Why do liberal women on dating sites frequently say "don't contact me unless you hate Trump?" but conservative women don't make analogous statements?

[OlderAndWiser]

I am back in the dating game and, at the recommendation of @CoachTAnthony, I am trying Bumble. I have perused several hundred profiles in the past few days. I've noticed that about 10% of the profiles of women who identified themselves as liberals contains statements like, "If you don't hate Trump, we won't do well together" or "Trump is an idiot and I won't date you unless you agree." Other women identified themselves as conservatives, moderates, or they omitted a political label altogether. Not one - not even ONE - of those profiles said "Joe Biden is an idiot" or "Elizabeth Warren is an idiot" or any other candidate is an idiot.

Who is being tolerant and who is being divisive?

Liberal women know that all conservatives are losers and they don't want to waste their time!

Liberal women know that their opinion of Trump must be right and they aren't interested in dating stupid people!

Liberal women don't need to test their tolerance and love for diversity of thought with Trump supporters

Conservative women are more tolerant than liberal women

Conservative women are more intelligent that liberal women

Conservative women are more mature than liberal women

It's a stupid lie, you moron conservative!

[TonyBologna25]

Most liberals where I come from are highly irrational, highly emotional, highly unaccepting to opposing views, and just unpleasant to be around. I simply ignore them. They're not worth the debate. They will argue you in circles with you till you get pissed off and become frustrated at their inability to have a simple constructive conversation, and then capitalize on this by throwing emotional jabs and twisting your own words on you. They tend to argue on this notion that they are simply a better person than you morally. When you present facts, they will name-call and throw a tantrum until you walk away.

The democratic party has been absolutely disgusting these past few years, and even the few democrats in my family are now voting republican. If a girl needs to announce her political views in a way of hatred on a simple dating profile, then she should be avoided regardless of how good she looks. Normal, level-headed, and rational people simply don't do this.

[OlderAndWiser]

"Ain't no p____ that good!" :) :) :) I hear you, brother!

[jss123]

I'm not American but even where I live I've noticed liberals are prejudiced even more than conservatives. I've got friends from both sides and the liberals want people in relationships that are exactly like them. No one else.
Isn't that the definition of prejudice? The thing they supposibly hate..

[OlderAndWiser]

You get it!

[Red-Blaze]

I think its a case of what you looking for vs reality
I assume its just that you seen few of them and taken it as general to them

Beside that its likely you see more of them as his the president now, his the identity that is really "loud" around the commuinty, so you see more about it
I think its likely to flip when the other side will be the "loud" one

Sorry I keep forgetting who's who, don't live in the US, so not sure about your partys

[OlderAndWiser]

Did you read all of my post? You think I am generalizing and what I actually said was "I've noticed that about 10% of the profiles of women who identified themselves as liberals contains statements like. . .."

[Red-Blaze]

I read all of it, sorry if it sounded like I said you generalize I was mostly trying to talk about the profiles not showing it or the like, that I think may be more likely to be missed if your not looking for them spasficlly

But the biggest reason I think is just that he is the president so has more eyes on then the other names
Personally living outside the US only name I heard there before reading the post was Trump 😅

[1truekhaleesi]

I've seen on profiles, "don't contact me if you're a feminist."

[OlderAndWiser]

Of course, I don't peruse guys profiles, so I wouldn't know about that. I would not want to date a hostile, aggressive feminist but I have dated many women who really only wanted equality of opportunity.

[1truekhaleesi]

I'm a feminist and I truly do want equality of opportunity. I've given up telling guys that until they get to know me.

[OlderAndWiser]

The problem that you have is that another group misappropriated your name and you get blamed for their sins. It is similar to what happened to Southerners who are not racist and who are proud of their Southern heritage. If they display a flag of the Confederacy, they are automatically labelled as racists because there are actual racists who like to wave that same flag.

[razelove]

I think both B and a little D, but B being their honest belief. Not reality. Some people can't handle and don't want to hear opposing views, ever. They have conviction. If you don't think like them you are subhuman and obviously living your life wrong.

