Ok, so me and this girl were flirting a lot for about 4 months. I was finally going to ask her out, but on that very same day she started taking about her dream guy that she just met and how he's so perfect. Keep in mind that this happened after she told me she liked me, after we kissed, after she said she wanted to be with me! I was so angry and sad, and I still am. Now I'm scared to start liking another girl because I don't want this to happen again. At the same time I feel like if I do start liking a girl, it will help me forget about the one that crushed me. Any advice?
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Yeah, know how you feel, ditto with me too. I hated it, just as much as you. It wasn't right for her to lead you on and then take it back, it just kills everything. As much as I was upset, I didn't want to lose a valuable friend because of my bitterness. I just needed to distance myself from her a bit and let it all come out of you, lick your wounds and then come back into the game. I know it will take some time for this to happen for you, as it should. You don't want this to hinder your possible future opportunities for other relationships, as you are already feeling that. You have to get past all the hurt and think. . . . Are you going to let this one time affect EVERYTHING from now on? You HAVE TO get to this point and be able to handle this right, you don't want to get sour on girls, just because one screwed you doesn't mean that the rest are going to give you the same thing.
I know you're hurting now, I had my fair share too. We are close friends and after she said how she really wanted things, she tried to sort of blow it off, although it wasn't like she intended or meant it to be, but how I took it was " Sorry this is how it is, I hope you understand, still friends right?" Yeah, sure give me a dose of the truth after leading me on, sugar-coating it with sunshine. Her "it's all good" attitude didn't fly with me. I understand how she felt, and I'm fine if we're friends, but there isn't a need to lead me on like that, sending me to cloud nine and then leaving me falling from the sky onto concrete.
All I can say is to try to let it, all the frustration, anger flow out. Talk about it with a close friend or let it out on this site. DON'T KEEP IT INSIDE YOU, only going to make you sour. Try to meet some new ladies and hopefully it will help fade the feelings you had for her. Hope I helped, let me know! =)0