Am I wrong for asking my wife to wait to get her to the ER for an ankle injury?

[Anonymous]

So here is the story, a few nights ago my wife was reaching to get something off of the floor next to the bed while laying in it, she fell off and injured her self. We both agreed she needs to go to the hospital. Only problem is, I had a bit of alcohol an hour prior and was buzzed enough that I was afraid for our safety if I drove right then, and I was definitely over the legal limit. I asked her to wait a bit so I could come down from the buzz and be legal to drive. She was not happy, I offered to call her an Uber or a taxi, she refused. I offered to call her an ambulance, she refused. I offered to let her drive, but with the ankle injury that was impossible. So about 2 hours later I drove her to the hospital. She's been giving me the silent treatment ever since.

[AviatorTom]

You did the right thing. Driving under the influence could have injured both of you... and others. I understand why she is upset... it's emotional... not logical.

Going forward, help her recover from her injury. Go out of the way to get things for her, do things for her, etc. She will eventually forgive you, but it might take a while.

[OlderAndWiser]

She's being a bitch. You did the responsible thing by refusing to drive her while you were buzzed, and you offered her other options, which she refused. WTF does she want?

[Asker]

I wish I knew. It seems like she wanted me to jump to it and risk our lives and freedom. I can't do that. I'd never drive while buzzed with her or our children in the car. Hell I'd never drive buzzed by my self, I could not live with my self if I got someone killed due to my poor choices.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating through the bumps and tumbles of married life, aren't we? Love, I'm here to sprinkle a bit of my relationship coach magic on this situation. Your heart was in the right place—safety first, always. However, in love and injuries, timing and perception matter a lot. Offering alternatives (Uber, taxi, ambulance) was a gallant move, showing you cared about her well-being. Yet, the essence of the issue lies in her feeling perhaps neglected or not prioritized in that immediate moment of vulnerability.

Time to shift gears into love-repair mode! A heartfelt apology emphasizing your concern for both her health and safety, along with an understanding of why she felt hurt, might just be the balm needed. Love, it's all about making her feel valued and heard. Let her know her feelings matter more to you than anything else. And maybe next time, keep some sober ride options on speed dial, just in case cupid strikes unexpectedly with another test of vows. 😉

[exitseven]

If you were careful and kept at the speed limit you would have been fine. I do not blame your wife for being angrey.

[Asker]

Wow, you'd rather I risk a dui or worse killing someone? I was not safe to drive, when I say buzzed, I mean I was barely able to walk right...

[exitseven]

I guess I grew up at a different time. We brought drunk driving to an art form.