Nothing wrong with it, or just feeling insecure it seems. Your hot and established but give the guy some credit he is a male. He has erges you can't simply put out. Plus sometimes it leads to better ideas in the bedroom. If you really hate it. Then do this.
Watch it with him and get an idea of what he likes and wants. Then form a plan and do it. So you can build some confidence and he can see you care. You can even cut a deal.
Porn can be more addictive than the hardest drugs for some guys. Without help, it can be a very frustrating and demoralizing process to try and cut the habbit. If he really wants to stop, he needs accountability from someone other than you and possibly some professional help.
I'm a 19 year old male and well I know how addiction pornography can be but if my women asked me to quit I would. I don't really think I would even watch porn If I had a girl friend because I know she can satisfy my urges spiritually and physically. I wish you luck with your problem talk to him, If he truly loves you he will do anything for you.
Dude, you don't really know how it is because you are too young to be addicted to porn, and you have never been in a long relationship.
i've been looking at porn for over 10 years. I have had many relationships and they have never given me any less reason to look at porn.
people need to understand that there is really no connection between looking at porn and relationships. suggesting I stop looking at porn when I am in a relationship is like suggesting I stop playing soccer, not logical.
I would demand he stop watching porn immediately, or get out of this relationship.
Testosterone and urges happen in single guys or where there is lack of sex..however if you do anything and everything then he needs to act on those desires with you.. Don't tolerate it..no more porn or tell him your gone
looking at p*rn is normal. he may be checking other girls out but I'm sure youve checked out guys too before, its not fun when it happens to you but its normal and EVERYONE does it. it doesn't mean anything will come out of it. I think you need to relax.
but anyway you sound hot so you should message me please
Speaking from the perspective of a grown woman your age, there's nothing wrong with you or him. This has nothing to do with you. It's just a fantasy he has, and it's involving pictures and not real people. It doesn't mean you aren't enough. You've never fantasized about another man? It's not meant to be anything that materializes in any realistic way. It's a harmless hormonal thing. I suggest you invest in some toys and have your own fantasy life so you won't feel bad about it anymore.
Hmm when I hear anyone doing anything like that I think of the 80/20 complex saying when a man/ woman is only getting 80 percent out of a relationship the person will go to another source for that extra 20 but this idk. he might not be perverted but I would talk with him about it. ask him if its something about you or if its him. its hard to tell. good luck! I hope everything works out for you and your family =[
Ease up. He is going to look at other women, or lie about it, or both. The best thing would be for him to just be honest about it. You look at other men (don't lie). I bet he doesn't have all these hateful feelings for you because of it. The best thing would be some counseling to address 1. Denial and dishonesty concerning only being able to find one person in the whole world attractive, and 2. Self esteem.
p*rn is a worldly thing and is wrong and very ungodly. Men/Women who look at p*rn their hearts and minds are set on the wrong things. It is very sad when everyone says it is normal. doesn't matter what is normal but what is right and wrong. That is whats wrong with people. I guarantee if you catch your little children looking at or watching it you would be mad but no its ok for you to watch it cause your an adult. No matter if no one can see you or if you are hiding it just remember GOD sees everything no matter how hard you try to hide. Satan is the destroyer and GOD is the healer. Just remember there is always a consequence for everything you do.
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Mans think that we women don't the same desire as they do infact I now some woman's who have such strong desire see man fail to realized that some of them at not even good looking at all but they think in their head that they are all that wake up the majority of does p*rn star woman don't mind getting laid and pay but they also HAVE A STONG DESIRE FOR THE SIX PACK MAN OR AT LEAST THE WELL FITTED MAN . That is all you see let's be real in does video because is not just about sex but also image so the gentlemans in this fascinating world YA THINK WE ARE LESS BEAUTIFUL A HAVE GOOD NEWS OS LESS ATTRACTIVE TAKE A GOOD LOOK AT YOUR SELF FIRST. And if p*rn is not going away neither are we wives and girlfriend.
just so you know, the parts of a woman's brain that light up during conversation are the same areas that light up in guy's brains when they look at hardcore porn. I look at absolutely crazy things that don't get translated into real life, like triple penetration, stuff like that. you are insecure and misunderstand why guys masturbate
I can vouch and say, that for the most part is purely psychological. And I don't think that he is unattractived to you in any way, shape, or form. But have you ever JUST masturbated or thought about having sex with someone other than your husband. Its like another world in the sexual imagination in the head of a guy. We/they just don't do it. And if guys don't agree with me, I don't think they are being entirely true.
