@ForeverAngel1233467 I think you should count your blessings that he hasn't left you. Sounds like you're adding a lot of unnecessary stress on an already stressful situation. People can't control how you "feel".
@ForeverAngel1233467 Lol, by your own words he isn't "doing" anything. You've just created a this in your head. The fact that u believe you have the right to tell a grown man where who and for how long he she should look is troubling. Considering u said u need him for financial reasons you're very lucky this guy can't actually get these women.
2 things. He is either playing on your insecurities which someone that cares for you won’t do that or you’re unreasonable. In which case what are you both doing to fix the problem, if it’s nothing then my question is why not. Do you not care enough to try and get passed this?
No it's not his responsibility... it's yours... a man only looks at another woman when his wife is not satisfying him.. it's YOUR issue... my man never looks at any other woman, only me, because he doesn't have to seek gratification from another woman.. I take care of him. My boyfriend is spoiled. I give him whatever he wants. He does the same for me. It's called mutual respect. 😎🇨🇦
Fuck no. Do not put up with that type of shit. By you not saying anything, he's thinking your ok with it. He shouldn't be exchanging numbers with any girl unless there family members. He's being disrespectful to you and his newborn son.
People who use that tactic aim to prove they might suicide, which they assume is a crime, so that you have to tear yourself apart to rescue them. If suicide is legal where you are, leave them for good and find someone decent.
Being a crazy, demanding, jealous, bitchy woman will NOT keep a man...**shocking**. How about you actually try to keep his attention. He is probably pretty tired of your bullshit.
It's true. Then and there. My pride keeps getting the best of me every time i see him doing it and I just let it happen and get wound up after. But seems I'll need to do it instantly when I see it happening even if it seems crazy lol
Yes. I am a stay at home mum and he works. He doesn't help out with our son at all and his reason is he works. I do everything in the house. So yes if I had money I would run!! But I physically can't.
There are many organizations that help women in your situation. Have you looked into them? Can you maybe connect with one and take advantage of the help they offer?
good luck to you I've been myself in a bad spot and tbh still am so its not good for anyone to go through that i hope everything works out for you and if you ever want to vent or talk hit me up but good luck to you
i know the feeling trust me I've been doing this since last November so really if you ever just want to have a friendly chat and want to vent you can message me anytime
Communication hun, talk to him, he's your husband. If you don't, he won't be for long. Also, make a point to make yourself yummy for him, keep his eyes on you and he won't notice anyone else.
Me but that's not the point!!! I've told him to stop doing it when where together there is no reason for him to look back at another girl! We have already passed her wtf are you looking back
No but... he comes home to you... who's bed is he sleeping in? I'm going to guess yours? Just because he looks doesn't mean anything besides that he is a red blooded male with a sex drive... as long as that drive only leads to you, don't worry about it.
It is an instinctual holdover for a male to want to breed as many females as he can, but he is civilized enough to not... he loves YOU. Let him look, and next time you're walking along and you catch him looking, grab his ass and when he turns around kiss him and tell him he only needs eyes for you and you'll show him why later, then do... it'll put a spark in things and he will be so head spun he won't bother arguing... but remember, you're the he loves...
Just because I find sushi visually appealing doesn't mean I'm going to eat it, especially if i have a steak in front of me.
He does not like grabbing ass in public nor does he like too much PDA so this wouldn't work. And ok fair enough but like I've told him it bothers me and he's still doing it. Even if it's not such a big deal he should not do it, at least jnfront of me! When he's by himself blow yourself away but not next to me I do not like it
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@ForeverAngel1233467 I think you should count your blessings that he hasn't left you. Sounds like you're adding a lot of unnecessary stress on an already stressful situation. People can't control how you "feel".
Ok I am in the wrong for someone else's doings hahahah. Peice of
@ForeverAngel1233467 Lol, by your own words he isn't "doing" anything. You've just created a this in your head. The fact that u believe you have the right to tell a grown man where who and for how long he she should look is troubling. Considering u said u need him for financial reasons you're very lucky this guy can't actually get these women.
Go away
@ForeverAngel1233467 You literally tagged me. This is why you're lucky
It’s best to go see a professional marriage therapist
What's that gonna help
2 things. He is either playing on your insecurities which someone that cares for you won’t do that or you’re unreasonable. In which case what are you both doing to fix the problem, if it’s nothing then my question is why not. Do you not care enough to try and get passed this?
He just denies it but I can see with my own eyes. Honestly it's a lost cause
Jealousy is YOUR issue not his. Grow up. Stop having babies and take responsibility for your family.
It's his responsibility to stop look at other girls or making me think he's looking at others girls!
No it's not his responsibility... it's yours... a man only looks at another woman when his wife is not satisfying him.. it's YOUR issue... my man never looks at any other woman, only me, because he doesn't have to seek gratification from another woman.. I take care of him. My boyfriend is spoiled. I give him whatever he wants. He does the same for me. It's called mutual respect. 😎🇨🇦
leaving is not really an option at your age with children. Maybe over time you will just stop caring about it so much.
