Guys, how would you feel if your wife/girlfriend didn't want to carry herself but liked if you did for protection🤔?

[Anonymous]

Bad.. she should be able to carry

It's okay

I don't wanna carry either..

[ShadezMcgee]

I would prefer if my girlfriend carried (she does) but for the sake of the question I will answer as if she didn't.

I wouldn't fault her for not wanting to carry. Concealed carry is a privilege people should have the right to have, especially now that crime is pretty much unpunished in a lot of cities. It is a responsibility of protecting not only yourself, but others as you carry and use the gun if it comes down to it. You need to be able to accept the fact you can kill someone and potentially put others at risk if you engage in the threat that comes. I accepted that risk and am willing to kill with my weapon if it comes down to it as I would rather bear that burden over her, but like I said, she is likeminded and accepted the same like me.

I personally find it foolish to wait for police to help these days despite the fact I support them, they aren't going to protect me at the end of the day. They will just be stuck trying to solve the crime in the midst of others or my murder should I die. Would rather save them the trouble and deal with it myself.

[Asker]

yes i get that its important to be able to protect yourself, glad your girlfriend is comfortble carrying

[ShadezMcgee]

Helps that she is a cop too, but yeah. I am glad she is too.

[Asker]

wow ok yes

[zeitgeist057]

It's pepper spray for both of us. I typically get it for my girlfriends if they don't have it already. I have a girlfriend now who carries a knife and I don't really like it bc it increases it being used against her and also increases her odds of doing something that gets her in trouble. I don't make a big deal about it though because it makes her feel safe and the likelihood she will ever pull/use it is very, very slim.

I feel more or less the same way about a gun; the risk is greater than the reward. It's so incredibly unlikely a gun will be useful in a situation and it just increases your exposure and risk to getting hurt either by accident or on purpose, by someone else or by yourself. I know personally if I had a gun in the past there are several situations I would have probably shot someone and be in prison now, and maybe some situations where I would have committed suicide with a gun. Owning a gun increases your risk of death and injury.

[Asker]

i completely understand what you are saying but i think the reason why more men are responcebile is because more men carry guns

[zeitgeist057]

maybe. I don't know. I carry pepper spray and have never had to use it. I used to have a knife almost always but I never used it as a weapon, I liked it as a handy tool for all sorts of little things.

[Asker]

okay i see, is there a reason you dont like her using a knife compared to you?

[zeitgeist057]

Her knife is not a "tool" type knife. It's a serrated raven's claw type weapon thing. And yes, compared to me, I think she is one more likely to try to use it as a weapon if/when she gets scared and two more likely to get it taken away from her by whoever scared her in the first place.

I have been in confrontations while carrying my knife and while aware of it, was not remotely close to pulling it even when violence was threatened; I'd rather keep a fight "weapons free" for legal, health/wound, and financial reasons.

[zeitgeist057]

she just carries hers "for protection". She's not opening packages or popping beer caps with it.

[Asker]

yes makes sense!

[zeitgeist057]

I think pepper spray is much better for both of us and just everyone in general. It's non-lethal, can be used at distance, and incapacitates/deters people enough that you can get away from them pretty easily.

What about you? Are you asking this question bc you don't want to carry but want your partner to?

[Asker]

agree!

Yes i would prefer he did, i would be okay with carrying pepper spray tho

[zeitgeist057]

I have thought about carrying a gun but just thinking about the possible situations and looking at the statistics, I don't think it's a great idea. I'm thinking at most someone will want to rob you and for that I would rather give them the $200 I have on me and split, than worry about facing a court or paying hospital bills or whatever other drama. For women, I think the main concern is rape, and for that, burning eyes and nostrils kills a boner pretty quick.

[Asker]

yes i see your points they are valid!

[demonics]

Replace "gun deaths" with suicides. Run the numbers. Then subtract those numbers from the original data.

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The Bill Gates endorsement is just *chefs kiss*

[AviatorTom]

She can do whatever she wants. I know several women who don't want to carry because the weapon could be used against them... to me, that makes sense.

[Asker]

Okay nice!

Do you carry?

[BadApple69]

J wouldn't actually feel bad but I think it's more important for women to train with a firearm and eventually carry. I carry to protect my girl, the people around me and myself. But I'm not always there to protect her.
We guys might get beat up, maybe robbed but we won't get raped.
Rape is traumatizing to the point some women never get over it. The one sure way to stop a rape is to pull out a gun. If he walks away... Good... If he walks towards you you squeeze (don't jerk the trigger). Rape stopped.
So ladies... Learn to shoot. And when you are comfortable carry.

[Asker]

okay i see, what if she would be okay with pepper spray?

[MrOracle]

I've dated a couple of girls who were interested enough in self-protection to learn to shoot, but none who would consider carrying. Some were a little afraid initially, but pretty much all of them eventually liked the idea of me being armed and able to protect them.

[Asker]

Okay and you were Okay with that?

[MrOracle]

Yes. While it would be great to have a girl who was comfortable carrying, you have to not only have skills, but you need to be confident in those skills (among them: when you can and cannot legally shoot, and when you must stop once you've started) if you're going to carry. Not many girls are that committed. It would be nice if more were, but at least I expect her to obey my commands in an emergency without question, because there won't be time to argue. I will take the lead, and I need her to get to safety so that I don't have to be distracted worrying about her and can take on the threat without distractions.

[Asker]

Yes I see. Well makes snese. Good that you carry!

[Flatmanlewis]

I carry daily. My wife will carry about half the time when she’s alone; and she almost never carries when she’s with me. She’s particularly feminine and feels like concealed carry is hard when wearing “girly clothes”. Also, so long as I’m around I’ll handle our defense should something come up. It’s worth noting that I’m highly trained and a decent tactician so her faith in my abilities is grounded in more than just a hopeful wish.

