Why are you single?

[DreamLife7]

I personally feel men don't value relationships. I've gotten so many men who are in marriages or relationships who have asked me out which I've declined. It's very scary for the woman to know that her partner is out doing this. And who knows how many people they're having sex with on the side then going back to their partners.

P. s if you're just dating i get it single til married so you date around until you meet the one.

[HawkPerception]

Well, the main reason for me is because I'm still figuring my life out at the age of almost 30. I've been trying to not be stuck working for any company and be my own boss, but the journey has been tough and most aren't willing to take me in the state I am. They wouldn't have cared if I was 10 years younger though, but at this age, they are definitely judging a lot more harshly haha. The 3 relationships I've been in were all serious relationships, and I was looking to marry each girl. But in the end, they all left me. The first girl (in high school, so financial situation didn't really matter at the time) left me because she had an extreme change of personality and said she was suddenly bi and fell in love with a girl, plus she was bipolar. It was one of the strangest scenarios in my life. 2nd girl I was with for 3 years again left because I wasn't progressing or able to move out with her. And the 3rd girl I was with for a year before she decided the same thing.

I know it's probably wrong that I'm still looking for a relationship when I don't have my life figured out and I should be focusing on my financial situation alone, but I always hope that there would be some girl out there that has the same mindset and vibe as me, takes me for who I am and is willing to take me at my lowest. A man can dream 😅

[aceleon]

-i have zero trust in woman

- i don't like modern girls

- i don't want responsibilities or commitments

- relationships tends to get monotonous and i can't bear getting bored of someone i love

-i'm a selfish person and i like it that way, i love myself as the selfish asshole i am

-the type of relationship i want is kinda utophic (multiple girls who are also bisexual and in love with each other as i am with them but as far as males goes they are exclusive to me (also exlusive to each other when females isin question too i don't want whores whether they are lesbian or straight)

-the possibility of having daughters (don't get me wrong i love little girls as much as boys but only until they become a teenager, then my initial fondness disappears fromthat point they just got annoying and problematic also their security becames a hassle i can't live my days worrying if they are in danger or not i would get cancer from that (with boys i at least l know that they can protect each other and themselves just fine and if they are my boys i would be sure until they reach adulthood they would be a one man army by themselves let alone together)

-i appreciate my own solitude there are times i don't leave the house for a week just to be left alone rejecting calls from everyone not becauseiam upset about anything i just want to be alone.

-i'm the boss of my life, i can't let anyone decide for me or have a say in decisions that also concerns me, it's not us it is me and the others around me.

[blueonblack22]

Damn. You are honest. I agree about your points when it comes to modern women.

[aceleon]

@blueonblack22 as a matter of fact i seldom lie and only if it is completely necessary, for me lying is for cowards people needs to accept who they are and what they want and if it doesn't sit well with other people they need to deal with it or learn to not care about it.

[SamanthaPeters1987]

I've always been single, maybe not by choice, but it's been happening.

My first teenage crush was a disaster. The friend who was supposed to help me ended up kissing him.

Incredible as it may seem, in the last year of high school, exactly the same thing happened.

I thought it was going to be this time, but in the end I was wrong again, despite all the signs that suggested it was something mutual, it turns out it isn't. The kisses on the neck, the cheeky touches, the massages, messages all the time, after all it was nothing... he already has a girlfriend.

Maybe I'm doomed, I don't know... But slowly I'm giving up on love...

[MoonlightShadow1111]

-I like being single.

-I don't want to deal with anyone toxic, insecure or perverted.

-I get my bed all to myself to sleep in.

-I have my own schedule and plan things how/when I want without having to keep someone entertained constantly.

-I don't plan on getting married, so what's the point lol.

-My standards are a little too high, and it's rare that I'm ever attracted to someone (both looks and personality, I feel like I always find a flaw in something).

-Don't need to worry about an accidental pregnancy/using birth control.

[caring__1]

I'm single, because women, in general, appreciate me more for the potential they believe I can become than the person I actually am. They may start out showing appreciation, but, as they settle in and become more comfortable, they tend to apply pressure on me to conform to what they feel should be. Though I'd love to share my life with someone, I'd rather be alone than feel this constant pressure to be someone I'm not.

It's fine to share preferences by saying "This is what I've found works better for me," or "This is what I appreciate," but telling me what I should or shouldn't do is just telling me I don't measure up. If I don't measure up in her eyes, then I'm not interested in being in her life. Guys are generally not interested in being lumps of clay to be molded by women.

