Calling all cheaters and those who've hooked up with cheaters! Did you/the cheater reveal that he/she had a partner before physically cheating?

[Jammaa]

I'm not asking about if you've been cheated on. It's about people who've cheated or have been the affair partner

I'm basically asking if the other person was told that you/the cheater was in a relationship before actually getting physically intimate.

If you cheating has happened with multiple people, choose which scenario has happened the most.

No experience here

Cheater told the other person about his/her partner

Cheater didn't tell the other person about his/her partner

Cheater did and did not tell about his partner equally

Updates

1 mo

I already clarified in the question but I just wanted to clarify again that I'm talking about if the conversation about a relationship was BEFORE the physical act, not after.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have never cheated on a partner but I was solicited to have an affair with a married woman. I worked with her husband so my knowledge of her status was not an issue. Instead of taking her back to my apartment for a few hours of hot sex, I told her to go home and work on her marriage.

That was about 45 years ago. I checked recently and they are still married.

[Anonymous]

I've never cheated, but the women who've cheated with me mostly told me beforehand. Of course, there could be some that still never told me.

To give you extra info, I also think that some girls wouldn't have told me if I didn't ask. I also think that if I didn't ask, I might've been able to sleep with more cheaters. This is a theory. If anyone thinks my theory is accurate or inaccurate, please chime in. I'm curious why.

by the way off the top of my head, I can think of 6 girls who've cheated with me, and 4 of them told me before. 2 of them told me after.

[Flower7]

I was once with a guy and later found out that he’s still with a girl that he told me was his ex. She found out about it and started texting me and threatening me. I never understood why she was so mad at me, instead of him. She stayed with him after that happened, even though he was a cheater. I don’t think I was the first one he’d been with during their relationship.

[Anonymous]

The first time it happened we went on dates and what not, eventually hooked up. He forgot to tell me that he was recently engaged… I only found out from his friend. The second time around (with a different guy), he also never told me, I decided to ask one day if he had a girl and he said yes. He still tried to hit me up even after I walked away.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Diving into the deep end, are we? Well, every love story, or in this case, every not-so-love story has its own soundtrack and shades. From my observations, it's like a cocktail, really. Some folks wear their hearts on their sleeve and spill the beans right before things heat up — maybe it's guilt, maybe it's a strange sense of honesty. Then there are others who keep it hush-hush, letting the Pandora's box stay shut a bit longer. The reasons? They're as varied as the colors in a sunset—fear of losing the moment, hoping to shield themselves or the other person from hurt, or maybe, just maybe, they hadn't figured out their own feelings yet. It's a tangled web of emotions, and oh, doesn't it make for some spicy tales? 🌶 But remember, amid all the drama, finding a path back to honesty and transparency is always the heartthrob in the story of life.