Does anyone else still keep in contact with ex's?

[Anonymous]

So I still keep in contact with a few ex's. Only the the nice ones, not the assholes. Some were boyfriends, others were fuck buddies.

We don't speak a lot but occasionally on social media I will check in with them. I've got a boyfriend of 2 years and he gets annoyed by it. An ex messaged me asking for sex and he saw it. Obviously I said no but he doesn't think I should talk to him anymore.

I'm very open honest and loyal and would never cheat but suppose me and my boyfriend don't work out? I'm sure we will but if not, I'll need sex! Sounds bad I know.

[8UniquelyBoring8]

It's understandable that you have maintained friendships with some of your exes, but it's important to also consider your current boyfriend's feelings. From what you've shared, it seems like your boyfriend is uncomfortable with you talking to your exes, and seeing a message like that from one of them can definitely be upsetting.


It's important to communicate openly with your boyfriend about why you feel it's important to maintain these relationships, but also recognize that if it's causing him distress, you might need to reconsider the value of these relationships and whether they are worth creating conflict in your current relationship. It's also important to remember that if you and your boyfriend were to break up, there are other ways to find companionship and meet your sexual needs than to potentially complicate things by sleeping with exes.

[Asker]

Yes you are correct. I struggle with it because I don't see them as ex's really. I was never in a relationship with most of them. The one who sends me messages asking for sex, iv known for 20 years. We are friends who have always slept together when iv been single. My previous relationship lasted 14 years and he was constantly messaging me the same stuff then also. Its just him. My boyfriend says iv complicated friendships by having sex and this guy should show me and my relationship respect by backing off. My boyfriend is the most amazing man iv ever met but should I really have to cut off a long time friend. To me, sex is sex. Means nothing.

[DizzyDesii]

At least you admit to keeping your exes around for backup sex. I assume most do but won't admit it. An ex is an X for me. Been there, done that, ready to see whats next. I dont like to revert back and repeat the same mistakes when I can improve or perhaps make a new one. I don’t want to be anything with exes, not fck buds, not friends, Even if we end on a good note, I will find a way to sabotage that because I just don’t want my past peeps apart of my future. When the relationship goes out the window, he’s goes with it. Jump or else get pushed

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Show your boyfriend some respect and stop talking to your exes.
They were past lovers or men who have been inside you. That's the problem.
If you love your boyfriend, then he should be the only guy in the world to you. He can't be that when you're checking up on his predecessors or acknowledging their existence at all.

If you don't have what it takes to do that for your man, you two should break up. The fact that he doesn't like it tells me you both have different values and it won't last much longer anyway

[Sjoerd85]

Woman usually say "lets stay friends" when they break up... I have had it said to me several times. They never make it true; in 100% of cases, I would be ghosted after. So no; no contact with ex's after breakups. And to add to that; even if an ex contacted me now (with me being married now), I would not be interested in maintaining contact. Sure I'll answer to incoming questions, but I would not put any effort into maintaining further contact, and ofcourse I would tell my wife about it.

[AviatorTom]

My ex-wife and I still exchange text messages on important days: birthdays, Mothers Day, Fathers Day, Christmas.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Dumb

[Avicenna]

I have to keep in touch with the ones I have kids with, but I'm good friends with another ex.

[Anonymous]

For me an ex is an ex for a reason. As a general rule, I agree with it. Relationships usually end due to incompatibility between two people.

The problems that ended the relationship in the first place are likely to be a problem again should you try to rekindle things in the future.

I feel sorry for your boyfriend of 2 years because he'll have in the back of his mind that you could walk 🚶‍♀️ out on him at any time or whether you've caught up and had sex with any of your exes.

You're creating unnecessary problems in your current relationship.

[RespectfulGuy]

I'm separated, single, but still regularly keep in touch with her.

Ya... Bad idea, both of us didn't move on.

We can't agree on anything in life, except... Haha sex.

And we both confessed to each other, we're still each other's best 🤣

I know many here won't understand. But I feel so "understood" when I read your question.

Nice to know that I'm not the only weird one here on GaG 😂😂😂

[comekitty]

No, I don't still talk to any exes but one day out of the clear blue I had one send a friend request on social media.

