Long Distance Relationship. Does it work?

[juene]

Yes

No

[CrimsonAngel09]

Both got to make the effort.

My Dad was in South Carolina, and my Mom in Illinois. Married in 1989, had me in 1991, and my sister in 1992. Stayed married to my Mom until she died in 2020.

Moved to South Carolina with my Dad, still kept in contact with family. Bad thing is my cousins, Uncles, and Aunts are pretty much strangers except for my Grandma. None of them bothered to see or meet me and my sister in South Carolina. Not even Facebook friends or talked to them on there either.

I'm currently in a long distance relationship with a guy from Michigan. Been talking everyday for three years now.

[SaRang21]

I think I’m fine with long distance relationship. As long as I love the person, I’m not even scared that he’ll cheat on me, and I don’t even need frequent communication.
I’m not scared that feelings will fade away or anything.

[razelove]

It can work if the distance shrinks fast. Otherwise it'll burn out fast, or the opposite, one or both of you build a larger than life image of the other in your mind, then get disappointed by reality.

[juene]

Ha! Exactly! 💯

[najekim]

Yup. Did a 2 year LDR then got married after a year living together. Marriage was 25 years ago.

[Paris13]

Takes Rwo to Tango and Two To make the Effort but Yes... It can work. xx

[Kelly6]

agree

[Paris13]

@Kelly6 I have Been In A Few and Most Recent One, I Broke It Off After 4 Years But still We are Friends. One I went Over in Egypt and We married and I resided awhile. He was Muslim. I broke it Off later back in The USA. But it Can Work if Two parties Work as a Team. xx

[juene]

It can work yes. I've heard many success stories but based on my experience if one of the couple is not patient enough it will surely fall apart.

[Paris13]

Been in Two. It was Not Meant to Be. God's Doing. xx

[juene]

Yeah not meant to be for me either. 😅

[Paris13]

But an Experience. lolxxoo

[juene]

TRUE!!! A lesson learned 🤣🤣🤣

[Paris13]

lol!! Yes. xxoo

[juene]

🤣🤣🤣

[SnowedIn]

I selected no. The answer is very rarely. There's no substance there. There's no physical person. No hand to hold. Coffee to drink together. Distance and time zones get in the way.

We crave other people and so we fill that with friends to the detriment of the LDR or vice versa.

It can be done but the success stories are few.

[SnowedIn]

Hot send to fast.

Here's the real thing: what's the end goal? Fine -- have an LDR... but what then? At what point does either party decide to make it not an LDR?

[juene]

Thank you for your opinion! ☺️

[juene]

I agree that the success stories are very few.

I myself failed on LDR 🤣

[SnowedIn]

I'm so so to hear that! 😥 Like, I'm not opposed to them in theory, but I don't see them end well.

[juene]

LDR is not meant for people with trust issues as well. 🤣

[SnowedIn]

Lol for sure!!!

[juene]

😅😅😅

[MementoMori777]

It can but what makes it so hated and so incompatible is the fact that the commitment has to be from both people in order for it to work and normally its only one of them that are committed enough to have an online relationship which obviously it leads to it falling apart, that's of course the distance eventually can get to someone and that's why they crack, so if both can stay loyal and committed to each other then yes it can work.

[juene]

Yes and if one of them isn't patient enough if it will fall apart for sure.

[MementoMori777]

Indeed, thing is there's several people I've seen try it out and get broken by someone so these people that have the will for it exist, but for some reason they never find each other 😆

[juene]

Hahaha. They are my people 😅

[MementoMori777]

I put the commitment to one as well but never again, it is what it is tho, I'm glad you have commitment, it really says a lot about you. 💯🙏

[juene]

Same. Hahahaha. I did once. It failed cause he's impatient

[MementoMori777]

Yep I figured, I think that's how most LDR fail if I'm not mistaken ha

[juene]

Yup.

[exitseven]

I never had much luck with them but if both people make the effort to make it work. I imagine there must be some kind of endgame where the two people will eventually be together in real life.

[juene]

Some couples are succesful and end up together. Maybe because both are commited on the relationship.

[exitseven]

I had one where I had to do all the work. I was really stubborn and refused to lose but really I should have bailed on it after I ended up in the hospital for a month and she did not even bother to send me a damn get well card.

