He laughs at me every time he sees me crying after we fight, he says I'm lucky to have a boyfriend like him, he tells me not to compare him to all the ugly and stupid other boys, he often asks me if his hair is fine, and he always tells me what to do and often tells me that what I do for him is not enough, although: I drive my car to his house, I pay for my own meals when we go out, I encourage him when he is sad, I often compliment him, I buy medicine when he has a cold or he is ill, I make sure he wears a helmet when he rides his motorcycle, I starve myself to be thin for ask him every day if he has eaten, I let him send messages to other girls because I don't want to limit his freedom, I often ask his opinion, I buy him gifts and sometimes I spend my free time when I come home from work to write him poems and draw him and he always tells me he has no space for my drawings and says they are useless, I have his picture on my phone screen and I put pictures of us on Instagram and he has written on his Facebook profile that he is single and he doesn't have any pictures of me or us on social media even though we have been together for a long time. He tells about my parents they are crazy and only him knows what is the best for me. He tells me that I don't deserve compliments from him and he asks me sometimes: I look good, am I right? I'm good at sex, am I right? I have good ideas, am I right? Isn't true you are wrong and I'm right? He says" I doesn't need your compliments, words are jus words and I want actions, just learn to make sex better"
I don't know if he's narcissistic or not, but one thing is for sure and that is he is taking advantage of you and doesn't respect you. He is in the best spot possible because you give him your all, and he gives you nothing back but insults--all the while you stay with him. He's sitting pretty knowing you're just sticking around while he behaves this way.
I guess you have to ask yourself if you actually want to carry on like this for the rest of your life. You're 20. He sounds too much like a jerk to hear your opinion on how he's being, so why even bother with that? The moment you tell him your feelings, he belittles you. This isn't normal, nor is it going to be any good for your own mental health.
Ask yourself why it's so important to stay with him. Is it his fantastic looks? Does he pay for everything so you don't have to work? Is the sex so good that it eclipses everything else going on? I mean honestly, what is going on here that taking that sort of shit and abuse is even a question of why you stick around for this? There are so many decent men out there, waiting and wanting a girl like you, and yet you are concerned about what sort of label you can put on this guy as if it will be okay to explain the treatment? From what you've described, he does NOT deserve you, and you deserve so much better.
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🚩🚩🚩🚩 leave him! Selfish men are the worst and will make you feel like your lucky to be a piece of dirt on the bottom of his shoe. Seriously girl, block him cause he’s gonna guilt you and shame you and say the worst things about you when you leave, if you have any mutual friends you just as well tell them good bye as well cause he will be the victim. Do not stay with him another minute and don’t let him manipulate you into staying or thinking it’s your fault, cause I promise that’s gonna be his move.
I just want to ask why are you still with him in the first place? 💀
I don't know if he's a little narcissist or a big one or something else, but he doesn't deserve to be with you
Please leave him And find someone who would reciprocate your love and those sweet gestures
I read the first two phrases and knew enough. Dump him.
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Holy crap. It's better then so for that in a controlling toxic "relationship ". Why do you need to ask. The obvious answer is leave his punk a$$.
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He totally is!
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