How can I make my boyfriend more romantic?

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Me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for almost six months now. He is a great guy and I always feel secured physically and emotionally because of him. He couldn’t care less about other girls. He sincerely loves me. However, there is no sparks or excitement between us anymore. Isn’t six months too short to feel that way? I love him and I’m sure he can give me butterflies by acting specific ways. I already told him that and to be more romantic several times. The problem is he doesn’t even try. For example, every time I go hug him to create some romantic moment, he would just raffle my hair or pat my butt calling me with nicknames he gave and saying sweet things like “little wonton, what do you want?”. I mean it’s sweet and warm and I can feel his love and I appreciate it. But I really want to feel excited and flatters once in a while. What should I do?

Mr_twoface · Accepted Answer

Like others said, you can't change him. He must realise it on his own and excite you again... When you openly discuss your desire for more romance in your relationship, be specific about what romance means to you—whether it’s more dates, thoughtful gestures, or verbal affirmations. Sometimes, showing what you mean by romance can be more effective than explaining it. Plan romantic gestures yourself, which might inspire your boyfriend to reciprocate in his own way. Plan activities together that naturally lend themselves to romance, such a picnic in the park or a plan a romantic weekend getaway or even a longer trip together. Sometimes, small acts of love can be incredibly romantic. Encouraging your boyfriend to leave you love notes, send sweet texts, or bring you a small gift can add to the overall romantic feeling. Also continue to make a big deal out of birthdays, anniversaries, and other special moments. Let him acknowledge how much you love him!

If you do it all and in another 6 months’ time you don't see a progress, then my dear, you have to communicate in a way for him to understand where your emotions and feelings are, and you don't see it going anywhere.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You really can’t. Men aren’t in tune w such things. It doesn’t come natural to men. Most men didn’t grow up like women watching romance movies, Disney Princess movies. Dreaming of a girl sweeping us off our feet. Hollywood has put this image in women’s heads that they’re expecting men to live up to. I think too men don’t get those same emotional feelings women get from stuff like that so we don’t really know what that feels like. Even if a girl did that for us men it still wouldn’t give us that same feeling women get from it. You’re asking him to be something he’s not. Overtime he may do a little better, but probably not to the level that you want. You asking him to be something he isn’t is like him asking you to stop thinking w your emotions or letting them control you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If you attempt to change someone in how they are you will only find yourself disappointed. Relationships are about adjustment and growth together, not making someone else the way you want them. Let the man know what you like. Make suggestions. Ask if he'd be interested in doing things. Be kind. Meet him halfway adapt to him. You'll be much happier.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

You can't. Accept him for who he is. I tried to make my boyfriend more romantic but I realized that he shows it in his own way. It may not be what you envisioned but he probably does show it in his own way.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

You can't "make him" change in any way at all. All that you can do is accept him as he is or reject him.

JacobJordan · Answer

You can't. Romance isn't really something you teach. You either have it or you don't. It is part of who you are. I am a romantic person I try and infuse romance into day to day things whether it be flowers or dates or walks on the beach at sunset or a picnic or a massage or whatever. It is just part of who I am to do these things it feels wrong to not do them.

AbsentLight · Answer

You have to tell him specifically. What I mean by that is what is the sensation that gives you butterflies or makes you blush. Everyone is different. But you can't change him entirely either. but relationships are about compromise and honestly you're not asking for much. Omg I love being romantic... Sometimes I feel like my wife gets driven nuts by it lol.

MsProsperity · Answer

Do new things together. Like visiting him for a week, having a double date or try having quickies & new sex styles. Spend more time together so that your connection grows

slatyb · Answer

No sparks or excitement? Is that due to his behavior? Is he boring in bed? What could he do that would raise your interest? Have you talked about it?

gorydetails · Answer

Be the change you want to see. YOU plan a romantic getaway. When you are done, say "hey I really enjoyed my time with you. It would mean a lot to me if you would do something like this for me..."

jahaims · Answer

You both show romantic feelings in different ways. You assume because someone doesn't do it the same way that you want that it isn't happening. You don't notice because you are too busy wanting specific things.

Anonymous · Answer

Whisper this while slowly running your hands on his body, "If I'm your little wonton.. then I will need your long and hard chopstick in me.." Then watch his reaction. 😳 Enjoy. Lol

ProbablyClueless · Answer

All you can do is voice your concerns. After that, it's gotta be his choice to be more romantic for you.

SixFootSexy · Answer

Ditch him and get a bad boy that treats you poorly but that you feel tingles for. =P

CriticalCatDad123 · Answer

You can't make your partner do anything that's a sign of an unhealthy relationship

Sirius1 · Answer

Can’t really change people. Can only give suggestions, express emotions and on how you feel, and make requests.

DrPepper12 · Answer

He is who he is or it sounds like his parents didn't model what you're looking for. I wouldn't expect a change

Anonymous · Answer

You don't! You accept him the way he is or you find a new boyfriend. That's just the way it is. You can tell him you want romance more but at the end of the day that's he choice on whether he wants to romance you more.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

why not freakin tell him? You know we can't read minds, if you want to get cuddly, it doesn't hurt to tell him "Come, lets cuddle a little" or something in that direction.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You can't. It has to come naturally, and many men just don't have it in them.

Bobby88t · Answer

Without balls i feel myself more emotional and romantic, changed me a lot

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