Putting a relationship "on hold" for a short time is ok, but expecting someone to stay in cryogenic freeze while you go on some sort of rumspringa isn't cool -- it's not fair to the other person. When you choose to put a relationship on hold you're choosing to de-prioritize it (or take it off your plate), which leaves the other person feeling restless and uncertain about themselves. A clean break is much more advisable and equitable for all parties.
Yes. If you can’t go through hard times together you shouldn’t be together. Your partner should be one of the people you turn to the most when things like grieving happens. Not breakup or take a break because of it.
If you don’t trust people to the point lf being unable to have a relationship you shouldn’t have a relarionship. Not even on hold. You should break up and work on yourself, go to therapy until you’re ready whoch may take years.
There are definitely circumstances that you want to make sure you're properly healed from before dating, but the traumas you just described aren't on that list.
If the death of a parent has you so turned around in life that you can't handle the thought of emotionally connecting with another adult, you probably have some other stuff going on that WOULD actually prevent you from forming emotionally healthy connections with people.
There's no such thing as putting a relationship on hold. Your partner should be the first person you turn to and lean on in a tough situation. If you feel like you have to separate from the one person in life who's meant to love you and care for you, then you're not meant for each other and maybe you're not ready for a relationship at this point.
Putting a relationship on hold isn't inherently wrong, it's all about communication and respect. Whether you're grieving a loss or freshly out of a confusing situation-ship, taking time to heal and trust again is crucial. Love is patient, right? If you're transparent about your feelings and reasons, the right person will understand and wait. They'll probably even admire your strength for acknowledging you're not ready. What's vital is being honest with yourself and them—after all, jumping back into the love pool when you're not ready can do more harm than good. Give yourself the grace to heal and the time to trust again. The right person will still be there, with open arms and a heart full of understanding. Trust me, it's worth the wait! 😉
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u generally speaking...
relationships are about two people... and if the two people agree on a mutual decision that benefits both, that's more of a good thing
if the decision is made one sided and imposed on the other one... that's usually a bad thing
there is no such thing as being in a relationship on hold or being on a break from a relationship. You're broken up at that point. Your partner is seeking someone else. I guess if you're not the overly jealous type like I am you wouldn't care. 🤷🏻♂️
correct it is always wrong.
if mourn, then support each other.
if not working then end it! "getting out"? so end it. separate.
I don't see anything wrong with it. There are circumstances that take priority over a relationship
Everything you're saying suggests you've a poor understanding of what a relationship should be.
In times of trouble, you should want to be closer to them, not run away.
When you say you are "putting relationships on hold" men hear "I am going to sleep around and have NSA sex with Chad and Tyrone"
There's more than you're telling us but based on bereavement I can sort of accept but not understand
Yes it is. You're either in or out
Yeah. On a break, doesn’t work.
depends on why
yes it is
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