Is there truly such a thing as a perfect partner?

[Anonymous]

Where you match in every capacity, or do you have to make sacrifices or compromise to find true happiness

[Peter_Penetrator]

I have one thing to say about your question.


Don’t develop a co-dependent personality. If it is too late, get to therapy.


If you are solely relying on this person to make you happy, you will find yourself questioning the relationship.


And yes, no one is perfect.


A relationship with someone is more like a hobby. Before you say WTF, read me out.


Hobbies are what you do to bring joy to life.
Golfing, bicycling, hiking, hunting, fishing and last but not least, a relationship.


How would you feel if you were to injure your back somehow and couldn’t golf anymore? How would you handle your emotions when unable to play?


Are you going to sit around feeling sorry for yourself? Are you going to let the fact you can no longer enjoy that game stop you from finding a hobby to replace it?
Are you going to go to the extreme of back surgery and the pain and discomfort while you start weeks of recovery? How about the lost work and doctor bills?


Are you getting my point.


If you enter into a relationship, you have got to be strong enough to move on with your life, when it fails. That relationship is one of many hobbies you can live without and still be happy until you meet someone new. That relationship is just an addition to everything else that you should be living your life for enjoyment.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. Perfect for you and or in your eyes? YEAH

I don't know why people are saying it's not possible. There is no standard measurement for perfection and therefore it is subjective. All in all that means it is possible!!!

Honestly a person can become the perfect partner too. It's all just conditioning and awareness.

However, I think the best way to look for a partner is by looking for the very traits that you need at the onset to even get to a serious relationship stage.

- Courtesy (most are weak in this area)
- open mindedness (most are weak in this area)
- Knows what they want (most are super weak in this area)
- and loves/attracted to you ofc and vice versa

Everything else doesn't matter. However, if they have a gambling problem vs a late problem that is problematic but it's all conditioning and you can show them how to alter that conditioning if they want that. If they dont want that that doesn't make them a bad partner at the onset. The joint vision creation stage shouldn't happen at the beginning beginning.

You cannot try to look for a perfect partner at the onset. That is hard to find but possible. Perfect is what you two grow into together. You know how hard it is to find the traits I listed? And that's only 4 traits. Most people are only kind when it suits them or they are feeling good and treated good. Most people are not very open minded. That's obviously. And most people dont know what they want. That one has always shocked me. Especially as a kid. I thought everyone had a dream and knew what they wanted out of life. Not to mention that you also have to build that traits in yourself because you cannot be a hypocrite looking for someone like that but you aren't willing to be like that. Also in you dont have those traits you'll be the one ruining the harmony. So it's not a piece of cake. To add more traits and more standards on to that is crazy in most cases.

[Screenwriter]

Since there are no perfect people, there are no perfect partners. There are great partners who are good matches, but in every relationship there have to be compromises.

But WITH those compromises the couple should be happy and the relationship solid. If those two things don't exist, there'll be trouble. But perfection would be boring.

Variety is the spice of life, as they say...

[jennifer_bloom]

I would rather have a cute guy who treats me well then a high status guy that doesn’t protect my feelings so if I had a poor or ugly guy with a good heart, I would consider that a perfect relationship.

[DaveJord]

I think if you are more than 50% to 60% compatible you are off to a good start. Completely compatible or not, compromise and sacrifices is always required.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I used to work at a recording studio and the owner/ chief engineer used to say "It's not perfect without imperfections".

If course he was referring to his clients trying to use drum machines, tune their vocals and keep chasing that "perfect" take. Which in reality, perfection sounds like shit in music. There's no human aspect and there's no soul. You need imperfections to make a perfect song.

