How do you know if someone is lying to you and is good at hiding it?

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jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I find people forget logic and common sense when they lie because lying is itself an irrational act. Like one girl claims I slept with 200 guys and then can’t explain why I rejected her boyfriend if I slept with 200 guys or why I would think sex with 200 guys feels different from six with 5 or 10 guys. People who lie, don’t consider all the implications of the scenarios they create so a logical analysis will prove they are liars.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

When things don’t add up and it becomes a pattern. That’s just who they are and whatever they say doesn’t mean anything anymore 😂. The thing about truth is, you don’t need to defend it. It will defend itself

RavVid · Answer

Let me guess. You are honest.

The first thing to realize- if you are honest - is that a liar is going to outgun you. They have way more experience then you do. Being honest you won't even think they might being. We tend to project ourselves on others. Honest people project honesty.

My first rule is something seems off it is usually be cause it is. We pick up a lot that doesn't find it's way to the neocortex. The unconcious mind might send red flags up the chain - our gut reaction/feminine intuition.

Second rule is never accuse. You are only telling a liar that you suspect them. If it is something you can go to a court on gather the evidence instead. If it is an injury like cheating don't even act differently let alone accuse.

I might be given a reason and a red flag pops up. A liar has made up a story and the honest person has just recounted facts. Come back to this story some time later. The honest person just repeats. The liar embellishes and makes the story more convincing. The story changes and that's the tell.

If it is cheating both the innocent and the guilty vigorously deny so there is no point accusing - you won't get a guilty plea. Your task is to assess as Judge and Jury and convict or dismiss in your own mind. They don't get a vote

dynamicyandere · Answer

People who are bad at lying get caught.

People who are good at lying get caught less often, by definition.

Good liars are charming, sharp, and witty.

That’s why it’s easy to get blindsided by them.

If they are good at hiding it, it’s not going to be obvious. Someone here said intuition, and I agree.

If everything seems to check out. But, your gut is telling you otherwise. As long has your gut has a good track-record of being right, trust your gut.

Lansolot · Answer

Not to sound old but it comes from personal experience. You could read about signs and signals and what someone might do when lying... but nothing beats experience. If you know someone well and they're lying you will notice something is slightly off, might not be able to pin point what. When you're younger you just think "oh it's just me" and you could be right, when you have experience you just... know. Sorry, not very helpful.

ohsheeT · Answer

It doesn't matter how good they are they usually tell on themselves and if you want to know all you have to do is pay attention look into their eyes and listen to what they don't say more than what they do say because that tells you everything and the truth always comes out one way or the other and always finds its way out

MementoMori777 · Answer

normally liars are full of contradictions because after enough lies they forget their previous ones cause clearly they think they are in the clear at that point and forget their lies so if you want to catch a liar, bring up a previous lie of theirs and by their reaction you can detect if they lied and you can do it with more than one but if they lied once, they will most likely do it again.

Sexiestjohnson · Answer

Ask yourself what they stand to gain by what they tell you and see where it lies in terms of purity, morality, fact and flawless love and wisdom.

If it goes against any of these precious stones, please and please, they are lying to you.
Lies seeks for one of three things, your life, your substance or your soul. If all these three are not being compromised, you are safe.

qqqqq0000 · Answer

Vague answers, tries to change the subject, they might appear calm but their heartbeat might be racing. Now this one’s weird but I've done it before. I was lying on my ex’s chest and i have been suspicious of him so we were having a calm fun conversation and out of nowhere i asked him a very specific but random question. His response sounded calm and had the “idgaf” tone but his heartbeat was racing faster. I knew he was lying right then and there.

catiecatie · Answer

So basically the story changes and you call them out on it. I have a friend that does this all the time! I called him out once and he didn’t talk to me for two years! Yeah what the hell is all I gotta say. But we are fine now.

Billlewis · Answer

I think one tell tale hint is when their stories are too perfect over and over again, and it seems too convenient for it to be true.

Sour-rose · Answer

Movements, and usually me having the knowledge. But i ain't sayin' nothing, just let them think they get away with that shi :)

Jendcheuebc · Answer

Read their body language as they’re fibbing. Especially if they look to their right. And if they’re fidgeting/messing with their hair/acting awkward.

Pyrofox · Answer

Too much or too little eye contact. IE: The extremes.

slatyb · Answer

There's no telling. Most people aren't that good at lying.

htmndg183 · Answer

Firstly you need to know that person well. Subtly pester them about it. If their story upto the smallest of the details is the same then probs its not a lie. Also body language and tone.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I know it, if I know them well enough as a person. Or sarcasm.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

They will sometimes use general terms and not be as specific. I get some people might forget but usually if people are telling the truth they will be far more specific about certain details.

exitseven · Answer

I could always tell my former boss w a s lying. His lips would be moving

bowenw · Answer

You probably don't know until you have time to check the facts.

Pudsmucker · Answer

Look them into their eyes the eyes will dilate. Unless they're a good liar. Their heart rate also goes up.

ChiTown33 · Answer

You don't have this problem if you just assume what somebody tells you is a lie 50% of the time. It's not scientific. But a majority of the people lie to you. If you just always operate from that assumption you're never disappointed.

_no_one_ · Answer

By observing how sleek they are with diverting attention from their lie.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No telling besides listening to your gut and knowing they’re full of shit

collie22 · Answer

When someone is trying to deceive we can use our wisdom a spirituality decrement from God.

LiamJHayden · Answer

If I suspect someone of lying about something I ask for details. Then a week or two later I ask to be reminded about whatever it is to see if the details are the same.

PointTaken · Answer

With all the shit I gone through, I don't believe it until I see it. Lol.

Kelly6 · Answer

That hard to tell, unless he/she is doing same again and again

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

If they are "good in hiding it" as you have mentioned, then most likely i would not know.

Manuel2 · Answer

Most women lie when they are smiling. Left look left too when you know the truth

eagle1951 · Answer

hard to remember everything in a lie over time they'll give it up that they were lying

itsalyssaagain · Answer

The truth always comes to surface.

Jazzy54 · Answer

When their story doesn’t add up.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Most liars don't look right at you when they lie

msc545 · Answer

Watch the eyes.

BeMuse · Answer

There are a lot of ways...

Alex8736 · Answer

lairs are easy to recognize

robocop666 · Answer

their body language and eyes

Abdulwahh · Answer

Learn to read body language

sheenagwapa · Answer

i have my dreams

Christoff92 · Answer

Because they're in denial and I can sense it 😏

Joshuabenitez · Answer

People lie to themselves not you.

TallAnon · Answer

Intuition

Shy_Steve · Answer

Easy, They are Confident.

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