But I do care as it's plain disrespectful.
Fuck no. Do not put up with that type of shit. By you not saying anything, he's thinking your ok with it. He shouldn't be exchanging numbers with any girl unless there family members. He's being disrespectful to you and his newborn son.
People who use that tactic aim to prove they might suicide, which they assume is a crime, so that you have to tear yourself apart to rescue them.
If suicide is legal where you are, leave them for good and find someone decent.
Being a crazy, demanding, jealous, bitchy woman will NOT keep a man...**shocking**. How about you actually try to keep his attention. He is probably pretty tired of your bullshit.
And I bet your single 😂
And you are about to be.
That's great! Even better. What a huge relief if he was to break up with me
Tell you find it degrading. If he makes no effort to change, he doesn't care and you can proceed accordingly.
I've told him that and he says he never does that. He said if he was doing that then I would find stuff on his phone which I never do.
You need to call him out when it happens. His phone has nothing to do with his scoping out women in your presence.
It's true. Then and there. My pride keeps getting the best of me every time i see him doing it and I just let it happen and get wound up after. But seems I'll need to do it instantly when I see it happening even if it seems crazy lol
So he is being unfaithful then gaslighting you? That is abusive
Right!
Are you still financially stuck with him?
Yes. I am a stay at home mum and he works. He doesn't help out with our son at all and his reason is he works. I do everything in the house. So yes if I had money I would run!! But I physically can't.
There are many organizations that help women in your situation. Have you looked into them? Can you maybe connect with one and take advantage of the help they offer?
I'll try
You got this. One step at a time
What country are you in?
London
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
im sorry but that being said you need to find you a better man you should not have to go through that
Right!
good luck to you I've been myself in a bad spot and tbh still am so its not good for anyone to go through that i hope everything works out for you and if you ever want to vent or talk hit me up but good luck to you
I just feel emotionally drained and keep over thinking :(
i know the feeling trust me I've been doing this since last November so really if you ever just want to have a friendly chat and want to vent you can message me anytime
Thank you! What's gone on with you
i would much rather not put that out in the open too many people here to start judging
Who cares f what they think!
i just dont want to get into that here you can message me ill explain if you really want to know
hope to hear from you sometime
Communication hun, talk to him, he's your husband. If you don't, he won't be for long. Also, make a point to make yourself yummy for him, keep his eyes on you and he won't notice anyone else.
I have communicated with him many times and I do look after myself I was looking my best yesterday. Full makeup , nice clothes. It's not that trust me
He denies everything
Who does he come home to every night?
Me but that's not the point!!! I've told him to stop doing it when where together there is no reason for him to look back at another girl! We have already passed her wtf are you looking back
No but... he comes home to you... who's bed is he sleeping in? I'm going to guess yours? Just because he looks doesn't mean anything besides that he is a red blooded male with a sex drive... as long as that drive only leads to you, don't worry about it.
It is an instinctual holdover for a male to want to breed as many females as he can, but he is civilized enough to not... he loves YOU. Let him look, and next time you're walking along and you catch him looking, grab his ass and when he turns around kiss him and tell him he only needs eyes for you and you'll show him why later, then do... it'll put a spark in things and he will be so head spun he won't bother arguing... but remember, you're the he loves...
Just because I find sushi visually appealing doesn't mean I'm going to eat it, especially if i have a steak in front of me.
He does not like grabbing ass in public nor does he like too much PDA so this wouldn't work. And ok fair enough but like I've told him it bothers me and he's still doing it. Even if it's not such a big deal he should not do it, at least jnfront of me! When he's by himself blow yourself away but not next to me I do not like it
Just do it once... it'll spin his head
tell him what he is doing to you and that it upsets you
I have told him and he Denys it saying he never saw any girl
most of us men look at girls but yes we don't allways see them lol
Yes but I've spoke to him and told him I don't like it
i got no advice for married folks. yo picked him and he picked you
Sounds like a jerk.. what would he do if he “caught “ you flirting or sending sexy pics to someone else? I volunteer to be the “other guy”. ..!
A bit random question but what does your husband do for work?
He's a builder
Another random question sorry, are you Australian?
Nope I'm not
Oh okay never mind. Sorry for being random af. Thought you were somebody that I might know 😅😂
No worries 😂
Don't get jealous?
Haha. Yes that's what I keep telling myself but it's easier said then done
I'm sorry but its time for you to move on
If you read the post properly I cannot right now!
Divorce asap
I would love too but I literally have 0 money!
Get some money from divorce. Does he have money?
He has his work money but he's self employed! No assets
Ask your mother if you can come back for a while?
For a while? I have a nearlt 2 year old son. It would be a big burden for them financially I mean.
You can stay with your parent and get a job and leave the baby home with them?
Not possible both work and don't wanna quit their jobs. I am on my own!