you both go to a therapist and see if that person can sort it out, because this is a cob webb mess already. Easily fixed... in reality, won't be.
In general, it's high risk because the underlying issues and ensuing growth has not occured yet, so she's stuck on him. You will not be able to pull her out of it without her decision.
Easy answer... she needs to cut him off completely and for good and get help to sort herself out emotionally (e.. g. what's going on, why hooked on him, whats the truth, let it go, heal the wounds). You need to figure out why you are stuck on this person and what the underlying attraction is... it could be bad or good. That help you decide. Do you like to rescue wounded birds, or something else?
This is just the start as relationships evolve.
I've coached another in a comparable type of arrangement such that they know what is going on, it's predictable. However, they don't listen and growth is slow. Understanding what is going on is not that hard. Getting people to make the hard choices and produce growth is difficult, if not impossible at times.
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You can candidly reveal what you feel in your heart now, but if you get in to a relationship and it fails, you can't promise what you will think or feel at that time. Right?
I'm not against trying to have a relationship with a long time friend, as i think the idea has much to commend it. But perhaps you are appraching it the wrong way. There are some women who will strongly resist if you tell them you want to date in hopes of developing a relationship. But if you start spending time together, doing date-like things without referring to it as a date. . . they will develop feelings and, when the time comes, they will fall into your arms.
However, be careful that you don't end up being her rebound.
Your making up lies about being interested in a girl while disrespecting her by telling thousands of people online that she volunteered to be in an abusive relationship, was that necessary information to your question query or do you secretly hate her and want an excuse to malign her online? And if you lied about being interested in her, maybe you also lied about her abusive relationship.
Give it time and space to let it be picked up naturally and when she’s ready.
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No win situation. Friends with an ex is a deal-breaker for me.
yes so doomed
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