Is it wrong to put a relationship on hold?

[Justneedtokno]

One for grieving grieving loss of a parent two for just getting out of a relationship or situation-ship so you’re still not trusting or capable of seeing.
So you’re still learning how to trust people and yourself when the right person comes along. You’re not sure how to even handle it.

Or understand their
Intentions.

[DishLady]

Putting a relationship "on hold" for a short time is ok, but expecting someone to stay in cryogenic freeze while you go on some sort of rumspringa isn't cool -- it's not fair to the other person. When you choose to put a relationship on hold you're choosing to de-prioritize it (or take it off your plate), which leaves the other person feeling restless and uncertain about themselves. A clean break is much more advisable and equitable for all parties.

[Anonymous]

Yes. If you can’t go through hard times together you shouldn’t be together. Your partner should be one of the people you turn to the most when things like grieving happens. Not breakup or take a break because of it.

If you don’t trust people to the point lf being unable to have a relationship you shouldn’t have a relarionship. Not even on hold. You should break up and work on yourself, go to therapy until you’re ready whoch may take years.

[Juxtapose]

^^ I second this.

[adam6402]

100%. Don't go into a relationship if you have to put it on hold every time something pops up in your life.

[Justneedtokno]

I understand what you’re saying I think at that moment because I wasn’t fully healed from being with my ex and the loss, I didn’t want to start something new even if the new person was being consistent. I didn’t want to start something new. I couldn’t really see them.

[ProbablyClueless]

There are definitely circumstances that you want to make sure you're properly healed from before dating, but the traumas you just described aren't on that list.

If the death of a parent has you so turned around in life that you can't handle the thought of emotionally connecting with another adult, you probably have some other stuff going on that WOULD actually prevent you from forming emotionally healthy connections with people.

[adam6402]

There's no such thing as putting a relationship on hold. Your partner should be the first person you turn to and lean on in a tough situation. If you feel like you have to separate from the one person in life who's meant to love you and care for you, then you're not meant for each other and maybe you're not ready for a relationship at this point.

[Justneedtokno]

Yeah, my ex wasn’t meant for me and I couldn’t put it on a new person so I was by myself

[AI Opinion]

Putting a relationship on hold isn't inherently wrong, it's all about communication and respect. Whether you're grieving a loss or freshly out of a confusing situation-ship, taking time to heal and trust again is crucial. Love is patient, right? If you're transparent about your feelings and reasons, the right person will understand and wait. They'll probably even admire your strength for acknowledging you're not ready. What's vital is being honest with yourself and them—after all, jumping back into the love pool when you're not ready can do more harm than good. Give yourself the grace to heal and the time to trust again. The right person will still be there, with open arms and a heart full of understanding. Trust me, it's worth the wait! 😉

[handsomelad70]

Sometimes, for family matters and even job concerns, but obviously it's sub-optimal.

[NathanDavis]

generally speaking...

relationships are about two people... and if the two people agree on a mutual decision that benefits both, that's more of a good thing

if the decision is made one sided and imposed on the other one... that's usually a bad thing

[CriticalCatDad123]

there is no such thing as being in a relationship on hold or being on a break from a relationship. You're broken up at that point. Your partner is seeking someone else. I guess if you're not the overly jealous type like I am you wouldn't care. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[hahahmm]

Right. The only way it might work is if the other person just happens to not be looking for anybody for and you get back with them before they do. But that's rare.

[CriticalCatDad123]

Exactly

[strateguy632]

correct it is always wrong.

if mourn, then support each other.

if not working then end it! "getting out"? so end it. separate.

[Wiredone]

I don't see anything wrong with it. There are circumstances that take priority over a relationship

[Anonymous]

Everything you're saying suggests you've a poor understanding of what a relationship should be.

In times of trouble, you should want to be closer to them, not run away.

[Justneedtokno]

I definitely don’t understand relationships that well. I don’t like to burden people. I was definitely raised by a person or people who are do it yourself women who also had husbands. So it’s hard to just relinquish control fully depending on someone else.

[DextroShade]

When you say you are "putting relationships on hold" men hear "I am going to sleep around and have NSA sex with Chad and Tyrone"

[Justneedtokno]

It was more like I’m gonna be alone and get my mental in order guys do it all the time where they’re like I’m confused. I don’t wanna be with anyone right now, but mine was serious. Dealing with death, you have to take over stuff

[DrPepper12]

There's more than you're telling us but based on bereavement I can sort of accept but not understand

[In_Trance]

Yes it is. You're either in or out

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah. On a break, doesn’t work.

[eagle1951]

depends on why

[BIZARRE_TRUTH]

yes it is