Should I move on already and ask her out? (Page 2)

Anonymous · 2023-07-29T11:58:59Z

I really like a girl and I know she also wants me to ask her for a date. She is kind, cute, and most importantly, I feel she likes me as well from the way she talks with/about me. We were classmates in the college and I really like to ask her out. The only major problem that I have is my former crush. It dates back to the high school days (2014). I was DEEPLY in love with her. She was the one for me (or at least that is what a 17 year old foolish boy claimed). She was the top student, knew three languages, a piano player in a highly educated and wealthy family. But in the end, destiny didn't want us to be together and she moved to another country to attend a high ranking college. I'm helpless. I still cannot move on. I keep remembering my school day's crush although I haven't met her over the past 6 years. Even there are nights which I dream being with her in a world which is nothing like the situation I'm currently in. This bothers me a lot. I know I will never be with my crush ever again since she is gone forever and getting married soon. On the other hand, it makes me compare the new girl to my crush. When I see her struggling for an exam, I cannot help thinking my former crush could have done it easily since she was way more talented. Or when I talk about fan fiction or memes or a joke and then I have to explain more I keep thinking she is not sharp enough on these things as my crush was getting them at a glance. She is not as wealthy as my former crush and her parents are not as educated and high rank people as my crush's parents and so on. I feel like an asshole since she is very kind to me, but that things cross my mind and I can't help it. I don't know what to do or even ask her out or not. She does not deserve to be compared with someone like this. Every human being deserves to be the #1 person in his/her partner's mind. My biggest fear is asking her out then rejecting her unconsciously. I don't want to ruin her life.

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Like the song says " If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with".

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After 10 years move on and ask her out instead of pining for an unobtainable girl.

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I think you should let it go. It is too little, too late.

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9 years is too much...

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Move on

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