Is this cheating?

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My boyfriend added a girl and Facebook and liked all of her photos. She messaged him asking if he has Snapchat and he replied saying, no but message me on WhatsApp this is my number xx and send it to her? Bearing in mind we been together for a year and just had a baby. I messaged the girl as she’s a friend of my friend and was wondering if they spoke and on the screenshot that’s what he said.

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Damn girl, I don't even know what to say. That shit is so whack of him to be doing all that behind your back, especially with a new baby at home! You don't deserve to be stressing about what else he's hiding.

I know it's gotta hurt seeing it in black and white like that. But please don't let his bummy actions define your self-worth, feel me? You're an amazing mom and woman - he's the one with issues if he's out here disrespecting you and your relationship.

Good for you for getting the receipts. At least now you got the truth, even if it's painful. My advice would be have a serious talk with him and lay it all out - what you saw, how it made you feel, and why he crossed a huge line. Watch his responses close too, see if he owns up honestly.

If I were you, I don't know if I'd be able to trust him again after some Mess like that. But that's a decision only you can make for yourself and baby. Just remember - you and your child come before any man. Do what's best for y'all.

We're here for you no matter what, aight? You got this mama. His actions say way more about him than you. Keep your head high!

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Yes it is cheating, because his intentions was to talk to her behind your back , to invest his time into her , instead of investing his time into you. He will try to sugarcoat it every which way possible because you busted him red handed, if you didn’t bust him he would be investing a lot of time into this other girl hoping to get into her pants. Think about how he would feel if he found you secretly talking to another guy behind his back? I guarantee he would have a shit. So you have every right to dump his ass and kick him to the curb be thankful you busted him now instead of finding out later on , wasting your time with someone that truly doesn’t value you. When someone actually loves you , they don’t do shit like this behind your back

Alwayreckles93 · Accepted Answer

Not surprised thats typical young millenial guy behavior. And yet millenial men get angry and wonder why woman decide to date mature older men. I was in commited and married at some point with men my age. I was pregnant when I cought my ex husband at he time in the middle ofthe scene at my home at the time with his amway upline now his wife. Guys our age are just womanizers. They dont care about their long term established relationship out ofnnowhere they see some other and break it of like cold turkey and forget about the devoted loyal girlfriend. Im sorry to say but your boyfriend is a disgrace forndoing this to you and your child.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

I am not sure if what he did was cheating or not, but it is extremely disrespectful to you and your relationship. The liking of pictures was one thing but it is extremely odd that he is messaging her

dynamicyandere · Answer

If he did that all behind your back, my first impression is that it sounds like he has a desire to cheat.

Is he really cheating though?

I’m not 100% sure, but that behavior is very much what someone with ‘wandering eyes’ might do.

Is it cheating?

That term doesn’t have an objective standard, so it really depends person-to-person.

But, for how I define it, I’d define cheating as having flirtatious or romantic interactions with someone behind your partner’s back, that you know your partner would be uncomfortable with.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

Did you talk to HIM about this situation? Did you tell HIM how you feel and what you want to avoid? Did you listen to HIS opinion? Did you BOTH make an agreement and align your relationship boundaries?

We can't solve it for you. Both partners define cheating as an agreement or a compromise. We don't know your boundaries.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

It's kinda simp-ish sounding, and I'd say he's prodding around to see if he has options (possible side chick action?)... but I don't think it's cheating just yet.

If she's a friend of your friend, then I think that's kinda cutting it too close. I dumped a side chick because she became friends with a girl who is friends with a girl that is my wife's friend. The last thing I need is for my wife to hear from other chicks how good my dick game is.

Anonymous · Answer

I hope you have an exit strategy. Not sure why you had a kid with him, that just complicates matters. Birth control is free at Planned Parenthood with an ID. You’ll be a single mom now & part of the welfare-dependent, baby-mother harem that he’s currently working on building. Fabulous.

pethouse · Answer

Well depends. I guess it depends on how YOU and your boyfriend define cheating. Some people don’t think sending nudes is cheating while some do. Like i say it depends on your beliefs. To me I wouldn’t say it’s cheating but is major red flags and shows that he may be thinking about cheating. You should have a conversation with him. The more defensive he gets over it the more he’s hiding something.

sheikalana · Answer

Is not cheating but seems like he has the intention to cheat. Why would someone in a relationship and with a baby talk to other women? Kinf of suspicious to me.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

girllll you had a baby and only been together for a year? and expected him to be of decent dating material? yikes

RavVid · Answer

It isn't technically cheating till his penis is in her vagina but I think it is a clear indication of intent so you should dump and message the girl she is a whore.

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes. His devotion should be to you and there is no need for him or you to make new girl friends (for him) or boy friends (for you). Be committed to each other.

PaulEGon · Answer

Sounds like he is definitely up to something. Has he cheated? Can't really tell just from that. Is he planning to? I don't know, but he isn't just trying to have normal conversation. that would not have to be hidden.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

It may or may not be cheating (that’s up to opinion and debate) but he’s sure on the road that leads to cheating.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

I don't know why women are putting up with this sh1t? I'd set all his clothes on fire 🔥 in the front yard. Use a hammer 🔨 on the phone.

Billlewis · Answer

I think it could certainly qualify as cheating.

BadApple69 · Answer

Well that’s not cheating but it looks like he might be interested in cheating.

LazerBean · Answer

Not yet, but he's actively getting set up to cheat. Yikes

fantasticass · Answer

Yes, that's cheating. He's a piece of shit. I suggest you leave him, his behavior only gets worse

Anonymous · Answer

Obviously you're not a priority to him if he's hitting on other girls. Does it matter if it's technically cheating or not? He's not focused on you and the baby, and that's the point. Put him in chastity, that's what he deserves.

Anonymous · Answer

And yet another fkboy is gonna have a really cute chick (you) hang her good hand to the outside too fast on him and end up slapped. That's the WORST part of being 1 ugggh😫😭 he's next.😒

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Lol good luck to you honestly. The guy wants to fuck multiple women

Staximus · Answer

You had a baby with a guy you've only been with for a year

worldscolide · Answer

Cheating? No, Inappropriate and disrespectful as hell? Yes.

Showtime23red · Answer

No not cheating. Plus it’s only your boyfriend. Once you get married you can start worrying about those things. So now have fun and get guys instas and let them call you on your WhatsApp.

Crankor · Answer

Tech it's not but it's Def leading up to it real quick

KrakenAttackin · Answer

"Just had a baby"... Well, you got a Chadling, what else do you want?

OddBeMe · Answer

Eesh. First, Why are you spying and he’s FB shopping?

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Id be asking him what his doing his in the relationship and has baby.

chefbigoo · Answer

It depends on the things that you agreed on prior to entering into the relationship

Nice222 · Answer

I don’t consider it cheating but it is something to talk to him about and monitor.

MrShaun · Answer

Having a child out of wedlock is the huge mistake and not likely to end well.

Slim57 · Answer

It's leading up to it. Noone loyal would do that bs.

ughinginternally · Answer

Rude, but it depends what are the rules and the limits of the relationship that you decided upon.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Sounds like cheating to me

Twalli · Answer

No, it's just talking

Anonymous · Answer

Smells like trouble to be.

jjj101010 · Answer

How did u find out he has messaged her

Anonymous · Answer

Not yet, but it has the potential to become that.

Brady · Answer

nope

HouseMoat · Answer

If you want it to be

Rc2020 · Answer

Cheating 😭

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