I truly believe the same concept applies to relationships. There is such thing as a perfect partner, but not in the same sense that most people think of when they hear "perfect"

[inhua]

there probably is but they are extremely rare and even then they may get paired up with an imperfect partner who purposely looks for imperfections

take Tom Brady and Gisele Bundchen for example. Tom Brady would be the example of a perfect partner. he's tall, handsome, rich, famous, athletic, friendly, charitable, beloved by fans, is a great father etc. yet Gisele still complained about him and divorced him. Gisele herself simply wasn't perfect and made a perfect partner out to be imperfect

[Gent207-2]

When those sacrifices and compromises are a pleasure - done out of selflessness and not reciprocity, that's perfection.

When you enjoy those tiny moments of levity- shared humor, sarcastic exchanges, saying the same thing at the same time - that's perfection.

When you or your partner find a way to forgive and FORGET minor offenses or disagreements for the sake of longevity and the 'big picture' - that's perfection.

When you and your partner are on the same spiritual and physical journey - same goals, growing beliefs that are similar and unique - that's perfection.

Perfection is possible it's just not what you think it means.

[hahahmm]

The bible says nobody is perfect. And if you look at the first couple, they had no problems, competition, no bills to pay yet the relationship had problems and the people made huge mistakes. I have not seen anything in life that leads me to believe the bible is wrong.

[Asker]

So why is my girlfriend scrapping me for someone more perfect

[hahahmm]

1. Not everyone is compatible. 2. You lost in the competition to the other guy for some reason. You'd have to ask her. 3. You were not married. It's not like she was obligated to try hard to make things work. 4. Maybe you thought the relationship was serious but she did NOT. Check out my mytake on Leadership.

[lightbulb27]

how old and experienced is this girl? I suspect something else is going on. Girls are tricky... will have to dig around what she's saying to find out what is going on emotionally.

no woman gets to 30ish... with her hormones screaming "MAKE BABY NOW DAMMIT OR YOU'RE DEAD FOR ETERNITY..." and brushes off a guy like that.

In other words, what she said is BS!

there's certainly better matches, don't know about perfect...

[Lliam]

Nobody's perfect and nobody else is you. So you have to make sacrifices and compromises, and seek win/win solutions to make a committed relationship work. You have to make an effort to make each other happy.

[Asker]

Well she ms replacing me with the idea that she can find her perfect match

[Lliam]

At the same time, I wouldn't have married just anyone, no matter how much they adored me. There are any number of factors involved in a person's personal preferences.

All I was saying was, even if you both decided that you want to spend the rest of your lives together, neither of you is perfect. It takes work to keep any relationship happy and healthy.

My wife and I have been happily married now for almost 26 years, but we had to learn how to live with our differences. And we work out any conflicts. The most important factor is, we are committed to each other.

[Jamie05rhs]

Even if you do match in every capacity, you still have to make sacrifices and compromises.
That's why it's absolutely essential to find as close to a perfect match as possible. Because you want to at least have a good starting position in your race if you want to have any chance at winning!

[Raaj4you]

We all have flaws and we all do mistakes. A perfect man or woman doesn't exists. You will never get what you want. Things may not go as you planned. Only few people are destined to get everything in life but their life is still imperfect. We must learn to live happily with what we already have.

[Nikki1989]

Nobody is perfect, but you can get really close to it.

[Asker]

So when a girl wants to replace you after a few years saying she can find a guy who matches her better

[Anonymous]

No such thing as the perfect partner. You have to find someone a little bit like you. Although I think opposites attract too.

who knows.. whatever floats your boat

[exitseven]

I tell my wife that she is not perfect but she is perfect for me.

[LiamJHayden]

No, and seeking only that would be futile, but there are those sufficiently compatible that meaningful lifetime relationships are possible.

[CallmeTheKnight]

I wouldn’t say that there is but there are people you meet one time and will definitely meet again

[DiegoO]

That statement has to do more with compatibility than with perfection.

[Massageman]

No. Only Jesus.

[shades777]

Yea perfect for you but not perfect 👍🏾

[Pterodon]

nope. Nobody’s perfect

[Kingofkings1992]

Obviously not.