanDavis]

if we are already in a relationship... then it doesn't really matter

as we would be giving to each so much more than gifts... lol

[NathanDavis]

edit/update**

personally... I would never ever ask, nor have I ever asked for gifts... lol

I just "don't feel right' about asking for things, in general... especially those that cost money, but that's just me...

[Still-alive]

Small gifts i think are generally ok when you make it official. For bigger gifts id probably wait until you are both more established. Maybe at least 6 months or longer if i had to give a time frame on that

[Likes2drive]

When I feel it’s the right time, could be weeks or months, and of course Christmas and birthdays would be a reason to give a gift but I would never ask for one but they usually ask me what I want eventually

[MementoMori777]

After I've given them a gift and even then I'm still not too comfortable

[SnowedIn]

I never ask for a gift. I am happy to receive one as soon as they want to give it.

[exitseven]

When I visited my future wife for the first time I brought her a gift. I think a little while after that she got something for me.

[slatyb]

Inexpensive gifts are always ok, where inexpensive depends on the means of the couple.

[KrakenAttackin]

I feel very uncomfortable receiving gifts from women.

[TracyF]

I give gifts immediately. I don't think it's a romantic thing to give to people. I think it's a nice thing.

[larry69]

I don't ever ask for anything from a woman
I buy gifts for woman based on conversations had and her interests early on!!

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'm a giver I spoil the women in my life and I expect the same in return in a relationship you should have to ask they should know what you want and vise versa

[shortster]

Never; gift giving is not one of my love languages. I never know what to get people; and I never know what to ask for.

[Billlewis]

You can never give a woman a gift too soon, in my opinion.

[msc545]

For complicated reasons I dislike gifts and holidays

[JustMeL120]

Why would you ask for a gift. That's just rude

[Nikki1989]

I find them awkward at any stage.