Have you ever had a LTR with someone whose native language was not also your native language? (Page 2)

OlderAndWiser · 2023-07-24T01:03:06Z

My fiancée is from China and Mandarin is her native language. Her English vocabulary is very good although her pronunciation of American English follows Mandarin rules rather than American English rules. She has taught me a few expressions in Mandarin: hello, I love you, have you lost your mind? But she acts as if I am incapable of learning her language and she is not interested in teaching me. Every evening, she speaks on the phone - in Mandarin - with family and friends. Maybe she doesn't want me to understand what they are saying, but I think she may just be insecure about her ability to teach me Mandarin. I may purchase language CD's and listen to them every weekday when I am going to and coming from work. The language thing is frustrating, but. . . she is the kindest, most gentle soul I have ever known, I love her, and she loves me. What is your experience dating someone whose native language is not YOUR native language?

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worldscolide Follow
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I did while I was in college, she was from Japan, her English was not very good, but I had zero issues understanding her.

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- worldscolide
  
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  I do speak a bit of Japanese as a result
  
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When there is no picture, we can only feel it with our hearts.

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I never dated anyone besides Americans. I really had a pretty boring life

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- midnightmoon05
  
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  Never too late to stir the pot. Wink wink…I don’t mean to go date someone who speaks another language…that would be disrespectful to you and your marriage.
  
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http://duolingo.com

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I have a friend who speaks Spanish and one who speaks hungarian. I'm trying to learn both

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No. Somehow, this just reminded me of the Adam Sandler movie Spanglish.

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I've been there. My 2nd wife was Vietnamese. She tried teaching me but it wouldn't stick no matter how hard I tried.

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kinda never dated but yes i am in a LTR with someone who does not speak my native language.

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I like your idea! I really think you should try to learn!
(And then surprise her. Lol)

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What is your objective? Obviously you don't need too in order to talk to her but I could see it would be good to pick up some Mandarin. Also there will be cultural aspects.

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Always
I was14 when moved to another country
My whole adult life is like that

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LovingJo Follow
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Who's the guy, whoever he is, I want him!! 🤣😜❤️

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  OlderAndWiser
  
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  Just a picture in the results when I googled "Asian wife American husband"
  
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- LovingJo
  
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  😂 😂 😂 😂
  
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I lived with somone for a time who spoke both Spanish and Englis, with Spanish being her native language. It was not a problem although I don't speak Spanish much.

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I mean, I’d like to date a hispanic girl in the future for sure

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I've only dated women who spoke English

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Yes.

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- LaFemmeFatale_1
  
  9 mo
  I loved him more than I loved anyone who spoke the same language as me. He was from China too.
  
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I'm learning Bisaya now

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Twenty years of marriage. Bilingual kids

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voted e

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Noup.

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