Girls, Have you ever lied to be in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Like let’s say you don’t drink smoke or party and your looking for a mature partner but once you get into the relationship you show how immature you are by throwing temper tantrums, gossiping about your partner to your friends, gossiping about friends and then smiling in their face. Not claiming to be a sexual person but constantly listening to hyper sexual music and watching shows that have sex scenes

[petitedollbabee]

I’m not sure if this counts as a lie, but when me and my partner met, I reassured him that I couldn’t get pregnant, as I’d been diagnosed with ovary problems a few years prior and told by medical professionals that I was infertile. And I’d been sexually active for years without ever falling pregnant.
Fast forward to now.. I’m 8 months pregnant with our first baby, lol. I tease my partner about it often and tell him he’s got magic sperm.. 😂

[Anonymous]

Where exactly did you state how she lied to be in the relationship? You shared the grievances but not where this lie to her man took place.

[Asker]

The lie was the maturity how can she claim to be a mature person and do all the behaviors I highlighted. A lot of these was extremely hurtful. Around the holidays I bought a gingerbread house that she wanted to build cause I knew she really wanted one well she went to hang out with her friend and the whole time they were talking shit about me how i found out is she openly admitted it

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly dude I say this nicely but you have to take some accountability. To be fair, maybe she feels like she is mature but her behavior reflects differently. This is truly to bad, but why did you stick around after you saw the signs? You probably made excuses for her, thought she would change or just loved her too much to let go, and those are all valid reasons but still the fact remains that you knew better. It sucks to admit you knew better but once you did, you should’ve left her. Use this as a learning experience, that’s the best you can take from that situation.

[Asker]

Ok I have a multi layered answer the first point is your absolutely right I should have left and I feel most people in that spot would have but I at that point had never been in a relationship all these experiences were new fresh experiences prior to that I never thought I would get a girlfriend. Secondly I have a good heart and I did love her and thought she would change so your right their o constantly supported her cared for her and poured my all into the relationship. Everyone was on different wavelengths because her mom even highlighted how I was giving my all and now receiving anything in return and how the relationship was not equal.

[Opinion Owner]

You see, those are all valid reasons but excuses all the same. It’s hard to take accountability for those things because you are a good person and you were trying to see the good in her, it’s also your first girlfriend, but these are all excuses to have stayed longer than you should’ve. I can see you’re very scorned by this, but I hope you choose to forgive that woman and let the hurt go. You gain nothing by lamenting over all the ways she hurt you, I actually think it holds you back from moving on. How long ago was this?

[Asker]

Almost a year

[Zoeysiren]

Let's be real, honey. We've all probably bent the truth a bit early on! Maybe exaggerated a hobby to seem more compatible, or downplayed a quirk (like, um, always needing the blanket, even in summer). But a full-on lie to snag someone? Not ideal. Relationships based on honesty are way better in the long run. Trust me!

[HappyWoman34]

Uhm, no. But people all people, present their best sides to each other in early days of dating.