I dont want the dog on the bed but she said he was there before me so she cannot change this practice anymore. She said she doesn't want to fight about this. If I tell her I am allergic to it or something like that, does it work? What should I do?
Sorry but relationships are a combination of adjustment compromise and sacrifice. We need to keep selfishness out of it if we want to thrive. Your girlfriend is not just being selfish, but actually immature and unreasonable. I very well get it that the dog has been there in her life before you, but once you are there in her life she needs to value your interests too. I am not saying she needs to give up the dog, just not have it on the bed, so you can be comfortable you know? Cause as much as we love our pets, at the end of the day, it doesn't change the fact that they are animals with their own health issues. And even if the dog is bathed every day and well groomed and taken care of , having an animal in close proximity to humans especially while sleeping can cause issues down the line. Just sit and tactfully talk to her about this, be tactful, she needs to understand your concerns not just hear them. If she doesn't, either of you will have to workout things in a different way like sleeping in a different room or something but as a couple that might put some strain on the relationship. Try to work it out.
This is one of those arguments you'll only lose if you keep having it. Either you accept sleeping with the dog and her or she respects your boundaries to not have a dog in bed.
Just because a person lived a certain way before a relationship, doesn't justify bringing that habit into a new relationship. She needs to date someone who is on the same page as her, and you might need to as well. Her dog is her "child" and there's no logically correct argument you have about how she treats it and how that affects you.
I mean if that dog has more priority than you then you should really talk.
It's hard but somethings need to be left when you become adults and you wish to get a partner
If she wants the dog as partner then you have no place.
I personally feel it's weird to sleep with dogs on bed.
But I understand some people do it as they might be lonely and they provide emotional support.
The pet can be allocated a separate space and bed that's not a problem.
Talk with her and see I know you already know this but nobody else can do a squat for you
You have to choose or she has to choose
You dump her. It’s not going to change. I get we love our pets but she’s putting the pet over you as far as your feelings. Your feelings don’t matter to her. If it was the other way around it would be a big deal to her if she didn’t like it either. You could suggest a dog bed, but I doubt she will go for that. This is just the beginning of many things to come that she will punk you on. To me this is a lack of maturity on her part, very selfish. If she’s not willing to compromise then I’d seriously consider meeting someone else.
Let's navigate these choppy waters with a bit of flair, shall we? First off, fibbing about an allergy could backfire big time, turning a puppy problem into a trust Titanic. Instead, why not dive into a heart-to-heart with your girlfriend? Explain how sharing the bed with Rover affects your comfort and sleep quality. Maybe propose a compromise that suits all three of you — perhaps a cozy dog bed right next to hers, so her furry friend is close but not between the sheets. Communication is key, and who knows, it might just lead to more cuddle time for you two, without any paws in the way. Remember, it’s all about blending love and logic!
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Come on. If you really like the gurl, you'll put up with the dog.
I think the best thing you can do is to just make sure the dog is washed and clean then there’s not much of an issue —unless you really are allergic but that’s a Problem in itself nothing to do with the bed. If the dog already slept with her before you moved in or she moved in or you moved other, then it’s not reasonable to expect that to change suddenly. Just keep the dog clean. Separating the dog now is cruel and will cause other behavioral problems and make everything harder for everyone.
Oh no.. that's her fur baby you're going to compete with! 🐶 You either adjust or break up with her. If she's a real dog lover, you really cannot change the situation. I've had friends who loved their dogs more than their boyfriend. 😆 But if she really loves you, she will adjust.
So… a few follow up questions.😒
What’s up with her and this dog?
Are you actually allergic to the dog?
If you’re allergic and she’s being ridiculous, leave. There are many many dog-free homes to roam.
There’s no reason the dog doesn’t have his own bed/sleeping area, even if it’s at the foot of the bed.
If it’s a dealbreaker for you, then bail. She’s right. The dog has seniority, plus the benefit of being a dog. In your best life you’ll never be able to match a dog’s capacity for love, affection and loyalty. The very fact that you brought it up in the first place puts the dog above you. Ell oh ell!
u That’s too much Fleas and ticks and shedding of dog hair the dogs go outside and roll around in the dirt. They can’t possibly be clean 24 hours a day there’s a time and a place for snuggles with the dog not when you’re sleeping in bed overnight, especially if you’re in a relationship.
Move over old dog because the new dog is moving in. She will have two dogs now. Don't tell her you are allergic to the dog, you might find out the truth where you stand with her and get your feelings hurt. Get used to sleeping with the dog too.
Gross, I'd be out... I'm not sharing a bed with her and her dumb dog. What happens if we want to have sex? Nope.
Because lying will make everything better. (Never lie)
It's not going to work between you. The dog was there first and she's using this as a judgement of how you handle her ways. If you can't accept her life move on.
Decide, you want to be with hee and the dog, or without both of them. She right, the dog won't change.
You’re going to have to deal with it. Who are you to kick the dog off the bed? Sleep in separate beds if you don’t want to sleep with the dog
Who do you actually think she will end kicking out of the bed? If it’s your bed most likely she will find a better bed.
if you got no legitimate reason then you're probably gonna have to suck it up lol
or... respect it?
dog was there before. most likely is going to be there after you.
You can learn to sleep with the dog or get used to the dog howling at the door. What sounds better to you?
As long as there is no funny stuff going on I would not worry about it.
Don't lie to her.
You don't seem compatible. She values the dog. more than you
Put a nice dog bed in the room and see if he uses it
Suck it up buttercup! He's the king of the castle.
Tell her to marry the dog... you're out of there!
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