Before i start i wanna say i know what i got into with doing a long distance relationship. Please i dont need comments like ldr is waste of time, i am looking for real help and advice.
this girl and i have been talking for almost 4 months. Until about a week and a half ago, it was honestly maybe the best and healthiest relationship id ever had. We could talk for hours on end, phone calls, playing games, texting every day. She has come across very genuine and honest and just overall it has been a great time.
all of a sudden the last week or so i notice a change. Her texts have become less frequent and more dry. One day i asked her if everything is ok and she short of shrugged it off and said yes of course haha.
the thing I thought is maybe she lost interest. But then after a couple of days she calls me. Unfortunately i missed her call because i was out cycling with my sister. I said sorry i missed call. Next day i ask her if she's able to talk later that night but she says she's sleeping over at her friends house. I ask what about tomorrow and she says her friend might come sleepover to her house. I thought whatever, part of me even thinks it sounds like a lie. But i dont get upset. Then today again i get a text from her, a little joke more in line with how we usually talk when things are good. So we continue the text convo a bit. I ask how her day was, then she asks how mine was to which i respond and then suddenly she ghosts for almost 2 hrs before responding - again very dry text.
im very frustrated because i feel like something is off but she denied it, but she also keeps initiating contact with me, then pulling away, and so on and so on.
weve talked almost everyday for the last 3 months and i feel this is very uncharacteristic of her. I don't know what to do because i can't continue if she continues like this, but i also dont want to make a hasty decision as i truly do like her.
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All you can do if you want her is stay positive and charming as I see it. Don't be dramatic and stressful if you want her. People phase in and out of interests with these online things. But the most inviting thing I think any of us can see when we get absorbed in the real world and return to this online one is to see a very friendly and inviting text message, and the last thing we usually want to see and want to put off for ages is some heavy and dramatic one.
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@strateguy632 Opposite like you think it's better for him to be dramatic or demanding?
I'm not saying this is the case, so don't freak out... But to me it sounds like it's possible someone else is in the picture?
So you think that could be a possibility?
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