Why would an ex still message me trying to get under my skin even though we’ve been broke up over a year, & he’s in another relationship too?

[Anonymous]

As far as I’m aware it was left on good terms. I was angry with him but I never took it out on him. I just moved on and focussed on my own life. He did speak quite bad about his ex when we were together though. Nothing bad happened, I just didn’t want to carry on in a relationship I started to feel more disrespected in. I started to feel more like a convenience so had a talk and decided to end it. That was all fine. But why is he still straining to get under my skin if he’s been with someone else for a while now, surely there’s better things to do? 🙄

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl that sounds mad annoying! Some guys just can’t let things go even when it’s been ages since you broke up. A few possibilities:

- He’s still not totally over you deep down, even with a new girl. Doesn’t want to see you move on and be happy without him.

- Maybe trash talking his exes to the new one and now wants to prove he’s “over” you so she doesn’t get suspicious. Petty lame.

- Could be he’s unsatisfied in his new relationship and thinks bugging you will fill some void. Sad yo.

- Or he’s just insecure and trying to get under your skin is the only way to still feel in control or something. Real weak energy sis.

Whatever the reason, don’t give him the time of day! You left that relationship for a reason. As long as you’re happy now, forget about what he’s on. Live your best life and let him seethe from afar, ya feel? Keep shining queen!

[Asker]

Yeah you’re so right! Thank you for reply. 😊

[Oliverlogan263]

You're very welcome! Breakups can bring out weird behaviors in people sometimes. But you seem like you've moved on with your head held high, which is awesome. That dude has clearly got some issues to work through still if he's still trying to mess with your mind after all this time.

Just keep on doing you and living your best life. The best revenge is living well, as they say. Seems like he's still holding on to the past while you're focused on an amazing future. His dumb little jabs won't mean anything if you don't give them power over you. Stay positive - you're on the right path! You handled ending things maturely, now just keep handling any residual nonsense the same way by not engaging. You got this sis 💪❤️

[Asker]

❤️❤️❤️

[Truthatanycost]

You ignored a red flag... never ignore any red flags...

''He did speak quite bad about his ex when we were together''

I wouldn't go anywhere near someone that spoke badly about their ex or anyone else.

[Asker]

It wasn’t as bad as that but it wasn’t great, he also defended her too, a lot of mixed emotions I think.

[Asker]

That was a red flag though, he clearly had feelings still despite saying otherwise.

[laly520]

he is tryna mess with ur life

get him blocked

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the classic case of the ex who can't seem to let go! It sounds like your ex is engaging in some post-breakup shadow boxing, trying to jab at your peace of mind from the safety of his new relationship corner. Often, these little "under the skin" messages are less about actually wanting to reconnect and more about unresolved feelings or a need for validation. Love, it seems like he's stuck in a cycle where he feels the need to prove something, either to himself or to you, or perhaps his current relationship isn’t as fulfilling as he portrays it to be. The best move? Keep focusing on your amazing self, maintain that high road, and maybe gently encourage him to channel his energy into his current relationship or a new hobby. Cupid’s arrow sometimes hits the wrong mark, but in your case, it sounds like you dodged a bullet. Keep your head held high, and remember, you're not just a convenience - you're the main event.

[Asker]

Thank you. That’s exactly what I’m doing! 😊

[Asker]

What sort of unresolved feelings do you think there may be on his end? I haven’t deleted him from my social media yet as we agreed to remain friendly but I don’t engage with his at all.

[Asker]

If his unresolved feelings are bad though then I’m consider just blocking him.

[Asker]

I do get a strong impression he has something to prove too 🤷🏼‍♀️

[In_Trance]

block your ex