My boyfriend and are have been together for a year and half. We have the best times together when we arnt fighting or arguing. Most our disagreements start with a debate on a topic and because we are both passionate about getting our views out- even if we agree with one another- we just dont know how to communicate that where we understand eachother and then it just becomes nasty. When we argue and it escalates we tend to talk it out after and for the most part are back on track, but it just takes one little thing to cause one of us to snap again.
For example: this weekend we spent time together, we has a disagreement but managed to settle it. We played games together and i gave him his space to work when he needed to. For the most part things were great and we were fine, but then last night I was sleeping and he was working (he works late at home most nights) and when he came to bed it was late and Im already such a light sleeper and wake for everything. Not 10 mins after finally falling asleep again, his phone started 'blinging', he checked it and typed something which was loud. I turned over to him and asked what the problem was because I was trying to sleep. He lost it with me which confused me as we had a great day and even made love few hours before. The way he reacted got me into defense mode and I asked him what his issue was to which he said " he is trying to move money around for trades and I need to stop insinuating things!"
I was shocked, jumped up and started getting upset with him. He was being so rude to me and i just wanted to sleep. Anyway it messed up everything... Im not functioning if i dont sleep properly. I just dont know if we will ever stop fighting? Does this pass? What can we do to meet halfway?
PS: We do talk about ways that could help us communicate but we both very high strung people so triggers are easily triggered.
1 mo
We are always budding heads, what do we need to do to save our relationship?