One day you'll see the error of your ways and are simply misguided. Another phrase for that would be confirmation bias. All information only reinforces their existing beliefs. Everyone has confirmation bias to some extent or other.

Some people just suffer it to an extreme. 2+2 is 4, but also sometimes 5, and no matter what proof you show it will reinforce the belief in whichever value they believe in. Also they just know what they want, someone who will agree with them.

[WhiteSteve]

Well... I think we can all agree that Trump is very polarizing, and not your traditional politician, whether you view that as good or bad. I can definitely see where some could view him as a distasteful person, I wouldn’t tell you I think he’s a good guy, just on a human level, regardless of his political moves or proposals, and I’d have said that before he even ran for office, although some of the stories I’ve heard since then just cement that belief. That said, that’s independent of his performance as a president. In all honesty, I don’t put any stock in politics, so that’s just a bunch of fake-life white noise that I pay no mind to, just on the strength that I only allow myself to make rules that apply to me, I don’t permit complete strangers to do that for me, whether it’s Trump, Obama, Bush II, Clinton, Bush I, Reagan, Carter, or whoever #47 and beyond end up being, I simply refuse to be a part of that game. They are all #NotMyPresident, I’ll never fold to the demands of another mere human being no better or worse than you or I, that’s the height of insanity to me. So I say all that to say that, depending on who you ask, Trump has done some positive things economically, with trade deals, etc. And he’s been the most contested president of my lifetime, so no doubt that has hampered his ability to accomplish things, whether I’d like them or not, to a point where we could really fairly assess the guy.

So for these liberal women... in my best estimation, if I were to make a blanket statement, is that liberals are concerned with doing what is kind and decent, particularly for the have-nots, and conservatives are most concerned with doing what’s “best for business”, and they find some sort of pride or merit to being a big swinging dick in the global political scene, and to them, it’s important that America remains in that position. While I don’t have a dog in the fight, and rather just dislike the perceived need for the fight as a whole, I will take this opportunity to point out that when you look at these “happiest citizens” studies, when not conducted by Americans, it’s always the countries who are NOT swinging dicks, who more go out of their way to NOT look to achieve that status, and kind of just self-sufficiently and quietly go about their business, like your Switzerlands and Scandinavian countries of the world. So what’s best for America the political and economic entity may not necessarily be what’s best for the American citizen, but that’s all I really have to say on that matter, haha. So anyway, regarding the liberal women, it’s much more Trump’s persona that upsets people than his policies, I think. They don’t like the policies, but it’s amplified because they think the dude is a vile piece of shit on a human level. But more than anything, people seem to have, whether they realize it or not, more of a problem with Trump’s supporters than Trump himself. That doesn’t, or at least shouldn’t, mean ALL people who voted for Trump. Just yesterday at Christmas dinner my aunt said Trump was a sociopath... but she typically votes republican (despite being a lesbian, haha), voted for Trump
last time, would do it again, and will likely do it again in 2020. But she thinks the guy is inarguably a disgusting person, she just thinks he was the best available option as far as policy and direction. I think a lot of stuff was overblown by the right about Hillary Clinton, but I still wouldn’t say she’s a clean politician, she’s a fucking fraud like like pretty much every politician is. But whatever side you’re on, you’ll buy what they’re selling, most likely. So the problem with Trump is that his loudest and proudest supporters are extremely antagonistic. People don’t wear MAGA hats because they like Trump as much as they do it to piss off people who don’t like Trump, I’m pretty certain of that. Like if it didn’t get a rise out of people they’d be less likely to do it, I think we’re kidding ourselves to believe otherwise.

