It’s a weird question. But my ex-partner and I are very different. Also he comes from a more cultural background whereas I was raised in the states so our viewpoints and political views are different. He’s not my ideal type physically, literally the complete opposite of what I’d go for, and he is more so money oriented while I care about education— he does not value school. Also, I prefer someone who is charismatic during outings and gets along with my friends, but he doesn’t. However, he tries to treat me like a princess. Although he had put me through a lot of stress, (we were always arguing 3-4x a week) he does everything right in a relationship and is trying to fight to make sure I am happy in our relationship together.
However, I don’t know why I am not drawn to them anymore. He has emotionally manipulated me, and also has placed his problems on me, but he is working to fix himself and go save our relationship since I broken up with him for not having feelings with him.
I haven’t let him go because I care for him deeply, but I don’t know why my feelings for him aren’t mutual despite the fact that he does literally everything a woman could dream of. It makes me feel entitled, or I’m going to lose someone good. I am lost on how to proceed with our relationship moving forward, because we both care for each other deeply, however i don’t see myself in a relationship with him at the moment. Because I am young, and this is my first ever relationship. Is it wrong for me to feel this way? Does anyone have any advice? Thankyou guys!
However, I don’t know why I am not drawn to them anymore. He has emotionally manipulated me, and also has placed his problems on me, but he is working to fix himself and go save our relationship since I broken up with him for not having feelings with him.
I haven’t let him go because I care for him deeply, but I don’t know why my feelings for him aren’t mutual despite the fact that he does literally everything a woman could dream of. It makes me feel entitled, or I’m going to lose someone good. I am lost on how to proceed with our relationship moving forward, because we both care for each other deeply, however i don’t see myself in a relationship with him at the moment. Because I am young, and this is my first ever relationship. Is it wrong for me to feel this way? Does anyone have any advice? Thankyou guys!
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I forgot to mention too, he always says that I’m his soul mate and I shouldn’t give up on him. He believes that we have a lot of potential together.
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It's not uncommon to have different values, interests, and backgrounds than your partner, but it can be challenging to maintain a relationship when there are significant differences in these areas. It's important to consider what is truly important to you in a relationship, and whether your current partner aligns with those values and needs.
It's also important to consider the impact of past emotional manipulation and stress on your current feelings. It's possible that these experiences have affected your ability to connect with your partner, and that you may need time and space to heal and process your emotions.
It's important to be honest with yourself and your partner about your feelings and needs. If you don't feel a strong connection or attraction to your partner, it may be best to consider ending the relationship and focusing on your own personal growth and development. It's okay to prioritize your own needs and happiness, even if it means ending a relationship with someone who is good to you.
Remember, relationships should be based on mutual respect, love, and understanding, and it's important to prioritize these values in all of your interactions. Take time to reflect on what you truly want and need in a relationship, and don't be afraid to make choices that align with your values and priorities.
Sounds like you're being manipulated to stay in that relationship, fuck what he says, ask yourself this one question. Are you happy? If it's a no then leave. Which sounds like it is. It doesn't matter if every girl would want what you have, the question is if you want it. And you don't. Fuck what he says about you're his soul mate. Maybe you are but he isn't yours so leave. That's all there is too it. You're only trying to stay because of you caring for him. Which I understand I guess. But if you're not feeling it just leave. Unless you wanna waste some more years and then break up with him anyway