Pros and cons of partying or settling down?

[Anonymous]

I am 19 and I don't know what I want to do with my life, I took a break from my boyfriend so I could figure out what I wanted. I could either stay with him and go to college, get a good job, get married, have kids, do fun stuff every now and then (basically repeat of my mom's life) OR Stay single, mess around, date guys, make a lot of friends, party dance, drink, maybe have some crazy job like a go go dancer or a tattoo artist, and be my unique and crazy self. I feel like in some ways my boyfriend holds me back from being me...

which life should I choose?

[MrzSushiiBunnii]

Your super young so regardless of partying I think you need to 'do you' and really "get to know yourself". But I'm 20 I'm, not that far from you. I just got out of a relationship and though its gunna be hard, it something I had to do.

but anyway, partying is fun! In moderation, I usually go like every 2 months [even though I started off going like every weekend when I was 18 :] But it is kinda hard being single, depending on you. I'm a relationship person, I would much rather cuddle and have someone there everyday then go out and talk to random guys that just wanna f**k! But its just something your gunna have to go through. becoming Independent is key when having a good relationship in the future.

[Misty_04]

Why can't you merge them both? Also being a tattooist isn't that crazy a job.

[Asker]

I feel like my boyfriend holds me back from my wild and crazy side. I feel guilty if I'm at a party with other guys and he's not there. With him I am naturally mellow and laid back, which isn't bad but I'm afraid I'm missing out..

[Marten]

PARTYING:

Pros:

-Fun!

-Freedom

-Spontaneity

-Open options

Cons:

-Unstable life

-Risk of becoming an alcocholic

-Risk of doing something regrettable

-Risk of being abused while under influence

SETTLING DOWN:

Pros:

-Protection

-Sense of fulfillment

-Presence of ''that one"

-Calmness and less stress

Cons:

-Risk of being stuck in a routine

-Vulnerability, a lot of things at stake

-Hard work by taking care of children

-Risk of being tempted by someone other

You decide! I took these things to the extreme, but it doesn't mean you can't party and have a spouse at the same time!

[Asker]

love this answer, unbiased and honest:) just what I needed, thanks!

[Anonymous]

you're partying past could catch up to you, most guys don't want to settle down with a former whore