[WhiteSteve]

I remember people of course not liking Bush Part Deux, thinking the Iraq War was based on oil control or finishing his father’s bidding, all that shit, but if you had a “W” sticker on your car, you wouldn’t get harassed or have your windshield smashed or your paint job keyed up. Trump? I’m not so sure, haha. But anyway, I’m rambling, the point is, Trump’s staunchest supporters are loud, proud, and it seems a lot of them are VERY MUCH into antagonizing people who disagree with them, and half of those detractors are crazy as all get out themselves. Like this isn’t your standard “one side won, one side lost, see ya again in four years”, this was a “we absolutely CANNOT allow this type of person to be our president” this time. And whatever you think about that, it’s pretty inarguable that the MAGA crowd has been loving every second of this victory lap, and my neutral opinion on that is that it’s just as counterproductive to do that than it is to fight the outcome of an election.

[WhiteSteve]

So after all that, I’m just saying that I think there’s a stigma of being a Trump supporter that it automatically means you’re one or all of the following: racist, xenophobic, homophobic, elitist, anti-diversity, anti-modern/progressive attitudes, and that you simply stand for old, outdated, unacceptable standards and codes of behavior. And unfortunately there are enough idiots in the MAGA camp that proudly profess these ideals to the point where you could say it’s something of a trend. Like I went to deliver a Christmas present to our neighbor for my dad, dude is a big MAGA guy, has a Keep America Great 2020 hat and a bright red MAGA scarf that he absolutely wears to get a rise out of “snowflakes”, like he’s “that guy.” I was shocked and appalled as I approached his front lawn that he had one of those lawn jockey statuettes that I thought we all kind of made a gentlemen’s agreement like 30 years ago to not have those anymore on account of racial insensitivity. I asked my dad about it and said “Charlie seems like the kind of guy to have that thing just because he likes that it offends people”, and my dad said that’s absolutely why he has it. I’m pretty sure our mailman in the neighborhood is black too, so that’s a HORRIBLE look. I’m all for the whole “don’t be so sensitive” movement, but some shit is just over the line, and that’s one of those things.

[WhiteSteve]

So, sorry for the War & Peace version of all this, haha, I think the gist of what I’m saying is that liberal women don’t like Trump, and that’s only reinforced by some of his worst supporters. Just like they like to say people with more PC agendas “are just helping him get re-elected”, people like that are just helping liberals hate the whole Trump faction even more. I’d agree some liberal views are way too sensitive and based in semantics and other dumb bullshit, but I don’t think the answer is to go the other way with it and try to enforce the idea that “free speech” has anything to do with being a hateful and bigoted asshole. And that has happened enough with Trump’s craziest supporters, who not only do it, but do it with antagonistic gusto, that it’s at least fair to think a person who supports Trump isn’t going to have the base level of decency (by their standard) that they look for in a partner. I’ve never seen this country so polarized, and it’s sad, not for the country necessarily, I don’t care what happens to America as long as the land mass still remains to live on, the management will never be acknowledged by or relevant to me, but I just think that if we’re at a point where your politics are a defining characteristic of who we are, and we can’t be friends with people who don’t agree with us... we have just lost the plot and are absolutely fuuuuuucccckkkkked.

[musicbrain5]

I wouldn’t say that 10% of profiles self-identifying as liberal making that statement is “frequent”, but that’s just me. I didn’t vote because I don’t like any of the options. Every individual in each camp is just that - an individual, with individual thoughts and feelings towards other opinions.

I very rarely talk about politics on here or flaunt my beliefs and leanings, as I have come under fire for it each time I have by established users I will not mention. But, here I go. As a fairly liberal person myself - remember I’m Canadian, so to Americans I probably seem off the charts, haha 😆 - I am in no way a fan of Trump. I find him to be an extremely divisive individual, more so than any other President in recent years, or even decades. I disagree with most of what he and his base of supporters believe in. However, that is only my opinion, and I’m not going to berate or alienate anybody for thinking differently, unlike these women on the app.

They are making your screening process easier. Stick to the other 90%. If only 10% of the pool has been eliminated for you, you’re very lucky.

