What does it mean when a guy tells you 'Maybe in the future...'?

[heyhihello0101]

Okay well, me and my boyfriend has been going out for almost 8 months and just yesterday he breaks up with me telling me just 'maybe in the future...' and then continues lets just be friends and he asks if he can call/talk to me the next day. This all happens a week after me and him fight over my depression sessions (which I can't help having, they just happen whenever and I have nothing to do about it). He also tells me he's tired of me not putting my all into our relationship but I have when I can. Advice please?

[oneconfusedlady]

It's almost a good thing that he broke up with you because just think- if he can't handle you when you are feeling down, how would he handle something worse? It's a flaw on his part. I still recommend getting help in sorting out what you need to to become more stable. My last ex couldn't handle me when I had a nasty concussion and it showed me that he couldn't handle difficult situations.

I don't recommend the being friends right off the bat. Him calling you the day after is almost cruel! You have difficult emotions you need to sort out about him before making this call. My ex and I are on slightly better terms now; I said I wanted to be friends/friendly but apparently he thought he couldn't handle it. We certainly don't have long conversations but it's a gradual "Hey, how are you doing?" kind of thing, which I am OK with. We still joke occasionally but don't go out of the way to really talk and it works considering we are dating other people now.

Do what you feel is right but it's a tough situation! Good luck!

[heyhihello0101]

Thanks for sharing that with me, it makes me feel like I'm not the only one that is going through/has gone though this. I shall try my hardest to figure something out to do. (:

[luciferius]

girl, I'm sorry but before you can have a stable relationship with anyone, you have to love yourself and fix your depression. I'm taking medication/counseling for my anxiety/depression issues too and until I'm done, I don't think I'm ready for any relationship. any relationship you enter into right now will only cause more depression/hurt in the long run - not right now but it'll make it worse. fix what you can right now, be the best you can be and don't say that he's the best thing that's happened to you because in truth, you're the best thing that can ever happen in your own life. own it and I wish you the best of luck with everything but remember to love yourself first. only then can other people truly love you.

[heyhihello0101]

I do love myself, well sometimes I do. But thanks I think I will stay away from the dating game (not like I actually get asked out ever ;o this guy was the first in like forever).

[Anonymous]

forget about him. he's probably saying when in the future when he thinks you care or when he think that its easier to be with you that he'll try it out again. or a just in case type situation. You should find a guy who is more understanding but on the same note you should be able to talk to one another and let each other know how you are feeling and what can be done to make things better in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

If YOU told a guy "maybe in the future..." what do you think YOU'D mean by it?

You'd be ending things, permanently, but trying to make things easier on him, because you know he's going to be hurt by the breakup. That's what you'd mean by it.

People are RARELY actually ~honest~ when it comes to breakups.

[heyhihello0101]

But I wouldn't ever say 'maybe in the future'. I would actually tell them that it was over and why, while trying to be easy on them.

[Opinion Owner]

Then you're an ~extreme~ rarity.

[toouglytobeloved]

you need to learn... guys are not the only ones who lead the relationship ... girls have to too... if your not going to be happy with a guy than don't go for one

[heyhihello0101]

We both took turns with who lead the relationship, and I was extremely happy with him, he was the best thing that has happened to me in a long while. But even before me and him got together I was having my depression mood swings and whatnot but when we got together they didn't come as much and they weren't as bad.

[toouglytobeloved]

maybe he's just a player ... and you should forget him and find another better guy

[heyhihello0101]

Possibly, thanks.

[ObscuredBeyond]

How much attention do you pay him? Do you make time for him? Do you show that you're motivated? There are plenty of ways to get a man to think you don't really care. And if he feels you're taking him for a ride, he's gonna look elsewhere.

What is the root of your depression?

[Raiden]

Depression, I think you need some love for a starter (emotional support). He wants to be friends so he can get a shagg when he feels lonely. I think you should focus on fixing the depression because that's what important. Stay busy

[heyhihello0101]

Yeah well thanks, I'll try to stay more busy then I have been lately, cause right about now I'll do about anything to fix it.

[Raiden]

Yes, keep busy, you notice that when you are busy doing something your brain doesn;t have time to worry. Is there something that you want but its difficult to obtain?

[heyhihello0101]

Not really, but half the time I don't know what I want till its in my face.

[Raiden]

Everyone gets deppressed that's for sure, you just need to chase what you are passion about, what is your main game, For example, Einstein was into physics, Tyson was into Boxing...you are into your own game, chase it and grow in it, you will not have time for your ex who wants you too feed his ego when he doesn;t emotionally support you at these times.

[_lightness_]

Once a boyfriend dumped me when I told him I was depressed. Some guys just aren't mature enough to handle that kind of thing, when he says 'maybe in the future' he's most likely trying to let you down easy.

[nadood]

wtf, what an ass, he's supposed to be there to support you when you're down, and instead he dumps you? you deserve a real man to be there for you to lean on him whenever you need him babe, and you will find him :)

[martyfellow]

He's politely saying goodbye. Not likely you'll ever have any sort of friendship.

[Anonymous]

hes a d***! move on and find someone 100x better!