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i would say let him do what he wants girl.if not this will cause strain on ur relationship its just video or pictures anyways if you can't stand him doing that am sure you could not stand him cheating..so let it be he'll get tiredor find ways to enjoy it with him...me and boyfriend does I'm always happy when he does because sex is always great after...
this seems like a f***ign trend stop f***ing searching guys history everyone loks at porn don't matter what it is he loves you an he is faithful then shut the hell up
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I wasn't searching his history and I sure the hell wasn't looking for that!. So just for the record..you guys are saying that just because he's not putting his dick in some other chick he's faithful? So your telling me that if your girlfriend/wife talked to other guys on the phone and had them fulfill her "needs" that wouldn't p*ss you off? Fulfilling her needs would be your job right? If not, what the hell does she have you for?
I heard this quote before. nothing is as good as a guy masturbateing for himself because it's his own rithem. maby you should look at naked men and see how he feels just do it for 1 week. hopely it won't back fire.
Guys just can't resist it "unlimited free naked women" it has nothing to do with you. If you are worried about your husband looking at other girls that's probably because he is but that is just human nature if you married him that means you should trust him and trust that he won't do any thing but look.
Hi…I’m truly sorry to be the bearer of this bad news BUT, you will never get it sorted! It is what it is! He is a PERV. Trust me when I tell you this! I’m almost 7 years in and I can’t get what I lost back! Yes, he did choose CHEAP OVER YOU. Even did it knowing how you were emotionally damaged prior. That’s the saddest part! Hope you can make back, but it never worked for me! Best of luck! 🙏
Wow, I understand how you feel. He should have respected your view on the whole shabang on porn -- especially if you try and succeed in keeping him sexually satisfied. Heck, I'd be frustrated beyond belief... but sadly, porn is a form of eye candy. Not saying everyone likes porn, but everyone likes eye candy.
But in this situation, he needs to let it go... it's hard as hell, but he should if he loves you.
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Nothing wrong with it, or just feeling insecure it seems. Your hot and established but give the guy some credit he is a male. He has erges you can't simply put out. Plus sometimes it leads to better ideas in the bedroom. If you really hate it. Then do this.
Watch it with him and get an idea of what he likes and wants. Then form a plan and do it. So you can build some confidence and he can see you care. You can even cut a deal.
Porn can be more addictive than the hardest drugs for some guys. Without help, it can be a very frustrating and demoralizing process to try and cut the habbit. If he really wants to stop, he needs accountability from someone other than you and possibly some professional help.
Check out the book Every Man's Battle link
I'm a 19 year old male and well I know how addiction pornography can be but if my women asked me to quit I would. I don't really think I would even watch porn If I had a girl friend because I know she can satisfy my urges spiritually and physically. I wish you luck with your problem talk to him, If he truly loves you he will do anything for you.
Lol!!!! naked photos of men online are gay sites. Well the men may still be hot!
Don't really have a comment to that.
Dude, you don't really know how it is because you are too young to be addicted to porn, and you have never been in a long relationship.
i've been looking at porn for over 10 years. I have had many relationships and they have never given me any less reason to look at porn.
people need to understand that there is really no connection between looking at porn and relationships. suggesting I stop looking at porn when I am in a relationship is like suggesting I stop playing soccer, not logical.
I would demand he stop watching porn immediately, or get out of this relationship.
Testosterone and urges happen in single guys or where there is lack of sex..however if you do anything and everything then he needs to act on those desires with you.. Don't tolerate it..no more porn or tell him your gone
looking at p*rn is normal. he may be checking other girls out but I'm sure youve checked out guys too before, its not fun when it happens to you but its normal and EVERYONE does it. it doesn't mean anything will come out of it. I think you need to relax.
but anyway you sound hot so you should message me please
Speaking from the perspective of a grown woman your age, there's nothing wrong with you or him. This has nothing to do with you. It's just a fantasy he has, and it's involving pictures and not real people. It doesn't mean you aren't enough. You've never fantasized about another man? It's not meant to be anything that materializes in any realistic way. It's a harmless hormonal thing. I suggest you invest in some toys and have your own fantasy life so you won't feel bad about it anymore.