[noone89]

As a liberal woman I would say it's to make sure you don't end up with someone with opposing views and honestly when it comes to supporting trump specifically, yes it can definitely create a divide. Our morals typically tend to be completely different and nobody wants a hot debate at home 😒 i’d hate to be with a man who's gonna want to argue with me about believing in open borders or supporting abortion rights. I rather we each stay in our own homes with fitting families and also I would prefer my kid to grow up liberal of course when he gets older he can choose and i’d 100% still love him just that same.

[ThisAndThat]

Yeah, supporting your right to murder, IE abortion.

[noone89]

Absolutely I support the right to woman have the right to choice when they do and don’t want bring life into the world. I can respect your opinion though.

[DorkVader]

Preach sus! Liberal women, and especially black women, look out for our best interests. We have a lot to lose, and we can't afford to play with politics when we live with the effects daily.

[OlderAndWiser]

"Our morals typically tend to be completely different" Too many liberals - I am not accusing you of this - arrogantly conclude that conservatives have NO morals!

"nobody wants a hot debate at home" I dated a liberal for two years and I remember contentious discussions of politics happening only twice.

"i’d hate to be with a man who's gonna want to argue with me. . ." Why do you assume that a conservative man would want to argue with you. I've never dated anyone for the purpose of working on their political conversion.

" I would prefer my kid to grow up liberal of course" Why wouldn't you want them to make those decisions for themselves?

[noone89]

@DorkVader the absolute TRUTH 👌💯 we stand up for everybody

[noone89]

And black woman definitely are most often to speak up, I know us latinas do too but not as often sadly I would love to see that though but a lot of people are scared to talk about politics or just don't want to.

[noone89]

@OlderAndWiser yeah sorry I don't like Republicans like that and would not want my home to clash together like that because yes I tend to disagree with Republicans. I love talking about politics so I def don't want a home where I can't do that in and no I don't want someone who thinks differently in my own home because the things we'd disagree on would probably not even matter to said Republicans the same way they do to me. I know where I'm from though not too many people are Republicans.

[OlderAndWiser]

Liberals stand up for everybody. . . except women who are oppressed in Muslim countries, homosexuals who are murdered in Muslim countries, conservatives who have their free speech rights abridged, and the American flag!

[OlderAndWiser]

So if you can't tolerate people who disagree with you, perhaps you should stop calling yourself tolerant.

[noone89]

Stop lying yes we do and fuck conservatives free speech rights we know what your ignorant selfs mean by that, you want the right to scream at people to go back to their country in public and e. t. c. And Americas legacy needs to be rewritten because it was originally for the white Man to succeed.

[noone89]

I am just in my own home I don't need to be with a conservative, liberal men for me only.

[OlderAndWiser]

You have revealed yourself.

[DorkVader]

Infinite eyerolls. Because someone doesn't wish to argue over politics daily, which if you care, you're gonna argue, isn't indicative of intolerance. It's a matter of self preservation. Who invites that kind of strife and turmoil into their home? Often politics are intangible to some people, but we live and breathe it daily. I wouldn't want to bother trying to argue my perspective daily with someone who lacked empathy. Empathy meaning is unwilling or unable to take my stance into account.

[noone89]

Amen @DorkVader exactly!! We all have the right to accept who we want into our homes and who we even want to build one with.

[OlderAndWiser]

@DorkVader I am a conservative and, for two years, I dated a dedicated liberal. We had two arguments about politics in two years. Disagreements do not need to lead to arguments. . . at least not for conservatives.

"I wouldn't want to bother trying to argue my perspective daily with someone who lacked empathy. Empathy meaning is unwilling or unable to take my stance into account." And you take the conservative stance into account when dealing with your conservative friends (if you have any?)

[OlderAndWiser]

Of course you have the right to decide who to invite into your home. That is not what the discussion was about, and you are trying to change the topic.

[DorkVader]

You can't seriously sit here and have me believe all conservatives are rational and benevolent, same like I know all liberals aren't the same way. Good for you and your dedicated liberal ex. I said for me, it's not good enough.

[noone89]

Yes it this is what it’s about choosing to let someone into your home and no not everyone has to choose to allow republicans in or any other political party. Each to their own but some of us won’t date someone who’s not from a party we agree with.