[Asker]

Okay thats good. Then you dont mind her not carrying?

[demonics]

Being a human shield SHOULD be voluntary, not mandatory. Thats what that means to me. Especially if we have kids. What? Are the kids just fcked if i'm not with them? "Whelp, daddy isn't with us, so I guess we're dying, getting kidnapped etc."

[Asker]

Ok so she has to carry?

[demonics]

Yes. Preferably on her body, not in a purse. https://imgflip.com/i/7xwxw8

[Asker]

Alright then

[BoopBoopBeep]

With some outfits it's hard to get a holster in there, so I get it, but I'm not always there, so to the best of her ability logistically it'd be a lot better if she did.

[Asker]

I see so it would be a major turn off?

[BoopBoopBeep]

I wouldn't say MAJOR... I'm understanding of the fact that the skintight sheer dress is hard to put a.50AE in. If you're scared of guns we're not going to get along anyway so that's already out. There's a bunch in my house and you're going to have a meltdown if you ever step inside? Plus if you come home and the door is kicked in are you going to wait for me to show up? When I'm away on business? Somebody needs to check on the rescue kittens and cops are 30 minutes out.

[Asker]

Loll okay. No id like him to carry tho I just dont trust myself with it

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well then THAT'S a major turnoff because... you have... whatever it is that you have going on that makes you feel that way.

[Asker]

Okay then:)

[Peter_Penetrator]

That is the beautiful thing about the United States when it comes to the 2nd amendment.


Freedom to choose.

[Asker]

Yess

[MementoMori777]

I wouldn't have a problem with it, I already carry and I'd be honored to be the one to put the bullet in whoever tries to mess with her 🤗

[Asker]

Okay, good. I'm sure your future wife will appreciate that:)

[MementoMori777]

Lol probably, that's of course if she doesn't want to carry but I don't know how she will be

[Asker]

How she will be how?

[MementoMori777]

Like she might carry for all I know rn 😂

[Asker]

Oh haha yeah maybe.. only God knows

[MementoMori777]

Indeed

[Asker]

:-)..

[Asker]

Lol meant : - ) but it became a smiley smh

[MementoMori777]

It's you smiley isn't it 😂

[Asker]

uhm i can not confirm anything.

[MementoMori777]

Lol.

[genericname85]

where i live, that's not even a question xD only certain security people, hunters and police are even allowed to carry. and not even all of these are allowed to publicly carry.

[Asker]

Okay cool! Where do you live?

[genericname85]

Germany.

[Asker]

Ok cool

[genericname85]

you can legally own firearms here but you are only allowed in a gun safe at home, which is actually checked and controlled in irregular unannounced intervalls and if you are caught having your gun even just in your car and you're not on a road between your home and the next certified gun range, you get in big trouble xD

[Asker]

Oh okay! Jail?

[genericname85]

if you didn't do anything bad other than that, it'll be a hefty fine and jail in case you can't pay that fine.

[genericname85]

plus you might lose your right to own a firearm.

[Asker]

Okay how many years in prison?

[genericname85]

depends on a lot of variables. worst for that situation i desribed would be 10k fine or 5 years prison time + revoking of he right to own firearms + seizure of the firearms that you have + loss of your drivers license + if the case for you, the legal fees and court fees.

[Asker]

Wow thats a lot! Good though to have consequenses!

[genericname85]

exactly! cause it's these consequences that make me feel perfectly safe in a dark alley at night :D

[Asker]

Nice!

[Jamie05rhs]

Your boyfriend isn't going to be with you every minute of every day. Yes, he should protect you when you are together. But when you're alone, you still need to know how to defend yourself.

[Asker]

What about Pepper spray?

[Jamie05rhs]

It's alright. But if the guy has a gun, he can still shoot you.

[Asker]

Yes I guess..

[REX_JSWL]

I had a deal with my girl if she start carrying a stun gun I'll stop smoking
Then she started to carry and I stopped smoking

[Asker]

Oh wow smart haha

[REX_JSWL]

Yeah, and I don't mind because it kinda benefits us both

[Asker]

Yes haha

[Luckycharms12]

Fellas job to look after people they love. I don't believe in guns. If going do harm to someone I'll use my hands

[Asker]

Okay then I guess you are okay with her not carrying.. how would you feel if she chose to run away than fight lol?

[Luckycharms12]

Any girl I was with stayed made sure I was okay and I was

[Asker]

Okay cool

[JesseP1nk]

It is mans job to protect his wife. PERIOD! If a man does not wanna carry i would ask if he is also carrying a purse?

[Asker]

Okay so then you would be okay with if your wife/girlfriend didn't wanna carry herself?

[JesseP1nk]

Yes! It is my job to take care of her safety, even if im not around, buy her a taxi or a transport so she can go home

[Asker]

Okay im sure she appreciates that! (If you have a wife, if not im sure your future wife would):)

[msc545]

FIne. Eliminates the chance of her shooting me.

[Asker]

Haha yeah

[Jackblue]

I don't think I could carry a gun around, if you don't feel safe, you can buy some mace.

[exitseven]

My wife does not want to get strapped. I told her it would be fun if we could shoot together. She does not want to get a gun.

[Sabretooth]

she can't rely on me all the time. no one can rely on anyone all the time.

[Freyke]

Bad. I'm not always going to be available.

[Asker]

Okay so you'd want her to carry?

[Freyke]

The both of us. Stronger together.

[Asker]

Yeah I get that

[Asker]

I just dont trust myself with one..

[Freyke]

You can always get a taser.

[Asker]

Yes thats true.. but id tase everyone I know on my period loll

[LiamJHayden]

I already do so it would not be an issue.

[Asker]

Ok cool

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't feel anything. Because she doesn't get any say in that.