My mum has cancer right now and honestly I’m going back and forth from my parents house it’s 2.5 hours away from were I am. I just don’t have the energy to be with my boyfriend anymore or even give him the time as that’s the not my main focus at the moment. I’ve told him about my mums diagnoses he has been ok about it but I haven’t spoken to him in a few days he’s tried ringing me I’ve been busy I’ve returned the call and he’s been busy. Don’t know if I’m overthinking can anyone help me out as I’ve never been in this situation anymore as soon I won’t even have time to see him as I will be staying at my parents quiet often looking after my mum after she’s been for surgery
Wow that's really tough Krystal... I'm sorry about your mom. Family has to come first, especially in a situation like this. It's totally valid that you don't have the energy for a boyfriend right now. Your boyfriend probably understands that too, even if it still stings a little.
I think you just need to be honest with him, like you were in your post. Tell him you care about him but your focus has to be on your mom during this hard time. Thank him for being supportive so far. Maybe suggest taking a break from the relationship temporarily instead of fully breaking up? That way you aren't closing the door completely, in case things change down the road. But reassure him it's not about him - it's just what you need to do for your family.
He might be disappointed, but if he's a good guy he'll want you to support your mom too. The truth is usually best. Just be gentle but clear. You've got enough on your plate - don't worry too much about his feelings if staying strong for your family is what really matters right now. I hope everything works out and your mom gets better! Let me know if you need anything else.
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If you were married and this happened, would you consider divorce? Of course not. If you have a strong relationship, you face challenges together, even if that means some additional periods of separation. He should want to stand by you and you support you in these trying times, just as you would want to be supportive for him if it was his mom, right?
If your relationship isn't sufficiently strong to withstand this challenge, then maybe you aren't losing too much by breaking up.
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do u really wanna break up? u sure?
otherwise if its final then sit down with him n end it
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You don't have to break up with your boyfriend because of this unless that's actually what you want to do and don't to to be with him anymore.
Just tell him you are going to be with your parents for awhile, if he can't handle that and not understand then breaking up with him is for the best. He can either respect that and let you be or be there for you without wanting any attention from you but if he can't then do what you have to doSorry to hear that. You should at least have a conversation with him regardless of the choice you make. But if neither of you aren't willing to make it work because you think the other person won't wait then you're better off breaking up.
Tough one. Sorry about ur mum’s diagnosis. Hang in there
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