[OlderAndWiser]

That's because you aren't tolerant of diversity. And, yes, you have the right to be intolerant.

[DorkVader]

Tolerance to diversity is a goddam laugh coming from a conservative! Waaaayyyyyyyy to farcical for me. Stay strong @noone89. I'm out! *finger guns*

[noone89]

I disagree with Republicans we don’t hold the same views or morals period. I can be friends with a Republican but to full on allow one into my home and to invite that type of negativity is just a no for me. I’m into politics and don’t want someone who’s gonna obviously not agree with me in my own home.

[OlderAndWiser]

@DorkVader Liberals are the hypocrites on tolerance! Your words prove that point!

[OlderAndWiser]

That's fine, but what you are describing is called intolerance to diversity of thought. Why is it so difficult for you to admit that?

[1828ToastyTimothy]

@OlderAndWiser Wow. Just wow. She got weird with you as well, eh. It's any wonder 3 of 4 men gave her a down vote. The three men who gave her a thumbs up are soy boys! I can now appreciate why the general liberal consensus in 2020 is to silence dissenting views they deem contentious! She threw out a bunch of profanity at me straight away on a thread meant to be a joke! On top of that, she got all butt hurt because I told her she was immature and needed to act her age! It's laughable how, in a liberal democracy, the one thing people -- Liberals in particular -- chose not to support is the diversity of thought and opinion. The funny thing is: the only reason why there's any negativity between her and people with different political beliefs has a lot to do with her inability to discuss openly different opinions. She's just very closed-minded and unable to manage disagreement. I actually thought I was the only one with whom she screeched at on this platform! 😆

[noone89]

This post was from 2 months ago and since when does no one on this app get in debates?
Also don’t be a hypocrite a point out how I was talking when he was being just the same and honestly I’m not about to start arguing over this when it happened two months ago and it’s strange that you even came to find this.
You’re extremely bothered over our encounter and it’s been like a day now right? Yeah get help dude.

[noone89]

And there was nothing wrong with what I said at all. I said you can believe I’m what you want but to I won’t date someone i disagree with when i don’t want to simple as that.

[noone89]

Also to the intolerance comment, no it’s not when I’d still be Friends with them that is definitely being tolerant is it not? Dating no though but that’s a dating preference you don’t just choose your friends based off of if you would date them and by the way I’m sorry for even responding to this 2 months later I genuinely don’t want to start another debate over this.

[CubsterShura]

Conservatives are generally more tolerant of other political views, regardless of gender. Liberals have very strong opinions against anyone that doesn't agree with them a slight bit, and they are intolerant towards anyone that's not the same as them. So I'm not surprised with their dating profiles. Recently I came across a Liberal... Awful. She accused me of sounding like a White Supremacist (can you believe? Do I sound like a White Supremacist to you?)

[OlderAndWiser]

I would never affix that label to you!

[CubsterShura]

She told me I sound like a White Supremacist and if I'm not a White Supremacist then I shouldn't be portraying myself in a way that I seem like one. And I had to hear that because of a Facebook status that said that Liberals will totally flip if anyone calls them derogatory names yet they find it okay to call others derogatory names.

I think the only thing that I could have on common with a White Supremacist is that I speak English. I don't know what else I've done that she thinks I talk like a White Supremacist!

[OlderAndWiser]

Many liberals call people names instead of discussing the merits of an issue because it is easier for them.

[CubsterShura]

They are quick to classify anyone as a hateful person. Or at least sketchy.

[SpacedCharr]

I mean, on the plus side, they're laying out their intolerant cards right at the get go.

Remember, friend: don't stick your dick in crazy. And when crazy reveals itself, just run. In a zig zag. They're easily confused by people who can change their minds.

[OlderAndWiser]

Done it a couple of times. Experience is a great teacher!