[sawno]

That really sucks because that reeks of you just being led on, they should be up front with who they want to begin with.

[caring__1]

@sawno They generally don't see it as leading me on. They believe this is just the normal way things should be. It's amazing how many people feel others should be considerate of them, while seeing no reason to consider the feelings of others.

[HawkPerception]

I felt this answer on a cellular level. This is my whole life.

[Leapfrog00]

I'm too nice. That's why i have such a problem with relationships. Where I live now though, most of the girls are on drugs and prostitute themselves to support their addiction.

If I ever publish my book series, I'm probably going to move out of here and find a girl who is also a writer, or at least likes to read... that way I know they at least have intelligence. I've had nothing but bad experiences with uneducated girls who sit in front of a television and watch trash reality shows. If I watch one of those shows, I can feel my braincells depleting from my brain!

I find smart girls so sexy-hot. Though, I'll give any girl a chance, regardless of how intelligent they are. Some girls are extremely smart and just don't think they are!

[CaptainOverthink]

I'm damaged.
I attaract many because I just act naturally chill and caring while being quite mysterious and independant by nature. But attraction helps little if I don't respond well or feel reluctant to try to move ahead with a mutual thing. Why?
Because I have little to no good associations to having feelings about others, so far it's mostly been something that has backfired in my face and I've developed a type of passivity (which I am working on, though probably too slow).

Passivity gets me nowhere, as a man I am still pressured to make a move, girls are mostly fishing and like to stay in the zone of plausable deniability, which is partly understandable if you're afraid of men generally. I am actually learning to be in that zone too, because it's the best defense against gossiping with actual consequences, honesty really hasn't served me there. Probably better staying in the shadows about thruths and let chemistry work between the lines instead.

[sawno]

My last relationship was long distance, and due to the circumstances (Both lockdown and my personal situation) I was unable to move towards her in time before she really needed someone in her life physically. If I had been able to move sooner we'd have worked perfectly, but she had to pursue something local instead.

Now I am still ironing out the personal part of it before I can actively date in person, but as far as chance encounters go. Its also made tricky by the high bar that my last relationship has set, I don't just want to settle after having experienced what a dream relationship is like. I want to find someone truly special I can wholeheartedly love for who she is, and that will take time. I can't just approach random pretty girls and enjoy their looks and basic traits, I seek someone who truly fits me and I can experience that next level with again.

[Baublebar234]

I’m single because somehow I tell men exactly what I want which is food, constant sex, no drama/childish games and watch tv together with the rest of the standards of a relationship (honesty, loyalty, etc). But somehow it just doesn’t work lol. A lot of dating now (especially in this generation) is terrible because of social media, false expectations and entitlement.

[DreamLife7]

"Constant sex" is off-putting. And your standards are low /bare minimum no offense. That's probably why they go.

[Baublebar234]

I have a high sex drive so in a perfect world, I would like a romantic partner who has one as well. My other standards consist of emotional intelligence, makes me feel safe, honesty, loyalty, etc (which should be most people standards as well). But I just think I’m not difficult to please otherwise. I like to eat, I like to please my partner in every way possible and watch tv together lol. Which plays into love languages. I don’t really see the issue.

[Baublebar234]

I also don’t like drama or social media like that, which plays a big part in this generation today.

[DreamLife7]

Yeah that's why they left. Sounds boring. Who wants to have sex all day and do nothing else. Then you don't have social media. It's kinda like does this girl have friends? Does she do anything fun. Seems boring no offense

[Baublebar234]

Lol. It’s not that I’m having sex all day and doing nothing else with my life. Of course when it comes to being a relationship, I want to go on trips, new restaurants, hikes, have fun, etc! And I do have social media but I personally do not care for social media and enjoy posting my life on the internet like many people do in our generation today. And YES I have friends in real life, I have hobbies and yes I have fun like everyone else lol 😊. I just think that relationships shouldn’t be so complex or difficult. They should be a simple addition of happiness in your life. We should all have standards and boundaries of what we like/dislike in a partner of course. But same time, I think the main reason of why people are single is because some people simply make things harder than what it really is or just aren’t genuine with their intentions too. Like simple arguments that can be easily fixable…. people simply run away instead of talking things out and solving things together for an example.