We're both married so I'm not sure why he sent the request and we never interact except he'll wish me a happy birthday every year. I acknowledge the sentiment but I never return the gesture. 🙂

[Fireguy17]

After 20ish years my ex wife called me.
It was a bit awkward at first.
Now we are fine, message each other a few times a month, wish each other happy birthdays, holidays, but that is it.
She lives halfway across the country so we really don't see each other.

[Anonymous]

Oh man, I have exs in close with still, emotionally as well with one of them and she is beautiful (we are both single) and recently one of my friends and I were talking and I told him about how amazing she is and showed him what she looks like and now he wants me to introduce him to her!

[DextroShade]

So you are going to push your boyfriend away because you don't want to let go of your backup dicks? Any contact with exes is completely unacceptable, and you sound incredibly damaged and insecure. He is right to be annoyed by this and he would be better off without you.

[ManOnFire]

I don't talk to any of my exes at all. No need to. I long moved on, and they're out there doing whatever they do. I already get sex when I want or need it, so reaching out to an ex isn't necessary.

[Anonymous]

You probably just like the attention. Maybe find a guy who doesn't care about it or maybe a guy who does the same thing. Definitely dont try to gaslight a boyfriend for being uncomfortable with your actions and respect his decision when he realizes he can find a better woman.

[Opinion Owner]

I dont keep in contact with my exes though, i dont need to nor do i want to. I know i can have one of them at least if i ever need sex. Guys are desperate, so you dont need to be as desperate as they are (like you are now) because theyre always gonna be there whether or not you keep talking to them, lol.

[Anonymous]

Yes, with only one, the last one. We broke up because I received a scholarship to study abroad and it didn't work long-distance. Our schedules were not alligned and it was hard for us to communicate. Now I'm back and I'm single and I think she might be single too. I'm not very confident it could work out again, but who knows.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope.

If I didn't get along with them, why keep them around? And if I did get along with them, why break up?

The reason that what you're doing sounds bad is because it IS bad. People should not be having casual sex.

[Asker]

Why not. Casual sex is great when you're single. We all have needs

[Anonymous]

That depends on them. I have no problem remaining friends with an ex but the feeling isn't always mutual. I don't know how to stop caring about someone. But if the ending was toxic I might have to cut them off for my own protection. So in that case I just wish them well, pray for them and move on with my life.

[MemeSupreme]

only with one because our chemistry carried over into a friendship. it's pretty nice ending a relationship on good terms and talk about everything without it getting so personal

[Anonymous]

No because old feelings might surface again. And it's very easy to be jealous because they are not with you anymore and if they date somebody else that is a very tough pill to swallow.

[RingOfFire]

I keep in contact with all of the significant exes I have had in my life going back as far as high school... except one who I don't because I think her husband may be offended by it and don't want to interfere with their relationship.

[CuriousMufuxka]

I do not. Women try that out as like a backup sometimes in case the next guy don't work out. My thing for like the past 10 years has been when it's over, break contact.

[TrillXHippy]

I don’t want anything to do with any girl that still talks to their ex. I’m not gonna acknowledge what else you said. I’m going to just keep it to myself

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's stupid as fuck! 🤣🤣🤣 Be honest if your boyfriend's ex hit him up to guck you be annoyed too. I don't know why women post shit like that when you know damn well if the shoe was on the other foot you'd lose it. Smfh

[Asker]

Not true. I trust him. If his ex wanted to sleep with him I'd understand. He's good in bed

[Bklynbadboy12]

So you saying you'd honestly be OK with your boyfriend keeping in touch with his ex girlfriend trying to fuck him? You know that's a lie and it's inappropriate for you to keep in touch with your exes especially since they still want to fuck you

[Asker]

You don't know me so how can you say It's a lie. I'm very open minded and not the jealous type. If my boyfriend slept with someone else I would be pissed off but as long as he told me instead of keeping it a secret, I would be able to deal with it.
I send him pictures of hot girls all the time. Iv seen photos of his exes and some are hot... iv no issues.

[Bklynbadboy12]

If that's how you see a relationship then why even be in one just be friends with benefits instead cause the way your approaching it

[rachel776]

they usually turn into once-in-awhile friends with benefits