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Should society stop trying to pressure single people to settle down? (Page 2)
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This isn't yes or no. I don't believe society does pressure people to settle down. People pressure themselves into doing it and friend groups pressure members into doing it. It's not forced on anyone.
It should I have no desire to have anymore kids or marry in this life time. I get tired of men pressuring me to date them- no thanks! I wish married men stop approaching me too whole wives at home wtf !
I don't want anything to do with the current dating world of today as I left it at 24 and haven't been back !
The government wants you to reproduce for the sole purpose of paying taxes. That is all. Its how countries generate revenue through taxation. If your resident population is not reproducing they import people.
Pressure? Strange, but I've never felt to be under any pressure from anyone to "settle down". Must be a cultural thing.
How is society pressuring you? Do you mean your family and friends?
The media, family, friends, colleagues, etc.
You are saying when you're on YouTube. Why are you forced to watch those videos? Unless you're searching for these types of videos you shouldn't be getting them on your feed. Sounds like you might be self inflicting the YouTube stuff. You can control what you watch. That's on you.
As for friends and family and colleagues all you need to do is say mind your own business or I don't want to talk about this stop bringing it up. I do understand how that can be difficult and not always stop it. People just can't stop telling others how to live. Find a friend that gets you and vent it out if you have to. Good luck
@friendlybro79, I watch all kinds of different videos in my free time I just happened to go down the rabbit hole of red pill, blue pill, black pill and relationship-themed videos. Thats when I saw the world of content creators basically pressuring people to settle down, I saw a lot there and when I read the comments it appeared that a lot of people were believing that information and feeling the pressure to settle down ASAP. I'm a research student so I'm definitely going to keep looking into all kinds of social media occurrences I even wrote a whole paper on singlehood and it's impacts.
as for the family, friends, collogues they also pressure people and even just society in general if your society values marriage and procreation, you fit out if you don't have those things and your society may even try to get you to also peruse those things because to them thats the norm. And literally it is believed by a lot of people culturally that you need marriage and kids to be happy and fulfilled so if you don't have those things it is automatically assumed that you are desperate, depressed, unfulfilled etc. all the bad stuff. thats why i made this post surely i can't be the only one who believes that happiness is not about marriage and having kids.
I definitely do appreciate your words though thank you!😊
My pleasure. I also appreciate your more in depth explanation. As a researcher I can imagine it's difficult not to want to learn more and understand more as to what's out there. That makes a lot of sense to me as to the why you're subjecting yourself to those kinds of videos.
I think what you're noticing is valid and I do not have kids so I understand what people around us say and imply. Society can also teach us to be individual contributors in our own way. I don't mean be by yourself forever lol. I mean think on your own and contribute to society your way. You're not asking for advice so I think my point is should society stop? No. Because most people mean well by it and just want you to like the things they like. For me having so many people tell me you have to do this by this age and so on and so forth, it has made me hyper realize what makes me happy. Since this is my life to live, the only life, I'm thankful they made me realize it sooner.
I completely get what you mean but how I looked as it was for most people the pressure is completely toxic, in the sense that having to hear people constantly tell you that you need to do this and that can't possibly be good for your mental health.
To add onto that it can't be nice to be marginalized, or discriminated against all because you choose to be single, childless that does not sound like something pleasurable at all and research shows that that is what happens to people culturally in a lot of different cultures. I just wish we could be more open minded and allow people to just choose their own path. It is brilliant that people like putting out information about the benefits of marriage, singlehood, having kids and not having kids in fact we need more of that so that people can see this and learn and choose a path that suits them personally knowing that they will be happy regardless of what they have chosen.
I totally agree with this as well. It shouldn't be so hard for people to accept you for you and not what they think you should be or do. I think there are a lot of people that feel like you too. Surrounding yourself with like minded people, although not always possible, but when possible, can make things better. Unfortunately the world will always be filled with judgmental individuals. Well maybe not always. Hopefully one day people can just be nicer and accepting of each others differences.
I agree with everything you said! 😊
Now who will explain this to the society? If you turn 27 here and are not married, people start worrying about you more than you worry about your marriage. People think that there is something wrong with this girl who is not getting married yet.
There are so many people not marrying these days that "pressuring" them is of no concern.
Yes!!! A lot of people have different priorities; relationships don’t automatically translate to happiness; some don’t want to settle.
People would be happier if they quit trying to dictate how others live their lives.
"settling down" is such a weird term. It reads like I should stop doing the things I love and find someone to do boring things with? Like no, I'm going to party and have fun and do that with the person I love
if only the pressuring wasn't so one-sided, oh wait it is
strong independent women shouldn't get shamed however
MGTOW men should get shamed
virgin men should get shamed
womanizers and fuckboys should get shamed
Yeah I never got pressured. I was just ignored romantically.
You, Enjoying singlehood it nah?
Or^^^
People project their insecurities onto others. So what they say is a reflection of how they personally would feel or have felt as a single.
Yes. Absolutely. This shouldn't be a must for everybody. Not everybody wants to be like their family generation 🙂
Being single is good as I never wanted a wife and children. I am just one of those who was meant to be single and fine.
If you're happy being single, fine & dandy.
Keep in mind, though, that one day you may accidently stumble across your life partner.
having kids is the most important thing a person can do, it produces soldiers, workers, and taxpayers for tomorrow which i depend on to retire.
those who don't are betraying us and stealing from us
Whatttt? 😂 stealing from you by choosing to be single and childless? Wow
Meh, I don't care if they do or don't. I will do what I want.
Especially "settle down."
Tf is that? Do whatever you want.
Screw society says. Everyone has to do what's best for them.
We aren't cookie cutters.