Long Distance Relationship. Does it work?

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CrimsonAngel09 · Accepted Answer

Both got to make the effort.

My Dad was in South Carolina, and my Mom in Illinois. Married in 1989, had me in 1991, and my sister in 1992. Stayed married to my Mom until she died in 2020.

Moved to South Carolina with my Dad, still kept in contact with family. Bad thing is my cousins, Uncles, and Aunts are pretty much strangers except for my Grandma. None of them bothered to see or meet me and my sister in South Carolina. Not even Facebook friends or talked to them on there either.

I'm currently in a long distance relationship with a guy from Michigan. Been talking everyday for three years now.

SaRang21 · Accepted Answer

I think I’m fine with long distance relationship. As long as I love the person, I’m not even scared that he’ll cheat on me, and I don’t even need frequent communication.
I’m not scared that feelings will fade away or anything.

razelove · Accepted Answer

It can work if the distance shrinks fast. Otherwise it'll burn out fast, or the opposite, one or both of you build a larger than life image of the other in your mind, then get disappointed by reality.

najekim · Accepted Answer

Yup. Did a 2 year LDR then got married after a year living together. Marriage was 25 years ago.

Paris13 · Answer

Takes Rwo to Tango and Two To make the Effort but Yes... It can work. xx

SnowedIn · Answer

I selected no. The answer is very rarely. There's no substance there. There's no physical person. No hand to hold. Coffee to drink together. Distance and time zones get in the way.

We crave other people and so we fill that with friends to the detriment of the LDR or vice versa.

It can be done but the success stories are few.

MementoMori777 · Answer

It can but what makes it so hated and so incompatible is the fact that the commitment has to be from both people in order for it to work and normally its only one of them that are committed enough to have an online relationship which obviously it leads to it falling apart, that's of course the distance eventually can get to someone and that's why they crack, so if both can stay loyal and committed to each other then yes it can work.

exitseven · Answer

I never had much luck with them but if both people make the effort to make it work. I imagine there must be some kind of endgame where the two people will eventually be together in real life.

Staximus · Answer

Long distance is for the birds, and we can't fly. One person always starts fooling around with somebody else because the person they are supposedly in a relationship with is not there. Basically a long distance relationship is just pretending to have a relationship.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

No, it’s horrible when you love someone and cannot touch them, I could as well die of longing

Sunssong · Answer

It works. The problem with most people is they want more than that and they aren't willing to sacrifice to make it happen.

Also people don't know what they are doing in dating regardless of distance. I can literally tell you why all of your relationships ended. Every relationship ends for the same 1 or 2 reasons. Everyone makes these 2 simple mistakes.

Bricealan · Answer

Ours worked for a period, but when she moved here, it soon desolved

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Can it work? Yes  It's probably not the best thing for a relationship though.

Guardian45 · Answer

Yes, it CAN work as long as you have a plan to turn it into IRL!

electromagnetic · Answer

It works if both parties put in the effort and actually stay committed.

YourExLover69 · Answer

It would work only if the two can meet in the end, have some patience, trust in each other, take serious efforts for each other then sure.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Thats the wrong way to think about it. If the two people are compatible and love eachother, they will do whatever they can do close the gap and live under the same roof.

MJackson1234 · Answer

I have seen a lot of them that failed but for those that worked out it ended beautifully. Marriage and still happily married.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

I actually know a girl I could honestly have started an long distance relationship but we both agreed on not doing it. Its for me jjust the missing intimacy, the lack of togetherness, no casual talks etc

HighValue · Answer

It would only work temporarily and they would need to make plans and a timeline for one of them to move so they could actually be together.

WonderBell99 · Answer

Depends on whether you’ve met in real life. If it’s 5 years long and you haven’t even met once, I’m not sure how “real” it is.

runnerboy · Answer

I've never been in one so I can't really say. Would video sex work like Facetime while you were apart? It might be fun to watch each other masturbate to an orgasm?

DaisyM23 · Answer

it can work and also not depending on how much effort each partner puts in

FreyaRed · Answer

No.  I like pragmatic and practical solutions and LDR isn't one of them.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah. But only because it's not really a relationship. It endures till someone finds somebody else generally.

Shamalien · Answer

If my ex’s parents didn’t make it difficult I think it had a chance…but it is difficult. Both parties must be willing to put in a lot of effort and stay true

manthan_5545 · Answer

Depends... on distance depends on person... depends on circumstances

Andres77 · Answer

They can but it’s a lot of work and more costly for travel over time.

shades777 · Answer

what works for you... works for you. So far it hasn't worked for me

Anonymous · Answer

Of course not, and you can't expect loyalty from someone that lives many miles away.

Noodle_fan · Answer

not for me , i think infidelity more often to happen in ldr

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it sure can if both are really committed and want it to work out

Cb142 · Answer

if you love someone enough you can make anything work

SunnyRS · Answer

Haven't tried one yet but I think it's too hard to maintain.

Sofie1999_ · Answer

Sure if their trust and communicated at least once day. And if it’s for a short time.

slatyb · Answer

That depends on your definition of "work"

EaterPeter · Answer

For whom and how would be the question.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes it does

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not for me.

LavLavLuv · Answer

For me, nope

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