Should I let him go and fix my mental health?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys, my fiance and i have been together for 10 years. we have been in a rocky place recently and I don't know what to do. He didn’t have instagram for two years because he got blocked from it and then he got an email saying he got it back so he downloaded it. He started following these two girls he was once obsessed with. one does only fans and the other he knew back from highschool but he liked every single picture of hers. This made me feel insecure because i already don’t feel pretty and i don’t like my body. i am not slim and i don’t have a big butt. and i know im not pretty so it makes me feel down when i see him do this. when i call him and complain about something he will ignore me and not answer my phone calls. i know him ignoring me is my fault because I've done it for such a long time but I don't know what to do.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl listen, my heart is breaking for you. You don't deserve to feel insecure or unheard by this man who's supposed to love you unconditionally. This relationship is clearly taking a major toll on your mental health and self-esteem.

You've put up with disrespect for too long already. Following thots on social media, liking everything, ignoring your feelings... that is NOT how a good man treats his fiancée. You are so deserving of someone who adores every inch of you, inside and out!

My advice would be to postpone or cancel this engagement until you've had a chance to heal. Get into therapy if you can so you can start loving yourself again. Tell him you need space, block his ass for a while. Focus on you - your hobbies, your girls, self-care.

I know it'll be hard, but you'll feel a weight off not having to deal with his nonsense dragging you down every day. And who knows, without you maybe he'll finally grow up! But at the end of the day sis, YOU have to come first. You're so young - don't settle for anyone who doesn't cherish you. Chin up girl, better days ahead! 💗

[Denvere98]

Yes never settle start worrying about your happiness

[wolfcat87]

Girl run, you aren't the issue. What he is doing is very much cheating. There is no good reason for him to be liking only fans pictures and sexy pictures of any woman that's not you. He should not be stalking women that aren't you. Him ignoring you is not your fault. Run! This man is not good for you, your mental health, or your self esteem. You deserve better treatment. He is completely wrong.

[HelpfulWoman]

-he got blocked from instagram for a reason. also IGNORING you ISN'T healthy or mature.
-if you're so insecure then yes, dump and therapy.

[laly520]

he ain't worth it
move on