Guys, If your live in boyfriend suddenly takes your relationship status down off of Facebook after 4 and no a half years what would you think? ?

[Birdie022]

He and I have had our own jobs, bank accounts, vehicles, but he does continue to seek out random women that he has had past relationships with. They broke up with him. I have the feeling like I’m being strung along and no matter how many times I try to give him the opportunity to tell me he that he is done in our relationship, he does not. Maybe I should walk away because I don’t need lies and deception. I want a real relationship. I have told him in the beginning I don’t play games. I am not into drugs and I’ve been working on bettering myself.(college, working out) He has currently been in a recovery program for substance abuse.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. You could, perhaps, save him from the big, bad wolf, but you can't save him from himself.

2. He isn't going to say goodbye to you until he finds another woman who gives him an ultimatum to which he submits. In the meanwhile, you are easy and convenient and he probably enjoys the sex with you.

3. Why do you need HIM to say goodbye? It is YOUR obligation to make good decisions for yourself and you have abdicated that responsibility.

[Finchie40]

He changed his status because he is up to no good period and keeping his options opened , He is clearly stringing you along,, he truly doesn’t value you or love you if he is reaching out to ex gf’s etc. He just likes the convenience of you , thatMs why he won’t dump you because he wants his cake and wants to eat it to , My advice is to stop wasting your time with a guy like thiis and find yourself someone that truly values you and appreciates you and respects you, that would stand by your side through the good times and bad , you will never experience true love staying with a guy like this. I know this is a tough decision because deep down inside you think he will change and be a better man for you but sadly it’s not going to change , He just considers you an option while he is weighing his options , My advice is to kick him to the curb where he belongs , He doesn’t love you he loves himself

[BobSansMal]

Don't walk, run!

Impulse control problems don't only result in substance abuse, but bleed over to other areas also.

It is foolish for one to think one can "fix" someone. They are how they are. They might be able to become whom you want for a short periods of time, but will soon spring back to their natural state.

[cosmosis181]

If I had a relationship-which I don't because I haven't arrived in Mexico yet-I wouldn't be on social media at all. I'd be with her face to face, going places, enjoying times together. Social media wouldn't be in my life at all. If it's a focal point... and this is just my opinion... then I think the focus is on the wrong thing. And when I mean focal point... I mean, for either of you. A personal relationship between 2 people isn't the rest of the world's business, in my book.

[spartan55]

Sounds like you picked a winner. And stop thinking what you see on social media means anything. It's a false reality.

[Sixgunsound]

He is using you to get the benefits of a relationship without having to work for one. As soon as he got back in contact with exes you should have left. He is absolutely stringing you along.

[Staximus]

Wake up and smell the coffee, lady. It's been 4 1\2 years. That bum isn't going to get off the dope and commit. Move on and get on with your life already.

[Drumlin2001]

It dosen't sound promising. Up to you if you keep wasting your time or move on

[Sanser]

It seems u really need to talk with him about this...

[RHK36]

I would think why is a 49 yr old still dating broken people expecting something different.

[Alex8736]

If it's their place I'd pack and leave without reason as they delete status without reason

[shades777]

i would say who gives f, did break up in real life? no, ok. let it tf go

[TallAnon]

Sounds like you need to have a chat about it with him. Talk.

[In_Trance]

Nothing. Get off his social media

[Birdie022]

Lol… right

[OddBeMe]

Yeeeaaaaahhh

[Anonymous]

Id want to know why.

[Birdie022]

Exactly. From my perspective it doesn’t seem like much, because what’s good for the goose is good for the gander. If he can play dumb, then so can I. I figure we can hold out until one of us simply decides to walk away. Perfect for me because some people would get all judge like and start pointing fingers. Naturally I did not share every detail of our relationship. Don’t need to air out how he has done me dirt. ( meaning all the traumatic events due to his drug abuse). We can all sit back and play the victim. Or we can boldly decide to rise above the ignorance we see clearly before us. It’s how one perceives it.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for the reply.

[thatbobguy500]

I’d leave him