[AaronKrieger]

I am never in a rush to get into a relationship, so I don't go out of my way for one. It's drama free and I get to stay focused on my life. I've never had a huge issue being single past the age of 15.

However, if I meet someone I click with, then I'm willing to see if something happens.

[MissStrawberry912]

I’ve been on great dates, but I guess personally it’s hard to find a connection for compatibility, someone who can genuinely show care, effort, & consistency, and be loyal. It’s hard to find someone to trust, be vulnerable, and who will have good intentions… a lot of people can say a lot of things they don’t mean and aren’t serious, so it’s better to walk away and find someone who’s worth giving my heart to.

[HighValue]

I am single because I spent most of my life in California where MOST women are very low quality and immoral. Their life choices and morals are totally unacceptable to me. I recently moved and left that evil society, so maybe sometime next year I may look for a good partner in my new state.

[DryGermanGuy]

Wow. Is it really that bad in California? :-o

[caring__1]

@DryGermanGuy You'll find all kinds of people wherever you happen to be. It's a matter of choosing where you want to associate, for like minded people tend to associate in groups. California isn't any different than any other location.

[syncheart]

I am single because.

1) I'm ugly.

2) My personality.

3) My work hours.

4) My brain making it difficult to get out.

5) Being over tired.

6) No woman I have ever met onlline in 21 years ever wanted me, or lived to far away.

[BobbieBoy666]

I'm single because women and girls have issues with guy's who were born with disabilities. But it's there loss not mine.

[Horse-girl]

I'm single because I live in the middle of nowhere and I haven't met anyone my age who I like. But I'm hopeful I will sometime soon. 😊

[msc545]

I would like to not be single but most relationships have felt transactional to me and not in a good way. I've run into too many women with severe personality disorders that makes it difficult to just be their friends much less anything else. Additionally, I have a pretty significant attachment disorder which makes it very difficult for women to be in a relationship with me. Put all this together and I'm not a good candidate for a relationship.

[KrakenAttackin]

@msc545. Damn bro, are you sure we weren't twins separated at birth?

[msc545]

@KrakenAttackin Either that, or perhaps we were in the same courthouse in divorce court?

[KrakenAttackin]

@msc545. Perhaps we are each other's "spirit animals" 😂

[msc545]

@KrakenAttackin that must be it!

[Tina19]

Yes i am single because relationship causes me stress and then it negatively impacts my work which i can't allow i have realised that when i am single i am able to perform at my best

[DreamLife7]

Yeah, a lot of men just seem to be too needy, insecure and messy.

[DreamLife7]

I can't do the drama

[Tina19]

True we don't need that drama in life

[crazyymann]

[Hulk_kitty]

I am single, because I am virgin, and women don't like virgins, I am serious. they want a experienced man. So I don't bother anymore. They are not interested in me a person. I will just focus on my goals.

[artemisiaa]

I am single and always have been although seems to be surprised because everyone seems to just be playing with me or I am just not as interested in them as they are in me, lost too many friends because of that

[bededazzle]

well, in my mind there are some pretty awful reasons. the truth? i don’t know. it’s been a long long time. mentally, i could be a lot more stable. i’m confident about things i can do well but not confident in a general way.

[menina]

I'm single for many reasons. But it's mostly because I'm not looking for a relationship. Also, I want to focus on improving myself and my life at this moment.

[Sour-rose]

I waaaas single because fk anyone else. I was living life just fine and didn't need anyone's support spouse wise... until my husband asked. <3

[19magic]

I made my bed so it's time to sleep in it alone, I'm sure I'll get there eventually but at the moment its only fools hope.

[overthinkergirl]

cuz i don’t believe men (not all of them but in general i met boys who were all either liars immature or womanizer)

[DreamLife7]

I feel you. To me a lot of men are creepy perverts

[overthinkergirl]

i agree 100%

[bolverk]

I'm single by choice, doing contract engineering work overseas was never conducive to having relationships as I'd take on contracts at short notice and could be away for 6-8 months at a stretch.

[Bricealan]

Married once and the divorce was the worst nightmare of my life, besides the death of my mother.

[Anonymous]

Simple, I am just unlovable. There are more physical abusers of women that can find women that love.

As for me, I am just pathetic and unlovable. I am Forever alone. Once I accepted that, it didn't bother me anymore.