[sagevalentineee]

I find it is more socially accepted to be more liberal and less conservative. I am a UK citizen and we have labour and conservative here. My views have usually aligned more with the conservative party. On the rare occasions where I have actually hinted at my political opinions, I was just attacked with a slew of uncalled for hate by those who I thought were friends, no less. It causes far less trouble than to simply go along with the political opinions of whoever I'm with, for the sake of everyone getting along.

[sagevalentineee]

I would also that it's rather immature to only want to talk to those of a certain political belief. I have no religion, but have various muslim and christian friends, and we have zero issues.

[Anonymous]

I'm a democrat. And since Trump has sexually assualted women, diacriminated people for their race and lied about so many things I would have a really hard time understanding why someone would support him. Just like I would have a really hard time understanding why someone would support Putin.

However I would accept it and I would never say or write "don't talk to me if you are a trump supporter". I can have a discussion about it without it being an argument.

However if you are a republican it's problaby easier to get along with someone who has the same view as you. So in a way they are doing you a favour.

Hope my comment helped.😊

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, I understand what you said, but I dated a liberal woman for two years, we only had 2 heated political discussions, and we had really good chemistry.

[Opinion Owner]

That's Nice that you got along! It works but problaby easier if you have the same view.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you can't develop the ability to tolerate people who occasionally disagree with you, you will never be happy in a long term relationship.

[Pipeliner87]

Don't forget about your great Clinton's I mean Bill Clinton is a rapist and Hillary protected a pedophile.

So honestly don't throw that whole who's holier than thou crap around because guess what... if you could read every democrat and republican minds you would find that both are equally guilty of sexual crimes and worse. It's human nature girl welcome to the club.

[Opinion Owner]

@Pipeliner87 I'm not gonna waste my time talking to you but thinking isn't illegal. Trump has been guilty of many crimes and sexual assualt and racism is not something I take lightly. If you can find evidamce that Obama has done the same then pleace show me.

Otherwise Merry Christmas🎁🎅

[Opinion Owner]

Also I don't like Hillary or Bill. I liked Obama. And I like Bernie Sanders right now too. Problaby more than Obama.

[Pipeliner87]

A Bernie supporter, Intolerant, Racist, Young, Want's free things they have not worked for, Lazy, Poor, Has no idea what hard work is, Sense of entitlement is their primary goal, They have no sense of accountability for their choices in life, It's the government's fault "NOT MINE"!, Make's irrational choices based on emotions.

[Opinion Owner]

@Pipeliner87 i will have to disagree with you. People deserve health care No matter what and poor People usually work more than rich People. They can have up to 3 jobs. Also democrat want equality for all People that's why we want health care for all even you republican who hate muslims/women and don't want everyone to have the same rights like health care and People who shit on poor People when they work harder. Poor People usually have 3 jobs to survive. They work much harder than rich People.

I hope you change your mind when it comes to racism and health care. The billionares don't need that much money infart they dont notice a difference in paying taxes cause they can't get rid of the money by itself.

Good luck in the future. Read more about the subject before you judge. :)

[Opinion Owner]

I respect your opinion and I dont wanna start an argument but I disagree.

MERRY Christmas 🎄🎁🎅😊

[Izumiblu]

I used to think trump derangement syndrome was kind of a hyperbolic way of making fun of people that were put off by trump.

I’m thinking lately it might actually be a thing cuz there are some people that hate him so much they’ll do very egregious things and call it righteousness and not even recognize the hypocrisy of it.

Ultimately Gotta be grateful for these people though cause they will be responsible for getting him elected again.

[Bane644]

It's stupid to filter out someone based on their political beliefs, not only does it not change anything about who they are (unless they're extremists) because most liberals and conservatives are regular folks with regular lifestyles but different opinions which to me is what democracy should be: different opinions yet we can respectfully listen and understand the other persons point of view.
I know that if I agreed on everything politics with my girlfriend I'd get bored easily it's good to have different opinions and debate over them but you can still like that person even though they don't agree.
It's as saying you don't like someone because they have a different skin colour which is dumb. Or saying the relationship can't work because your zodiac signs don't match!

