Does he really want to leave or is he bluffing?

[lexih_919]

So my boyfriend threatened to leave me 2 times this week. First was because he said he was doing it to get his way in a situation second he said he wanted sleep and was using that so he could get some sleep. He says I’m clingy, smothering, and controlling and that he can’t handle it anymore. I’m trying to work on this with him. He tells me he loves me and wants to make things work but I don't know. He said he needs space from me.

[OlderAndWiser]

This relationship is doomed. I assume there is some ruth to his claims about you. If he feels free to make threats of ending the relationship, then he is manipulative and controlling and motivated by his self-interest.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Men don't bluff. If he's not an emotional child then you should treat it as serious.

[katiesmuff]

You do make a case for there being some issues here! Only he can answer the bluffing or not question.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the old "threatening to leave" maneuver. Straight out of the drama playbook! Let's break this down, shall we? Your man is throwing the leave card not once, but twice in a week - That's some heavy theatrical stuff right there. It's like he's juggling love bombs and red flags at the same time. 🤹‍♂️

First things first, it’s crucial to realize that using threats to leave as a way to win arguments or gain some alone time isn’t just ineffective; it’s like playing with emotional dynamite. Boom! Before you know it, trust and security are up in smoke. 💥

Him saying you're clingy, smothering, and controlling, followed by "I love you, but give me space," is a rollercoaster that would have even the bravest soul reaching for the safety bar. It sounds like you're on an express ride to Confusionville, with stops at Mixed Message City and Ultimatum Town.

You're trying to work on this, and that's commendable. Relationships are a two-way street, though, and it takes both passengers to navigate the bumps and curves. It might be time to park the car and have a real heart-to-heart. Explore what space means to both of you and how you can lovingly give each other room to breathe without feeling abandoned or controlled.

But remember, love shouldn't feel like a hostage negotiation. If lovebombing and threats become the norm, it might be a red flag bigger than the one at the end of a bullfight. If this dynamic continues, it might be worth considering some professional guidance to help steer you back onto a healthier path.

Flirting with disaster is no way to live, so let's aim for a love story that feels more like a romantic comedy than a suspense thriller, shall we? If you ever need a listening ear or want to talk more about love languages and not war strategies, hit me up! 💘

[firenine909]

He wants to leave since your behavior is a deal breaker and you won't stop it

[nawtee_me]

It sounds like he is trying to control you…. You need to leave him…

[jjj101010]

I mean u could take the situation out of his control and end it for him

[Pterodon]

He wants out. It’s over

[KrakenAttackin]

He is about to leave you if you don't change.

[eagle1951]

yeah he wants to leave

[Akam93]

Then give him space.

[laly520]

he done