[WhitneySnow]

I’m not single but that’s terrible that all those married guys are asking you out

[DreamLife7]

Yeah that just goes to show a lot of men don't value relationships or just aren't monogamous. That makes me not want to be in relationships at all. Like imagine having a boyfriend or husband yet they're trying to hook up with other women? Wow embarrassing

[WhitneySnow]

I totally agree. I have a wonderful boyfriend but if I’d been through what you have I’d want to be single too.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I'm single just because. My parents are pretty protective of me too.

[Lisia]

I'm single because I just got out of a relationship

[Bigjake1995]

What happened?

[Lisia]

@Bigjake1995 don't wanna talk ab it lol 😅

[Bigjake1995]

@Lisia I’m so sorry

[Lisia]

@Bigjake1995 it's okay!

[Bigjake1995]

Well I hope you are doing okay @Lisia

[Lisia]

@Bigjake1995 thanks 😊

[Bigjake1995]

You’re welcome ☺️ @Lisia

[KonkeyDong]

Simply, I'm Single because life just won't let me keep a Girl for some reason.

I've been heartbroken at least 6 times. I've tried desperately to find love. Eventually, I gave up. Fate just won't allow it.

[Anonymous]

1. Disability (Autism , Asperger's)
2. Average body not Chad body.
3. Doesn't have fuckboy personality which most women want due to social media.
4. Women don't know how to communicate with me they have to ask a guy how to speak to me but never leads to anything.

[Anonymous]

Let's see
I'm an autistic, short, out of shape, broke workaholic with a heart condition
I'm not a liberal and I can't drive but on the road to being paralysed
Lastly I'm old at heart

Think that covers it

[Chthou95]

Focus on other things man. You need a woman to make you happy

[SolitarySolace]

Cheated on 3 times, falsely accused once, and used for my money. Yeah, none of that seems to happen when I’m single.

[BarryLiverstone]

Single because I’m looking for a more serious relationship and not as casual as some want.

[DiegoO]

Because I am not ready to be in a relationship and because I really don't have any intention in been in one.

[Anonymous]

Because I'm slowly giving up on love because love hurts. Eveytime I give my all and put my walls down for them, they lie to me saying they love me then leave and hurt me.

[DreamLife7]

That's the problem you have no standards nor boundaries

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah you might be right

[DreamLife7]

When you stated, " I give my all" tells me you're the giver , they take and take until there's nothing left of you. Don't allow them to do that. Let them earn you. Sad, but people take advantage of over givers

[AnusNdaPainus]

According to psychology: I don’t love myself enough to believe that women who want to be with me want to be with really be with me

[smahala1991]

I've had a relationship before and it wasn't that great. I'm waiting to find someone worth my time

[justabuddy]

Probably for several reasons. I'm not a huge people person, and it's harder for introverts to meet people. Girls don't typically like home bodies. I'm sure the list goes on.

[HouseMoat]

The girl I like, who likes me back, just isn't ready to be in a relationship, after her last ex, or so that's what she says

[zagor]

Because my life has been kind of a train wreck lately.

OK, not just lately.

[Avicenna]

It's temporary for me

[captain_voidwalker]

I am single because I'm so hideous burn victims whisper "at least I'm not that guy" when I walk by

[noohair]

I have blissful solitude. I won't trade that for anything.

[Anonymous]

Got out of a failed relationship and I resent having to court women and having to pursue an approach

[Chthou95]

Women are headaches and i dont need any drama added to my life

[Chthou95]

Interesting seeing the opinions between men and women and how different they are

[Jmmmfi4]

GIRLS WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH ME

[Anonymous]

I am autistic and struggle to develop and maintain relationships.

[BlissfullyCurSed]

I am fugly af and have no social skills.

[Anonymous]

I look good and have a good personality. I lack social skills.

[NathanDavis]

I value them, yes

[LavLavLuv]

Because I don’t wanna be in a relationship

[Danny_dan92]

Not interested in dating atm

[ThrillSeeker01]

Ugh, that sucks. They should never do that.

[KrakenAttackin]

You at chasing Chad Thundercock.

[Enginn]

Because I'm not married yet.

[eagle1951]

because my wife passed away 6 years ago

[crazyymann]

cuz of im an asocial person.

[hevafa87822]

I don't value relationships.

[Anonymous]

studying... poor

[Anonymous]

I do not believe in love 🙄

[Anonymous]

Don't have time for relationship

[Jazzy54]

Good question. 😂