Hmm when I hear anyone doing anything like that I think of the 80/20 complex saying when a man/ woman is only getting 80 percent out of a relationship the person will go to another source for that extra 20 but this idk. he might not be perverted but I would talk with him about it. ask him if its something about you or if its him. its hard to tell. good luck! I hope everything works out for you and your family =[
Ease up. He is going to look at other women, or lie about it, or both. The best thing would be for him to just be honest about it. You look at other men (don't lie). I bet he doesn't have all these hateful feelings for you because of it. The best thing would be some counseling to address 1. Denial and dishonesty concerning only being able to find one person in the whole world attractive, and 2. Self esteem.
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p*rn is a worldly thing and is wrong and very ungodly. Men/Women who look at p*rn their hearts and minds are set on the wrong things. It is very sad when everyone says it is normal. doesn't matter what is normal but what is right and wrong. That is whats wrong with people. I guarantee if you catch your little children looking at or watching it you would be mad but no its ok for you to watch it cause your an adult. No matter if no one can see you or if you are hiding it just remember GOD sees everything no matter how hard you try to hide. Satan is the destroyer and GOD is the healer. Just remember there is always a consequence for everything you do.
Mans think that we women don't the same desire as they do infact I now some woman's who have such strong desire see man fail to realized that some of them at not even good looking at all but they think in their head that they are all that wake up the majority of does p*rn star woman don't mind getting laid and pay but they also HAVE A STONG DESIRE FOR THE SIX PACK MAN OR AT LEAST THE WELL FITTED MAN . That is all you see let's be real in does video because is not just about sex but also image so the gentlemans in this fascinating world YA THINK WE ARE LESS BEAUTIFUL A HAVE GOOD NEWS OS LESS ATTRACTIVE TAKE A GOOD LOOK AT YOUR SELF FIRST. And if p*rn is not going away neither are we wives and girlfriend.
just so you know, the parts of a woman's brain that light up during conversation are the same areas that light up in guy's brains when they look at hardcore porn. I look at absolutely crazy things that don't get translated into real life, like triple penetration, stuff like that. you are insecure and misunderstand why guys masturbate
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I can vouch and say, that for the most part is purely psychological. And I don't think that he is unattractived to you in any way, shape, or form. But have you ever JUST masturbated or thought about having sex with someone other than your husband. Its like another world in the sexual imagination in the head of a guy. We/they just don't do it. And if guys don't agree with me, I don't think they are being entirely true.
i would say let him do what he wants girl.if not this will cause strain on ur relationship its just video or pictures anyways if you can't stand him doing that am sure you could not stand him cheating..so let it be he'll get tiredor find ways to enjoy it with him...me and boyfriend does I'm always happy when he does because sex is always great after...
this seems like a f***ign trend stop f***ing searching guys history everyone loks at porn don't matter what it is he loves you an he is faithful then shut the hell up
I wasn't searching his history and I sure the hell wasn't looking for that!. So just for the record..you guys are saying that just because he's not putting his dick in some other chick he's faithful? So your telling me that if your girlfriend/wife talked to other guys on the phone and had them fulfill her "needs" that wouldn't p*ss you off? Fulfilling her needs would be your job right? If not, what the hell does she have you for?
I heard this quote before. nothing is as good as a guy masturbateing for himself because it's his own rithem. maby you should look at naked men and see how he feels just do it for 1 week. hopely it won't back fire.
Good answer Kairon, my husband have more serious issues than porn, anyway I'll try to look at chip&dale , I know he hates it :)
This is going to take both couples and individual counseling to deal with the multifaceted issues you both have.
Lastly until he sees it as a problem for himself, he will not change
Guys just can't resist it "unlimited free naked women" it has nothing to do with you. If you are worried about your husband looking at other girls that's probably because he is but that is just human nature if you married him that means you should trust him and trust that he won't do any thing but look.
Hi…I’m truly sorry to be the bearer of this bad news BUT, you will never get it sorted! It is what it is! He is a PERV. Trust me when I tell you this! I’m almost 7 years in and I can’t get what I lost back! Yes, he did choose CHEAP OVER YOU. Even did it knowing how you were emotionally damaged prior. That’s the saddest part! Hope you can make back, but it never worked for me! Best of luck! 🙏
Wow, I understand how you feel. He should have respected your view on the whole shabang on porn -- especially if you try and succeed in keeping him sexually satisfied. Heck, I'd be frustrated beyond belief... but sadly, porn is a form of eye candy. Not saying everyone likes porn, but everyone likes eye candy.
But in this situation, he needs to let it go... it's hard as hell, but he should if he loves you.