yeah, the list of things, traits, that turn girls off is way longer than the list of things, traits that turn guys off, that is enough to show you that it's harder for a guy to attract a girl than the other way around
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yeah I would say so, me myself being a girl, I don't get why so many people say it is easier for guys, I think we girls have the upper hand
because being quiet, shy, socially-awkward, hurts guys way more than girls, a girl can get a date or boyfriend even if she is quiet, shy, socially-awkward, but guys can't
this is true, but ugly chicks are just SOL. also I think this changes with age...not a lot of guys want older women (even older guys) but a surprising number of girls like older guys
Shy, quiet girls can turn a guy off too, ya know. I've dated plenty of shy, reserved girls and I usually cut the date short and walk away. If there's lack of chemistry, why bother?
A note on shy/quiet people - not all of them stay that way once they see someone is interested in them. I'm a shy/quiet person myself, but as soon as I notice someone's trying to talk to me, I make an effort. Of course, not ALL shy people are like this. If you're a shy/quiet person who still stays quiet even when people are talking to you, and make no effort in the conversation, then you're not just being shy - you're being boring. And no matter how hot you are, it isn't going to pass.
I think guys have to try harder than girls. Girls (not all but most) essentially just sit back and wait to see who asks them out (be it a dinner date or an actual relationship). They get to be more picky than guys. At least it seems to me...
Im taking about all the risks in the relationship. I can see your point at a simple 'asking out', but proposing is quite a risk regardless of how you look at it.
Girls have it harder. A lot of guys say that it's harder for guys because we have to do the approaching. I don't see that as a big deal compare to what girls have to do to get approached.
I voted B...it is no easier and no harder as a gender...depends on the individual...any advantages or disadvantages for either gender are equalized elsewhere...not easy for anybody? lol...(:
Would you be willing to explain the equalizing elsewhere?
Because if a guy has a quality that is equalized elsewhere, and the girl doesn't even give the guy the chance to share that quality, then the quality does not matter. Am I right?
Equalizing qualities only matter AFTER a girl is welcoming to converse.
You are referring to the initial hookup...sure his Question reads "dating" and anyone will tell you it is easier for a female to have sex or accept a date...but life is a little longer than that...females have a hell of a time finding a good match for a husband and then it doesn't work out lots of times...how many single mothers are there wandering around...looking for a date or another husband?
When I tried dating online, I sent 10+ emails a day. I probably sent out about 50 total..with about 2 replies. Online dating basically proves men have it harder I think!
Well looking at it from this perspective, you could say that the amount of attention attractive girls receive over the Internet when compared to guys, show how much easier girls have it. That's if we are to assume that more people hitting on girls means they have it easier, which isn't what I think. There's more to it than that.
When you're online dating you've got to stand out from the crowd. You can't just put "hey" or "what's up" or "How are you, have a fun day" You've got to have great pictures, a good byline and intruiging emails that are relevant to the specific women. I know it's a lot of work but the payoff will be great! check out this link here, and get free dating advice every day!
1. We are expected to pay for everything. Forget the "I'm an independent girl, I'll pay too." Even if they say that, they'll treat you like a jerk if you let them pay.
2. We have to make first contact.
3. When do you ever see a girl work to get a boyfriend? All they have to do is look pretty and immediately get attention. We have to work to get them to even look at us.
4. We have to put up with them during, "that time of the month."
Agree... couldn't agree more - we all know it is, anyone else who says otherwise is a flat out liar and an instigator
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I would agree with is if I couldn't take my own experiences into account, but I have been the one to approach/initiate things with guys way too often lately to say that girls have it easy.
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Yeah but how hard is it to try? Women have to try a lot more to look good. All we gotta do is sack up and stop caring about being rejected. Seriously, you're overthinking it. Just practice and get better. Let go of your insecurities and doubts and anything else that holds you back.
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Maybe in the beginning. But a true relationship is about equal amount of giving and taking.
OH GOD YES! If I guy doesn't fit the norm 5'10 or better plenty of money the shorter guys are screwed. I am 5'7 a good looking guy, in shape, dress nice, asked 8 women out had 4 dates. All failed what the heck am I doing wrong here?!
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yeah, the list of things, traits, that turn girls off is way longer than the list of things, traits that turn guys off, that is enough to show you that it's harder for a guy to attract a girl than the other way around
yeah I would say so, me myself being a girl, I don't get why so many people say it is easier for guys, I think we girls have the upper hand
Thanks for the answer but can you explain why girls have the upperhand?
because being quiet, shy, socially-awkward, hurts guys way more than girls, a girl can get a date or boyfriend even if she is quiet, shy, socially-awkward, but guys can't
this is true, but ugly chicks are just SOL. also I think this changes with age...not a lot of guys want older women (even older guys) but a surprising number of girls like older guys
what do you mean by "SOL"?
