My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year anf a few months now.. My friend recently saw his profile on Tinder. He also sent me a screangrab and i saw the tinder notification in the left corner of his screan shot. He says he'll never cheat on me yet he won't put any fotos of us on his fb or even our in a relationship status. Says he doesn't want a "Facebook relationship"... After so long i feel like an idiot :( am i over reacting?
people are weird about facebook is girls I'm friends with and have know for a couple years and isn't even a single picture of us even as just friends at bar and we talk all the time. but being your actually dating it seems weird he won't put anything up. its also odd he's on tinder , that doesn't sound like he is up to good things there
I can't think of any 'innocent' reason to have a Tinder account when in a relationship. I don't think you're overreacting. I would be upset too if I were in your situation. Having that account does not mean he has cheated on you, however, I do believe he may have thought about it and being on Tinder would make it easy for some people to cheat. You should definitely confront him about this and figure out what's going on. You also may not be able to trust him after this which will put a lot of strain on the relationship. It's a terrible situation to be in but, you have to decide what's best for you here. If you can't trust the person you're with, then there's really no reason to be in a relationship.
I'm not sure you are overreacting. I think I understand what he means by Facebook relationship. However, if you two were in a serious relationship, he would be happy to at least post pictures of you two. I think you have a right to be concerned here, indeed. Be prepared to leave him, because it seems like he is walking the finest line here in your relationship and possibly will cross it.
You are not overreacting but but you see at face value is true. He's your boyfriend big deal. He's a guy a young guy who would hook up with someone who would find attractive. Did you plan on marrying this guy? That is your naïveté not his
Maybe if it was just the "nothing on Facebook" thing.. but even then I'd be suspicious if he was so hardliners about it he'd not allow me to put pictures of us on there.
But there is NOT reason why he should be on Tinder. Even if he hasn't cheated or doesn't plan to cheat, he's on there because he wants to chat with other women in a less than innocent manner. At the very least, he want he ego boost from their attention. It's like if he goes out to bars and flirts with other women just to see if he's still got it... it's disrespectful.
There is no wholesome reason to be on Tinder as a guy in a relationship. Combining that with his refusal to allow anything about your relationship on social media and I'm fairly sure he's cheated not you, is cheating on you, or is trying to.
How would you friend see him on tinder if your boyfriend is not looking for other males. Sounds like he's trying to eat his cake and have it to, be with you but doesn't let anyone no. Facebook status doesn't matter however I would upload some of you two and see what he says.
Well, honestly, I always found these facebook statments pretty stupid.. Never, in any if my relationships, did I put in a relationship or change it to single afterwards or post pictures of us.. it's just none of people's business, I'm also against couples exchanging passwords and all that BS. That doesn't mean the person has anything to hide. Some people just like to keep some privacy. However, since Tinder IS a dating site, this does ring alarm bells. Why is he even using it?
RUN! This guy is bad news. He's a cheater and a liar who is thinking only of himself and wants the best of both worlds. He was on tinder for a reason I've been here before and tried to make excuses for him, don't make the same mistake. Leave him
It could be nothing.. Or he could be cheating on someone else with you.
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