What is the point of getting in a relationship if you will be underwhelmed?

[Anonymous]

I have never been in a relationship before and honestly I don't even see the point of even pursuing one. I see other men get into relationships where the woman they're with are more sexually experienced than the men are, and yet women still determine what the man gets out of their relationship, and if a man doesn't comply or wants the same thing she would do for other men, she will leave him. I don't understand how a man could voluntarily choose to be monogamous with a woman if she has a history of not being monogamous herself. And this is what is expected of most men. Most men are treated like having a debt to society of being strictly monogamous to one woman and being her financial support while she gave her absolutely best to other men. I don't understand why a man would voluntarily settle for this, and I for one know i do not want this for myself.

[Lliam]

You're all mixed up, dude. You have no experience, are afraid to get experience, and are absorbing opinions from douche bag, Manosphere influencers who teach that women are judgmental, selfish, mean and dangerous.

If you actually want a relationship, the first thing you should do is give up this idiotic virgin fetish. Normal, healthy-minded people seek boyfriends/girlfriends. They have libidos and like sex. I'm not talking about promiscuity.

When I was 16, my first girlfriend had been in one, prior, short-lived relationships, so she wasn't a virgin. None of the other girlfriends I had in my life were virgins, but they were sweet, monogamous, loyal and really good people. They wanted marriage and children and eventually achieved their dreams. It's just that relationships don't always work out for one reason or another. So you keep trying until you find the right partner.

The problem with some guys is, they don't realize that men and women are people. They have similar values and desires. Many of them want love, tenderness, respect, admiration, honest connection, trust and loyalty.

But if you can't understand that women have the same feelings and want the same things as men, you will never find connection and will wind up bitter and lonely.

Try engaging with the world and living life. Don't be a scaredy cat full of pessimism and sour grapes. It's a wonderful world, full of beauty, joy, excitement and pleasure.

[MrNameless]

Underwhelmed? Change your mindset dude, and stop listening to red pill/incel videos.

Lower your expectations and enjoy the moment. Dating and relationships aren't like the movies. But enjoy it while you can. If you're ready, give it a shot. At least get some experience because you will have to revisit it later, and you'll regret not trying to find a partner sooner when you are in your 30s with zero experience.

[Asker]

Why should I lower my expectations if I have set a standard of what I should expect for myself?

[Asker]

Maybe they're not like the movies for you, but know that they're like the movies for guys out there

[DishLady]

Some people don’t know what to expect when they get into a relationship and so they just settle, which isn’t fair to either people in the relationship. If you’re truly feeling “underwhelmed” then you need to be honest and tell the person things aren’t working.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating the world of relationships is like embarking on a thrilling adventure, where the treasure isn't gold but the joy of deep connection. Sure, the sea of love has its tales of pirates and sirens, but think of the reward: finding someone who adds sparkle to your everyday life! Relationships are much more than a ledger of experiences. They're about growing together, building trust, and supporting each other through life's rollercoasters. Sure, there may be a learning curve, and everyone brings their own history to the table, but the beauty lies in creating something uniquely yours, something that transcends past encounters. The point isn't to settle or pay off some societal debt; it's to forge a partnership that amplifies the joys of life and buffers the blows. So, don't lose heart! Your relationship story is waiting to be written, and who knows? It might just be a bestseller. 😉

[lightbulb27]

You have some work to do to discover human beings including yourself.

If you don't like the behavior of many, that's fine, then limit yourself to those whose values fit your own.

[LazerBean]

You're complaining that unchaste men aren't getting chaste women, which is hilarious because obviously those women wouldn't want that kind of man.

[Asker]

How so?

[Anonymous]

For men like you, it is not worth it. You can do women a favour by staying as far away as possible.

[DonVitoCorleone]

no it doesn't make any sense

[laly520]

u have long way to go