I don’t know if I should confront my new girlfriend for being very distant or not?

[Anonymous]

I started talking to her about 2.5 months ago, we were talking a lot and we had a lot of great dates. I asked her to be my girlfriend about 2 weeks ago and we had sex the first time that night. But since then she has been distant. She’s been going through a lot with work and has been really stressed and has apparently not even wanted to see friends. She gets home and she is socially and physically drained and doesn’t want to talk to anyone, including me. She has explained this. But it’s gotten worse.

I went on a weekend trip and I barely heard from her, I tried to talk with her but she would take all day to respond, if that. And I just don’t know what to do. I’ve been trying to give her space but I’ve seen her once since I asked her to be my girlfriend and she doesn’t seem enthusiastic at all to see me again. It really could just be a bad coincidence. She is going on a weekend vacation too coming up and she said she thinks she needs that to feel like herself again. But it’s been weeks. I was going to send this to her, but I don’t know if this will make things worse, but I’ve been very stressed wondering what happened and if she even wants to be with me:

“I know you’ve not been feeling good but I just wanted to check, you’ve been distant since I asked you to be my girlfriend. I know you’ve been tired and had a lot going on, but I just wanted to make sure everything was okay. I just don’t want to you to feel pressured into doing something you don’t want”

I just don’t know if this will backfire, if she will be receptive or just say that she’s feeling off and that she hopes she feels better soon. I’ve sent little things like “is everything okay?” And she will normally text back faster saying “sorry I’ve just been really busy today”. She could actually be very overwhelmed and it’s not me or us. But I’ve always felt very excited when I’ve gotten a new girlfriend, even if life was stressful otherwise.

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Sometimes I try to update her on my day like we used to, or just ask how she’s doing. She hasn’t really acknowledged any of my messages about personal life at all. I also don’t text her too often, on days where she doesn't respond, I may send 1 text and wait for a response. I’m really trying to not overload her or stress her out, but I just don’t know what to do, because this is hurting me…

[Finchie40]

You must of sucked in bed or you’re didn’t get her off , or your dick is to small. Etc.. Girls’ sadly can be vicious when she isn’t pleased in the bedroom , she won’t say anything because she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings , so she is being distant from you to give you the hint that she is no longer interested in you , That’s why you never ask a girl to be your girlfriend until you fucked her and see if she comes back for more. Was she in a relationship previous to you? If she was and her ex boyfriend was better in bed than you or had a bigger cock then you , sadly you are doomed. Most females’ are selfish people that like to be with a guy she can brag about to her girlfriends’ if she can’t brag about you , she has no interest in you anymore , why I tell guys’ all the time if you really like a girl , make sure you rock her world in bed , if you rock her world in bed , she isn’t going to hesitate to see you again , if you took her virginity away then you have a better chance of her staying with you , but that isn’t 100 percent true either. Overall most females’ want to be with a guy she can brag about to her friends’ if she isn’t bragging about you then you aren’t the guy for her period. Word of advice never chase a girl , you can show interest in a girl but never chase her , make her chase you instead , and your chances of having a happy relationship with a girl is better. So the next girl you get into bed make sure you rock her world , do not make it about yourself , do nut bust a nut until you have her shaking like she she is possesed by a demon , giving her the Big O is more than likely going to have her coming back for more and more. Lucky for me I had older brothers’ that gave me pointers and also I was molested by an older women that taught me things at a young age as well. My first actual girlfriend was a virgin and I rocked her world to the point she couldn’t get enough of me and fucked her non stop. All her friends’ were were very polite and friendly to me because they knew Inrocked her fucking world. And have her tap out in no time , that’s a girl that will cherish you.

[OlderAndWiser]

Don't think of discovering the truth as a backfire. Instead, think of it as learning whether you are "wasting" your time.

In all likelihood, she entered this relationship with strong reservations and she is now doubting her decision. Perhaps she has a recent breakup and has not resolved that relationship. Maybe there is someone else who has her attention now. Maybe she simply sees you as convenient - now - but not a long term prospect. If she REALLY wanted to spend more time with you, she would do that; since that isn't happening, you should not get yourself more invested in something that is probably going to end soon.

[Anonymous]

Don’t text, see her in person and have a conversation. The only texts you should send are to check in and/or plan to meet. A part of me wonders if maybe the sex was bad.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love in the air, then suddenly distant signals! My aim at Girls Ask Guys is to help navigate these emotional mazes. Catching those red flags can be confusing, but sometimes life’s stressors are just mood spoilers! It's cool to check in with her, but keep it light and understanding. Let her know you're there when she's ready. 🕊️ Trust your instincts and remember, love is a tango, not a solo dance. Stay patient, and see if her weekend getaway helps her energy bounce back. If things don't improve, it might be time for a gentle heart-to-heart.

[Anonymous]

I think you shouldn't.

[Anonymous]

Talk to her