We're both 22 years old and dated for 4 years. A few days ago, I kissed another girl and regret it a lot. I then told my girlfriend about this. My girlfriend then slapped me after I told her. She started crying and yelled at me for being unfaithful. I kept apologizing to her.
After being dumped for a while, we agreed to stay together, but she thinks that it is ok to physically assault a person. She won't apologize to me for slapping me. I did cheat, but think she went overboard by hitting me.
What should I do?
I don't love the girl I kissed. My girlfriend is the world to me
Did I deserve to be slapped?
Most Helpful Girl
In all honesty, I think you deserved it. Cheating is despicable. While I think people should refrain from using violence, I understand her frustration. You didn't just cheat on her. You broke her trust in others, perhaps forever. You perhaps gave her a jaded view of the world. People who haven't been cheated on don't understand what it does to you mentally. If you asked for an apology from me after that, I probably would have smacked you again, but then again, I wouldn't be giving you a second chance in the first place. Be happy she's staying with you at all, a lot of girls wouldn't.0
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Most Helpful Guy
I've never dated a girl who hasn't hit me at least once. Most of my female friends have hit or kicked me at least once. Even the nicest of them. I've even been hit in the balls by a few girls. I've even been hit by girls I barely know. I must admit that a fraction of the time it was deserved but usually it wasn't and my size in comparison to them seems to make it okay in their mind. I have no stance and no desire to proclaim it morally correct or incorrect just pointing out that it's actually not very surprising that your girlfriend finds no wrong in hitting a man especially if you're significantly larger than them. Most women don't. The Catch 22 is if you say that you want it to stop people assume it's because you're weak and can't take it but if you don't you allow the double standard of violence to persist. So by being strong and standing up for what you may believe you unintentionally convince people you are weak. Either way my motto is if you don't like it leave it.0