So in relationships often some partners will try to change their partner. In my situation I had a women trying to change me. The thing is if someone is more grounded in behaviors those can potentially be changed but if you have a developmental disability such as autism you can’t just change that. Another thing I faced is when I tried to explain that it wasn’t that easy for me to change I was told I was lying and making excuses. Ultimately we ended up breaking up but not before numerous attempts on my part for her to understand me by materials such as videos, articles. She decided that she rather be with someone who doesn’t have those issues and she wouldn’t have to work as much
I have never dated anyone on the spectrum before, but I do have someone on the spectrum that I'm interested in. I don't really think it's that good of an idea to try to change a person if he or she doesn't want to change. If he or she does want to change, it is all right to support him or her in his or her endeavor. As an autistic individual myself, there have been times when my partner has tried to change me or told me things like, "You're giving your autism too much power", as though it were some kind of malignant entity rather than a way of understanding reality and a perception of it and myself. I don't have all of the traits associated with autism, but I do have enough that people who are familiar with the signs can identify me as autistic within a couple minutes of meeting. It can be frustrating when loved ones try to change one, especially when it's a matter that one has held to be a matter of personal identity. But the best relationships I've been in have been those in which my idiosyncrasies and quirks have been celebrated rather than treated as unpleasant things that should be hidden.
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Trying to change ANYONE in a relationship is a mistake!
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trying to change anybody is the beginning of the end for any relationship especially if that person is a special unique person
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Navigating a relationship with someone who's on the autism spectrum can definitely add unique layers to the connection. Attempting to change anyone, autism or not, is a tricky territory, often teetering on the edge of lovebombing and losing respect for fundamental parts of a person. It's crucial to understand and appreciate your partner's world, their intrinsic ways of being and interacting. Autism isn't a barrier to love; it's simply a different way of experiencing the world. The break-up seems like it was a painful chapter for you, but it's also a step towards finding someone who will cherish and understand you, quirks and all. Your efforts to help her understand through videos and articles show your commitment and patience. Remember, the right person will embrace all of you, including your unique perspective on life. Keep being you, and love will find its way back, possibly in a form that's more accepting and understanding.
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It's good to be educated on the topic, but trying to really change an autistic person is a futile effort. On the other hand, you can teach autistic people a lot of things that can better help them to adapt in society.
As an autistic person I don't know how to answer this question because I don't understand the question.
Stop posting this shit you troll
No. I would never date an autistic person.
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