For those who are married or in long-term relationships: Did you feel that intense spark from the get-go? Or did it your feelings evolve over time?

[Anonymous]

[OlderAndWiser]

At my age, the bond is not sparks and electricity and passion that compels me to copulate. The bond is a warmth, a satisfaction, contentment, the feeling that I am where I belong, and when we are in bed going to sleep and my arms are around her, I know that there is no where else I would rather be. And I feel better just standing close to her!

[Lliam]

I felt instant attraction with all my girlfriends and we fell into deep infatuation.

I felt that with my (future) wife, too. But it took a year for me to be sure I wanted to marry her. I had to be certain that we could spend the rest of our lives together.

[Anonymous]

My feelings evolved over time, I didn’t see him in a romantic light when we first met but I was always curious about who he was as a person. When we got to know each other more it just kind of happened

[dustybiker2]

Strong feeling from the get go. As it completely took the wind out of my sails. It stays solid as long as you respect it and appreciate it.

[Apple1996]

Yes I felt the spark right away

[Anonymous]

I was not interested in my late husband when we met and he wasn't interested in me. In fact, he told me I made him think of an insect the first time he saw me because of my slender build and all black outfit. In the spirit of mutual insults, I told him I thought he was a fuddy-duddy with no sense of humor. : D But we became friends, and I got to observe him at work. I grew to respect him and found myself thinking about him a lot. We talked more and he started doing little protective things, like buying me pepper spray before I went off to college, calling me for lame reasons and then us talking for hours on the phone. It was two years before I realized I was in love, and three months after that he finally asked me out. A year later we were married. Seven years after that, he died of cancer. I'm thankful for the time we had.

[Asker]

Thank you for your story!

[Wallythewalrus2]

I felt a spark immediately, she didn’t. She finally fell for me when her and I got split up from a group of friends at a music fest and her and I spent time alone. She realized I’m not the “arrogant asshole” she thought I was.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, it happened pretty fast, and it is stronger than ever today after over 9 years of being together.

[DrPepper12]

Infatuation grew to interest grew to love reduced to, at times, familiar roommate with a common interest (children). I know that's kind of bleak but it's honest

[Anonymous]

I never felt that spark. She just asked me out one day. I said "ok". We dated. We dated for a while and she asked me to marry her one day. I said "ok". And 25 years. And 3 kids later we're still married.

[Asker]

You obviously felt something for her, if you kept agreeing to be with her, right?

[Opinion Owner]

Of course. But there was no lightning bolt moment I guess I mean. We were friends for a really long time and just one day you realize you love that person, and you don't want to spend your life without them.

[JacobJordan]

Has always been there a bit like an arc of electricity coursing through the air tying us together bringing us closer

[WhitneySnow]

We were friends first, but once we started dating the spark came pretty fast

[laly520]

I would say both

felt the intense spark n also my feelings evolved over time

[Anonymous]

The spark isn't real. I didn't feel anything for a very long time and sometimes I question the feeling of love.

[exitseven]

It was pretty much from the start. The adventure continues

[Jersey2]

For me yes. I was mesmerized. She didn’t like me at first but I won out in the end.

[Twalli]

Iran K found her attractive when I first saw her, but I didn't love her until after we started dating.