[Cnote22]

I think it’s actually bc progressives are typically less religious it’s almost like progressivism is the religion where conservatives tend to have a separate religion and politics are separate.

Saying don’t contact me if you don’t hate Trump is kind of like saying don’t contact me if you’re not a Christian who loves God

[OlderAndWiser]

I am a Christian and I have dated atheists and agnostics. I respect every person's right to believe what they believe without condemnation.

[Cnote22]

I’m also a Christian who dates outside of his religion so I wasn’t implying all Christians are against dating outside of their religion, just like not all progressives refuse to date Trump supporters, but some do.

[OlderAndWiser]

Got it!

[coachTanthony]

---------I am actually kind of glad they do put that on their profile because it's much better to find out now that they are crazy then after a date or two.

Many liberal women wear it as a badge of honor and the good guys see it as a dead squirrel.

Not a good look.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, "thanks for not wasting my time!" I think to myself.

[bifus]

Trump has been credibly accused of sexual harassment and assault. A lot of liberal women don't want to date someone who would support or tolerate a politician like that. Also, most people don't want to argue about politics with their significant other, and want someone with shared political values.

[OlderAndWiser]

So why is it that conservative women don't act the same way?

[cth96190]

“credibly accused”
First, your lack of basic literacy is showing.
Credibly is an adverb in this context, so it must follow the verb.
Second, you are full of shit.
There is NO evidence that survives scrutiny.
Even if there was evidence, I could care less who he screws.

[andreasderjuengere]

As a provocation: Conservative women can't afford to be picky - only a few guys want them :D :D
However: to carry politics into a relationship as a 'qualifying' factor will ONLY make sense when 'politics' are a very relevant thing in someone's life. Why not voice it out? It saves time.

[OlderAndWiser]

I understand everything that you said but you missed the point. I have no problem with people having political preferences and voicing those preferences. It is the extreme level of hatred demonstrated and absolute intolerance that impresses me as being pathological. AND I did not see that same level of hatred and intolerance demonstrated by any of the conservative women. (I'm not saying that it never happens but it didn't happen in any of the profiles I have viewed over the past 4 days.)

[andreasderjuengere]

I see: the 'intensity' is your point.

[OlderAndWiser]

Exactly! It's not a facet of their life; it is their entire life, their raison d'être.

[MajesticTwelve]

Liberals in general know their belief system is weak as hell, and if anyone challenges it, it'll all fall apart. They cannot afford introspection, so they avoid it at all costs.

[Passinggas]

Great comment in fact!

[lightbulb27]

they are showing their emotional colors. The liberals are more... sensitive and triggered. They cannot have a conversation about it without being set off into a bad emotional place. I just consider them the emotionally unbalanced.

But there are people who are towards middle ground who hate Trump.

Interesting metric to watch... do more relationships break around election time... lol.

Good luck out there! Why not go to a foreign land? Philipines, Slovenia? Fish in new waters...

[OlderAndWiser]

I have handled the divorce of an American who married a Russian bride. I know how manipulative such relationships can be. I am receptive to dating Europeans who are already in this country. In fact, I have dated women from the Ukraine, Poland, Germany, and Ireland.

[lightbulb27]

I can only imagine... I've seen good success in Philippines... catholic, family values. Doesn't mean all... just %'s.

[SarahsSummer]

It’s because Trump is a polarizing, divisive, and controversial individual on a whole other level than most politicians.

[SarahsSummer]

I really don’t understand the down votes. Even if you have trump pillowcases on your bed, trump steaks in your fridge and trump ties (Made in China) in your closet, you must recognize he is polarizing figure.

[OlderAndWiser]

I think that most people realize that Trump is the object of polarization but many also feel that the media and the left's intolerance is what has caused the divisiveness.

[SarahsSummer]

It couldn’t just be the media coverage of Trumps own words? like “John McCain.. not a war hero...
I like people that weren’t captured,”
Or media coverage of Trumps nicknames
“Lyin’ Ted”
“Weird Rand” Paul
“Sleepy Joe” Biden
“Crazy Nancy” Pelosi
“Little Marco” Rubio
are those not polarizing comments? Especially to those Constituents who support the afore mentioned politicians who’ve disagreed with him?

