Hi All,
I have been with my boyfriend for 8years ; we have been through everything together. Bought a house together a small business and he supported me through serious illness (I had cancer); but whenever I bring up the subject of getting married he shys away from the idea saying its not the right time or we are too old now whats the point (he's 51). Its important to me and i think we have been through enough together that I think we can get through anything. Part of me thinks he just doesn't want to spilt because he doesn't want to have to sell the house etc. I have asked him this and of course he says no. Is he waiting for someone better to come along? or is he just comfortable in our current situation? Should I leave?
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You are probably not going to have children anymore in life. There may be some benefits to being married when it comes to retirement?
If you were to leave. What would you be looking for?
Your right we don't have children unfortunately cancer made that decision for us. But I somehow feel I've missed an important milestone in my life and i can't help but feel without a proper marriage he will always have one foot out the door. There's something about making that commitment in front of friends and family that solidifies it for me. Also not going to lie i feel we deserve a big party after everything! In the eyes of the law we are on equal footing as a married couple (after 2years in Oz) so no issues in terms of retirement benefits.
@whatever12346. So you two are a couple just minus the paperwork! I suppose you have told him the way you feel. I was in my fifties When I got married. Just never found the right one! Good luck!
Pop the question yourself!