How do you love someone who doesn't like physical intimacy?

[Anonymous]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years (and my first ever relationship) and she told me about 3 months in that she does like being physical hand holds hugging kisses sex stuff like that and at first I thought it wouldn't be that bad but as time when on I discovered I like and need that kinda of stuff and I feel like it's really impacting my view on the relationship and I wanna break up because of it is this a valid reason or am I being childish or something?

[Jessica405]

That is something that should have been discussed on day 1. It is now like a train hitting the buffers. It ain't going anywhere.

Best take stock and think of the options.

If it were me, that would be the end. Cheating to relieve frustration is not an option.

[velvetheart]

Physicality (or lack thereof, in this case) plays a huge part in romantic relationships, and you two have very different needs in this aspect. So yes, it is a valid reason to break up!

With that being said, you can also solve it in some other ways if you'd both be comfortable with, ie seeing other people to take care of your physical needs. It sounds like she might be asexual, and some ace people will still want a romantic relationship, depending on their needs and other aspects of their sexuality. It just requires a lot of communication and sometimes - compromising. But it's a rather broad topic, so I could link you some information if you want :)

[darkforcebooty]

@velvetheart do you mind if I ask you for advice?

[velvetheart]

@darkforcebooty on what

[darkforcebooty]

@velvetheart insecurities

[velvetheart]

@darkforcebooty well, yeah, I think so

[darkforcebooty]

@velvetheart send me a message if its okay :)

[Staximus]

If a person is not physically attracted to you, doesn't want to kiss, hug, or even hold hands with you, then you might as well just call yourselves friends. There's no relationship without attraction. Tell her she's not attracted to you and you want somebody who is. You both need to find somebody where there is mutual attraction.

[serious]

Given what you have said I don't think you are being childish or immature if you want to break up for this reason

[Paris13]

She Appears Kind of Like Asexual. Your Choice, Your Voice. xxoo

[DextroShade]

That is a 100% valid reason to leave. She wants to benefit from you providing, protecting, and giving her attention but she doesn't want to hold up her end and put out? Fuck that shit, kick her frigid ass to the curb and find a girl who actually likes you. You have wasted too much of your life on her already!

[Anonymous]

Break up dude. Literally THE thing that differentiates a romantic relationship from every other relationship is COMMITTED SEX. So if you're not having it, you have to ask what kind of relationship is it? Is she cool with you having sex with other girls?

[Twalli]

It's perfectly reasonable. Tell her that you still like her, but you need physical intimacy. You know that she is uncomfortable with it, so it would be better for both of you to find people who can better match your intimacy requirements.

[Jkgordon]

No you are not being childish. Move in to someone that likes to do those things. I got one stop kissing years ago I find it disgusting germie etc
What is your sign and hers?

[Asker]

Scorpio and she's Aquarius why?

[boggboss]

Its more then a valid reason u guys ain't compatible

[Asker]

I just feel bad because she's a good woman ya know

[boggboss]

Being a good women don't mean you and her will have a good relationship if anything its your fault for stating when she stated from before

[Asker]

Yeah you have a point it just sucks

[boggboss]

Which I get but thats why communication and honesty is a must

[Asker]

Yeah maybe 2nd times the charm

[MemeSupreme]

yeah im the same as her and i wouldn't blame a guy for leaving (in the moment yeah) but stuff like that is important

[Anonymous]

Did you say that your girlfriend "does like" physical or does "not"? I'm confused by your wording 🤔

[Asker]

Does not

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Like a friend.

[Blazintrails]

No that’s really tough but I couldn’t stay standing where you are.
Maybe something happened to her when she was younger? Some trauma that never got worked out.

[KrakenAttackin]

She is either asexual or just not attracted to you. Move on.

[maneskinfan]

I can't have a relationship with someone who doesn't like physical intimacy.

[exitseven]

No I would not stay in the relationship either.

[serious_miss419]

She doesn’t deserve you.

[Asker]

Why do you say that?

[serious_miss419]

Based on your post, you’ve not even spoken to her how you feel - that’s a fail. You want to leave her over sex - that’s a fail. You’re resorting to strangers for justification to leave her - that’s a fail.
At that pace, she deserves someone else

[Asker]

We have talked about it on multiple occasions and couldn't find any kind of middle ground. I'm allowed to want what I want, and I have had no other relationship experience besides this one to compare to the justification of my decision. thats why I posted the question

[serious_miss419]

Okay, then you’ve answered your own question

[Akam93]

I couldn't be with someone who's like that.

[CVNT5]

bruh, why you even in a relationship.

[noohair]

Men psychologically need the physical part more.

[Anonymous]

Wait for Marriage loser

[strateguy632]

friend zone

[Anonymous]

She is for the street