[OlderAndWiser]

Is it one or the other. Can't it be both? I will admit that Trump loses style points every time he opens his mouth but do you sincerely believe that the media gives him unbiased coverage and adequately addresses his accomplishments?

[SarahsSummer]

I think there are definite biases in media (mostly the op-ed variety marketed as “news” ) but there’s certainly no media bias in his actual tweets and actual on-camera quotes.
Going all the way back to George Washington, whatever the president of the United States says is “news” and Influential. it’s just unfortunate that
one needs to pick and choose what this president says is news worthy or just noise from an insecure narcissist. Either way, his words are influential and polarizing.

[OlderAndWiser]

And so are the words of Nancy Pelosi, Adam Schiff, Joe Biden, Bernie Sanders, etc., but they do not get the same scrutiny and criticism that Trump draws. The difference is not because Trump is the president, because Obama did not get that kind of constant antagonistic coverage, either. But W got coverage that was very biased and networks openly called him stupid.

[SarahsSummer]

Media has always satirized, and caricatured politicians. Most take it in stride as part of the job but I don’t think there’s ever been a politician let alone the US President who publicly berated war hero's, the US intelligence agencies, , law enforcement, US allies, Hollywood OR the media the way this president does. If nothing else, trump is very good at getting people to notice him.

[OlderAndWiser]

The media went very light on Obama; he was their darling. The media was also not very critical of Bill Clinton. It is a matter of degree but it us significant.

I admitted that Trump was a buffoon but you seem reluctant to say that the media has done anything unfair to Trump. I think both of those are obvious facts.

[SarahsSummer]

I see the media report on Trump activity. Some simply report the activity, Some demonize his activity and some lionize his activity but at the core, it’s all Trump being Trump that gets the media’s attention. Polarizing attention.

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay. The media treats him with the utmost fairness and exceptional lack of bias. Anything negative is all his fault.

Is it possible that you are perceiving things in a very polarized way?

[SarahsSummer]

I actually try very hard to not let my opinions be biased by a news report. As with my business, I try to do extensive research from multiple angles on a subject before I give my opinion to clients. it’s the same here. I can safely say that while I acknowledge certain biases in reporting Trump, I work hard to not let them influence my opinions.

[SarahsSummer]

It’s also why I am a registered independent. I look at all angles before voting on who will represent me. Based on many of my core beliefs, I tend to vote republican. But not always. And I’m honestly getting increasingly tired of politicians and the so called intelligent public just towing the party line.

[Soorena]

I think you are going to weird dating websites, I have seen liberal girls and political thoughts were usually not among their immediate dating requirments, while I do believe women tend to have slightly more radical political beliefs than men, I think women saying "no trump fans" on their profiles were meant to express the fact that they are not just a piece of body to have sex with but that also they have a brain with political thoughts even if they said thoughts do not have general approval. Women like men are willing to make compromises on their beliefs if they are really interested with a relationship with worthy person

[OlderAndWiser]

So, when a liberal woman says, "Don;t contact me if you are a Trump supporter!" she doesn't really mean it and I should contact her anyway?

[silvermoon84]

I’ve noticed the same thing with men on dating sites and on social media. I’m conservative and I have a friend who is staunchly liberal. He’s been trying to get me over to the left for years and doesn’t seem to get that it’s not going to happen. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t like Trump but there are many opinions and values held by the left that I don’t agree with. I would date a liberal as long as we came to a mutual agreement to leave each other’s parties alone.

[Sabretooth]

if you ask me-this goes way beyond politics or parties in regards to trump.

[SydneySentinel]

I can only answer from what I've seen from men on dating sites, which is both parties expressing disinterest in the other.
"If you're a Trump supporter, don't bother."
"If you're anti-Trump, you won't be making anything great with me."