[juene]

What a sweet girl 🙄🙄🙄
So sorry to hear that. Hope you're fine now.

In my case, he said he only used me for validation and he just want someone to make him feel loved.

[exitseven]

Sorry, that is cold.

[Staximus]

Long distance is for the birds, and we can't fly. One person always starts fooling around with somebody else because the person they are supposedly in a relationship with is not there. Basically a long distance relationship is just pretending to have a relationship.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No, it’s horrible when you love someone and cannot touch them, I could as well die of longing

[juene]

That's exactly my problem, sis! HAHAHAHA! Touch is my LOVE LANGUAGE.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I know my girl… I am so needy when it’s about touching, when I couldn’t do that anymore I was so unhappy even had fevers from stress.

[juene]

SAME GIRL! SAAAAME! HAHA

[Sunssong]

It works. The problem with most people is they want more than that and they aren't willing to sacrifice to make it happen.

Also people don't know what they are doing in dating regardless of distance. I can literally tell you why all of your relationships ended. Every relationship ends for the same 1 or 2 reasons. Everyone makes these 2 simple mistakes.

[Bricealan]

Ours worked for a period, but when she moved here, it soon desolved

[juene]

CONGRATULATIONS! 🎉
I'm glad it worked for the both of you!

[juene]

Oh wait sorry. I thought you end up with her. My bad😅

[Bricealan]

She moved back to Ohio

[juene]

Oh no. Im so sorry

[Bricealan]

Hindsight, it was the best, as it worked out we were too different in many things... she was a smoker and that was a big problem.

[juene]

I see. Well at least it was an experience ☺️

[Bricealan]

Yes it was, AND we did enjoy some really nice time together... we went to college together, an d then I moved to CA and she stayed in Ohio... After divorce, I called and we got together, and you know the rest. I cannot say I regretted it...

[juene]

You married her? Wow

[Bricealan]

No, we did not get married. She married THERE, right after college and I married here for a short time, and divorced. I contacted her through the Alumni office at College.

[juene]

I see I see. I was a bit confused.

[Bricealan]

I wanted no part of being married then and neither did she.

[UniquelyBasic]

Can it work? Yes
It's probably not the best thing for a relationship though.

[juene]

True. But some makes it work apparently. I wanted to read opinions and if there are people who was succesful in LDR.

[Guardian45]

Yes, it CAN work as long as you have a plan to turn it into IRL!

[juene]

Really? 🥰

[Guardian45]

Yes, of course. I know a G@Ger who recently married!

[juene]

Nice

[electromagnetic]

It works if both parties put in the effort and actually stay committed.

[YourExLover69]

It would work only if the two can meet in the end, have some patience, trust in each other, take serious efforts for each other then sure.

[MJackson1234]

I have seen a lot of them that failed but for those that worked out it ended beautifully. Marriage and still happily married.

[juene]

Yesss! It's beautiful. They deserve to be happy.

[MJackson1234]

Yeah the one I know off had all the situation that might be a red flag. Long distance, opposite gender roommates, interracial, different religious beliefs to some extent, etc. But lovely gorgeous couple PhD graduates loyal you name it. Both of them my friends and their roommates lol.

[juene]

Oh wow!

[HighValue]

It would only work temporarily and they would need to make plans and a timeline for one of them to move so they could actually be together.

[juene]

Truuue!

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats the wrong way to think about it.
If the two people are compatible and love eachother, they will do whatever they can do close the gap and live under the same roof.

[TheSpaceGnome]

to* not do

[juene]

Exactly!

[Fromdusktilldawn]

I actually know a girl I could honestly have started an long distance relationship but we both agreed on not doing it. Its for me jjust the missing intimacy, the lack of togetherness, no casual talks etc

[juene]

True.

[WonderBell99]

Depends on whether you’ve met in real life. If it’s 5 years long and you haven’t even met once, I’m not sure how “real” it is.

[runnerboy]

I've never been in one so I can't really say. Would video sex work like Facetime while you were apart? It might be fun to watch each other masturbate to an orgasm?

[DaisyM23]

it can work and also not depending on how much effort each partner puts in

[FreyaRed]

No.
I like pragmatic and practical solutions and LDR isn't one of them.