Can you be really close friends with the opposite sex without catching feelings?

[rapfan107]

[landon1996]

yeah I believe it is possible, but from personal experience, I find it usually pretty hard. almost every girl that I have been friends with I have eventually developed some kind of crush. the only ones that I haven't were either really ugly or it was in elementary school back when girls were no different than boys.

[MysticDevice]

You sure can. Its fine to catch feelings, the best relationships start as just friends, but its actually pretty easy to have opposite sex friends without it becoming romantic.

[AI Opinion]

My aim here on GAG is to decode love, attraction, and all the messy in‑between for you. 😉

Yes, you *can* be close friends with the opposite sex without catching feelings, but it depends on boundaries, emotional maturity, and honesty. Sometimes one person secretly crushes while yelling “we’re just friends” in denial. Red flag is when there’s flirting, jealousy, or low-key lovebombing.

If both respect the friendship and don’t use it as a backup situationship, it can be pure, supportive, and drama-free.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, I have had female friends to whom I never felt attracted.

[ManOnFire]

Absolutely. I had a close female friend for a good while, but it was the opposite situation in the beginning: I was into her and she wasn't into me, then I started dating someone else and lost romantic interest in my friend, and it still stayed that way even after I broke up with the girl I was dating. Then later on, it was the female friend who seemed like she had gotten interested in me, and even seemed disappointed when I told her I liked someone else years later.

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah sure if you aren't attracted to the person.. but that is why I don't have guy friends anymore because I usually never would friend a dude I am not attracted to because why would I? I do not need opposite sex friends for anything, girls fill all those spots.

[matchrestore]

I have a few really close female friends that I've never had feelings for, despite spending one on one time with them. But my best friend is actually a girl I did have feelings for, but we turned out to be better friends than lovers, and after dating for only a couple of months, we have been best friends for almost 20 years now without the feelings coming back.

[RavVid]

Yes but iff you don't want to fuck and never have. If you remember your math, iff is if and only if.

It is probably impossible to be close friends with an early 20's female because hetero males are hard coded to want to fuck'em. Unless she is morbidly obese or she has made herself unattractive in some other way.

That is why I put the the rider of never having wanted to fuck'er. You may have given up on it but that first impulse will be lurking in the background.

[WhitneySnow]

You can but it’s rare unless one of you isn’t primarily straight or doesn’t find the other one attractive (usually the girl not interested in the guy but it could work the other way too). Or one of both of you are in relationships and are genuinely faithful to your partners.

[Kevinvdd]

Yes you can, when you arlready have someone then the door to love is closed most of the time. And when there is no physical attraction you can still like each other on a mental level without feeling some kind of love. (Well, you can feel love when you aren't physically attracted ofc, but it's less common).

[msc545]

Sure, if I'm not physically attracted to the woman, it's pretty easy. My current closest friend is a wonderful woman who has been my buddy for years. We don't find each other physically attractive, but boy, do we like each other's personalities!

[NathanDavis]

yes, I can...

most of my close friends happen to be women... and they are just my friends

the "feelings" I had them for my girlfriend, the one I was in a relationship with

two very different things...

[slatyb]

I am friends with a few women that I do not desire sexually. I am friends with a couple more that I do desire, and it may or may not be mutual, but it's not going to happen and we both know it.

[Crimsyjo]

If you find them very unattractive then yes. But there's no guarantee they womt fall for you instead.

[FreyaRed]

Yes. I like some guys but I'm not attracted to them. It's just difficult to sell it in the way no one is insulted or disappointed.

[EmmaMary]

Both my husband and I have many close friends of the opposite sex.

[Alex-Snow]

Of course. I have some wonderful close female friends that are fun to talk with, do fun things with and talk about life. We will never have sex and I value the friendship I have with them.

[Anonymous]

No. I was close friends with a girlfriend of a buddy of mine, killed me when he married her. I never made a move out of loyalty for my buddy and respect for her.

[Anonymous]

When one heals their mommy and daddy issues (and 100% all humans have them according to renowned psychologist alice miller) lust will never again ruin a friendship.

[sawno]

Absolutely but that usually implies I am just not in to her to begin with.

[Abbycado]

Yep. Have male friends from school and home. Also have a boyfriend. Go figure…

[Essa1212]

If you lay out the boundaries with each other then why not?

[_Jenny_]

@rapfan107 Yes, I have many friends of the opposite gender 💃💯

[MrChinaski]

I don't 'catch feelings' because I'm not a 12 year old girl in ringlets.

[exitseven]

I think so but sometimes I used to get a little confused.

[Anonymous]

Not when she is bending over in front of me while wearing her leggings or short skirt. No. I can’t.

[lilBigPotato]

Of course. I have plenty of male friends.

[PinkNoir]

Possible but not probable

[MerakSahibi]

Yes, if she is ugly

[FunkyMonkee]

When did feelings become a disease?

[Anonymous]

Sure such is the way of the asexual

[Anonymous]

Yes, if she is not my type.

[TonyMetal___1986]

I can...

[canamlusciouslad73]

Sure.

[dudeinohio]

I dont believe so.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

It's possible

[Anonymous]

Easily.

[Jburns4554]

Yes u can