I've been with my partner, living together for 7yrs, his always home never goes out alone really, doesn't socialise if his not at work his home?

[Roseren]

His good to me in lots of ways but he has a set up him and his ex won't divorce cos he said if she dies he gets the property they use to own together, so they kept it that way, he collects his post from there , which isn't much and his never in 7 years phoned her with me there, which is a long time, I'm sure they have communicated in 7rs. I feel a bit hidden at times out of the loop, even though we do everything as a couple am I over thinking just seems odd to me, I know when they were married it was odd as they had years when they never had any intimacy. Which his ex wife told me herself,. But I still feel uncomfortable, I'm due to inherit a property. He said he doesn't want any part of it. He will sign to say he can't take any part of it should we break up he thinks I should have it for my security his not interested he said, which sounds lovely, but also its not again its very odd makes me feel again insecure, would love any views if im being paranoid.

[RoseySarah]

Your being totally sain and normal!

If things feel off and this is wya off listen to your brain! To many times we ignore it!

Trust him but verify! Something I tell all my friends! People lie very well and keep lying 🤥

Get a lawyer to make sure it will only be in your name! Don't share anything besides cash with him!

Sounds so shady! His ex and him do talk but he hides it and won't do it with you around! Huge red flag 😱

That might mean they are con artists who are partners and it was a scam they did with his name on it. So she loves there he is gone encase the police look into it.

He is hiding a whole side of himself of course you feel left out! I sure would with my man.

Get a private detective to look into him he sounds so suspicious 🤔.

That is great you two are good together and he is good to you but keep yourself safe cause the day may come when he is just gone with all you own!

Your his back up plan not his main plan!

[YesterdaysChild]

Do you know the definition of "a sucker"? Because you are being played for one. I guess he had a choice between you and the money, and we know which one he went for. If you give it 3 more years you will be common law married in most states. But you should check the rules for "common law marriage" where you live. But just remember, he took the money over you so it is your job to assess if this guy is really the one you want or can trust.

[Anonymous]

At age of 54 you just accept whatever you get...
And boyfriend at 54 ? Lol.

[boggboss]

I think your overthinking to be honest but who knows

[devilish-cutie]

you are not paranoid, this makes no sense if you want any commiting kind of relationship. It makes no sense he won't divorce cause of posibility of her dying and him getting a property. HE should divorce and split the money they can get for the property. You should talk to him.

[Roseren]

Thank you so much for answering
I've asked him before. He said its easier and they don't have to pay for solicitor, she lives in the property , they owed together so legally if anything happened to her it would go to him as his on the mortgage property deeds, so no need for paying for solicitors and if he dies she will give it to his daughter. it make sense so hard to disagree.
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My father is going to leave me his property we are going to a solicitor to find out about that. To which he said his not interested in doesn't want any part of it, he will sign anything to say that. He said it should be mine because he didn't put anything into that property unlike with his ex wife..
Still odd though

[devilish-cutie]

Well some cases can be complicated, it all goes bottom down to can you trust him or not and can you even be with someone you dont trust. Best is to always talk things out. You should be able to say ypur worries n concern n he should reassure you.