Shit out of luck
oh well
Shy, quiet girls can turn a guy off too, ya know. I've dated plenty of shy, reserved girls and I usually cut the date short and walk away. If there's lack of chemistry, why bother?
A note on shy/quiet people - not all of them stay that way once they see someone is interested in them. I'm a shy/quiet person myself, but as soon as I notice someone's trying to talk to me, I make an effort. Of course, not ALL shy people are like this. If you're a shy/quiet person who still stays quiet even when people are talking to you, and make no effort in the conversation, then you're not just being shy - you're being boring. And no matter how hot you are, it isn't going to pass.
being boring, lacking conversation, social-skills, is much worse if you are a guy
I think guys have to try harder than girls. Girls (not all but most) essentially just sit back and wait to see who asks them out (be it a dinner date or an actual relationship). They get to be more picky than guys. At least it seems to me...
Guys.
They have to take the risks, as is the gender stereotype
wow risk being "rejected" .. what a terrible risk!
Im taking about all the risks in the relationship. I can see your point at a simple 'asking out', but proposing is quite a risk regardless of how you look at it.
I voted C
Girls have it harder. A lot of guys say that it's harder for guys because we have to do the approaching. I don't see that as a big deal compare to what girls have to do to get approached.
and what do you have to do to be approached? Stand there.
all girls have to do is wait and stand still, they don't need to say anything so they get to avoid being rejected
I voted B...it is no easier and no harder as a gender...depends on the individual...any advantages or disadvantages for either gender are equalized elsewhere...not easy for anybody? lol...(:
Would you be willing to explain the equalizing elsewhere?
Because if a guy has a quality that is equalized elsewhere, and the girl doesn't even give the guy the chance to share that quality, then the quality does not matter. Am I right?
Equalizing qualities only matter AFTER a girl is welcoming to converse.
You are referring to the initial hookup...sure his Question reads "dating" and anyone will tell you it is easier for a female to have sex or accept a date...but life is a little longer than that...females have a hell of a time finding a good match for a husband and then it doesn't work out lots of times...how many single mothers are there wandering around...looking for a date or another husband?
This shouldn't even be a question, it should be a statement.
love simply, literally, just comes to women meanwhile we men have to fight tooth and nail for it, well I can't speak for every guy, that's how I feel
Yes. When I started dating online, I was getting 50+ emails a day!
When I tried dating online, I sent 10+ emails a day. I probably sent out about 50 total..with about 2 replies. Online dating basically proves men have it harder I think!
Well looking at it from this perspective, you could say that the amount of attention attractive girls receive over the Internet when compared to guys, show how much easier girls have it. That's if we are to assume that more people hitting on girls means they have it easier, which isn't what I think. There's more to it than that.
Well I think it's safe to say that I'm not going to do any online dating again after reading that.
When you're online dating you've got to stand out from the crowd. You can't just put "hey" or "what's up" or "How are you, have a fun day" You've got to have great pictures, a good byline and intruiging emails that are relevant to the specific women. I know it's a lot of work but the payoff will be great! check out this link here, and get free dating advice every day!
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Guys have a harder time.
Why do you think?
Here's a list.
1. We are expected to pay for everything. Forget the "I'm an independent girl, I'll pay too." Even if they say that, they'll treat you like a jerk if you let them pay.
2. We have to make first contact.
3. When do you ever see a girl work to get a boyfriend? All they have to do is look pretty and immediately get attention. We have to work to get them to even look at us.
4. We have to put up with them during, "that time of the month."
5. One word: chivalry.
Agree... couldn't agree more - we all know it is, anyone else who says otherwise is a flat out liar and an instigator
I would agree with is if I couldn't take my own experiences into account, but I have been the one to approach/initiate things with guys way too often lately to say that girls have it easy.
Yeah but how hard is it to try? Women have to try a lot more to look good. All we gotta do is sack up and stop caring about being rejected. Seriously, you're overthinking it. Just practice and get better. Let go of your insecurities and doubts and anything else that holds you back.
Maybe in the beginning. But a true relationship is about equal amount of giving and taking.
This is Good Answer^...and it gets you an Up Arrow from me...(:
If this is what the dating world were really like, everything would be different.
not really, even while in the relationship, girls expect the guy to lead all the time
OH GOD YES! If I guy doesn't fit the norm 5'10 or better plenty of money the shorter guys are screwed. I am 5'7 a good looking guy, in shape, dress nice, asked 8 women out had 4 dates. All failed what the heck am I doing wrong here?!
I agree. I think it's just down to supply and demand.
I have written about this many many times! Yes, supply and demand has more to do with someones dating world than ANYTHING ELSE.
Economics and statistics prove this. It is like playing musical chairs. If someone doesn't have a chair to sit in, they will be left out.
Majority of films portray males as having to ask out the girl
OH GOD YES! If I guy doesn't fit the norm 5'10 or better plenty of money the shorter guys are screwed.
I agree we are expect to make the first move.
I would vote for "A" twice if the site let me. :)