Is this gaslighting?

[Anonymous]

My partner is manipulative and not long ago one of his friends stopped me in the street and told me that my partner told him he had cheated on me ( some time ago ) he told me that I should get myself
Checked, he also said that my partner told him what he done with the other female and was almost boasting about it. I asked my partner and he denied all of this. But the a few nights ago he said to me he had found men’s boxers and if he found out there was ever another man with me he would go to prison for harming the man, and i would have to love the rest of my life with the guilt? Can i have your opinions please is he trying to
Thrown the blame onto me because deep down he is guilty?

[Anonymous]

Kind of. ﾠ

[BoobSlayer]

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[Anonymous]

Do you trust his friend or your partner more? I personally would ask for proof from his friend before immediately confronting your man about it. He’ll for sure deny everything (even if it’s true) unless you have proof. Some cheaters do end up projecting to their partner and become overly suspicious or paranoid that they’re getting cheated on but some people are just very insecure and riddled with trust issues to begin with… so there’s really no way to tell from your man’s behavior unless he’s been acting shady for a while

[Asker]

He’s done a lot of bad things to me
(My partner I mean) we also have two children together, like I cannot trust him on so many levels, none of my familly like my partner, and within the past year he has thrown me and my two children out the house also, it’s been a very difficult road. He’s done a lot of things to me that I don’t think you would do to someone you loved.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh no he sounds like a walking red flag... You deserve to be with someone who doesn't manipulate you or kick you out of the house! I've dealt with guys who like to flip things around to put the blame on me for their mistakes and I think those kind of people would never change, not unless they get professional help. They seem to lack the capability to self reflect and instead always blame the world but never themselves.

[Oliverlogan263]

Based on the limited information provided, it does sound like your partner may be engaging in some manipulative and gaslighting behaviors. Here are a few signs that stand out:

- Telling a friend you should get checked for STIs, implying he cheated, but then denying this to you directly. This could be an attempt to make you question your own reality.

- Threatening harm to any potential other men in your life. This sounds like an intimidation tactic to make you feel scared and controlled.

- Accusing you of cheating with no evidence, and warning you'd have to live with guilt. More gaslighting - making up a scenario to put blame on you.

The pattern of denial, threats, accusations and attempts to make you question your own memory or perspective are common gaslighting techniques. I would be very concerned about this manipulative behavior. Consider talking to someone you trust or a domestic abuse counselor to get more perspective. Focus on your own instincts and don't let him make you feel crazy - you are perceiving some real red flags.

[Asker]

Thank you, I have been with this man since I was 19 years old, I am 33 now. He has said many things to me regarding other men etc sometimes telling me
He would also hurt me if I ever had another man. Thank you for your advice, it is important to me.

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re very welcome and I understand too … you’re doing the right thing walking away and having nothing to do with him again

[Oliverlogan263]

Cause dat fool crazy

[Oliverlogan263]

And protect yourself for it to never get to that point for he have to be crazy to put his hands on you… just leave him and block him right afterwards havin nun else to do with him