My boyfriend is great in so many ways. And I don’t want to be with anyone else, and hope to even marry him (we’ve been together 2 years.) I’m 37, he’s 35, but he’s still really childish around sex and romance. For example, when he’s in the mood, he lets me know by saying things like, “I gots a case of need to seem em” referring to my breasts. And then when he kisses me, it’s like smashing faces with a lot of sucking on my lip. And he considers dinner at Red Robin to be a date. We’ve had a lot of conversations around this, but nothing seems to be helping. I’ve tried describing what I would like, and nothing. He has these really teenage-boy ideas of what women want, and I’m just really at a loss. I remember telling him once that there was a cute necklace with his initial on it that would be a really nice gift (it was like a $20 necklace, nothing fancy!) after about 8 months of me, not dropping hints but flat out asking him, he finally told me that he thought he shouldn’t get it because I told him I wanted it, like he was supposed to get me something different? Like, we are grown ups, I’m not out here “testing you” or something. I’ve expressed other desires, too, like going dancing, getting flowers at least once, coming home to candles and a bottle of red. I get it, they’re cliche and probably the last thing a guy wants to do, but I feel like there is just no romance. When we talked about the lack of intimacy last time, he suggested we play Minecraft together… if that helps paint the picture. I just don’t know what to do. This is the one area that is seriously lacking, but it’s HUGE. Please please help
I love my boyfriend, but he doesn’t know how to be sexy or romantic. He’s a great guy, but he’s a bit childish in this area. How do I tell him?
