My girlfriend hasn't been very intimate with me lately, what do I do?

[Dantec2024]

My girlfriend and I used to be intimate maybe a few times a week when we would see each other. But she's slowly stopped wanting to do it as often, which is fine. I just feel like an asshole for missing being intimate? She recently had surgery and we don't even kiss the same way as before and I just feel so alone and lost. I've been going over to her house almost every day to help her and bring her things that she likes to do such as small crafts or board games she likes. I just feel so hurt all the time and I'm scared that if I tell her she'd feel horrible about herself. I just wish things would go back to the way they were, even without sex. I just want her to kiss me and hold me the same way as before. I feel like an ass about all of this because she's always been so attentive with me whenever I would feel out of it

Updates

9 mo

She had a minimally invasive hip surgery

[Anonymous]

use your hand for now... she just had surgery, dude... chill out.

if she didn't just have surgery, then yeah sure i'd be concerned. but come on.

[Dantec2024]

I mean all I can use is my hand. I'm trans lmao

[Opinion Owner]

how do you expect people to know these things when you don't specify them in the question?

[Dantec2024]

I didn't think it would really matter?

[Opinion Owner]

it doesn't.

[Dantec2024]

Exactly

[NewgodOmega]

Go extreme mgtow
There is safety in two things only
Mgtow and death

[Dantec2024]

What's mgtow?

[NewgodOmega]

Google it, coz my version is too dark and I dont want to spread that kind darkness around I want the world and all to suffer so you have to find it for yourself

[Christoff92]

Were you to harsh with her especially when it comes to the bedroom?

[Dantec2024]

Never, I never do anything extreme

[Christoff92]

Maybe her personal grief since you mentioned her having surgery.

[Dantec2024]

I guess, I don't want to do anything super physical with her because I'm scared to hurt her hip. She's just been less and less intimate. Even before the surgery

[Christoff92]

Ok. So it was the surgery. Let her heal. And she'll come around

[BoopBoopBeep]

What surgery? She donated bone marrow... that's different from "they took off a skin tag". Either way you gotta talk to her about it.

[OlderAndWiser]

What kind of surgery?

[OlderAndWiser]

She would need to move her hips if you were having sex, and even "minimally invasive" surgery on a major joint is a really big deal, but maybe she could give you "a hand" with your problem.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Hump your fist bro!

[Dantec2024]

Huh?

[tfan1]

Talk to her about it. Communication is key

[Anonymous]

GHOST HER 👻

[Dantec2024]

That's a terrible idea

[In_Trance]

talk to her