Is it too soon to have dinner with family after only 2 months of dating?

i'm not the one with the date , just wondering . my sister meet this guy online 2 months ago , now he is supposedly coming over for Easter dinner . I'm not really sure this is a good idea and it all seems a bit rushed . they've only been dating for 2 months , how long would you normally date someone before you did something like this with the parents

  • Yes
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  • It depends on relationship but explain why
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  • No
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  • I personally don't get along with my parents so I wouldn't ask to bring a date over, but I do have friends who have completely open and honest relationships with there fam. Looking at things from two very different views, I do think that it is important for the person your dating and the people you are closest to to be acquainted. I don't think time is necessarily a deciding factor on introduction. Wether it's two months or two years, if you feel a connection with someone, it's definitely a good idea to inform your loved ones of your status.

    Informing the people who are close to you of your feelings and intentions for another, is a good way to get feedback from the people who care about you. Allowing your loved ones to be involved in your relationship early on shows them that you value there opinions on your decisions and informs the person that your dating that you have a strong support system and shows that your serious about them as well.

    This is also a good way to let the a** w****s know that they better be straight with you or there going to be answering to quite a few people...

    As for your personal situation, support your sisters decision, even if the rest of your family dosnt. If things turn out to be good between she and the new boo, then she will love you twice as much for supporting her. And if things turn out bad, at least she knows that she can turn to you for comfort (andto kick the guys a**). Eigther way, you will strengthen the bond between the two of you. What else could you ask for?

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  • I met my boyfriend on Zoosk. We have been together for a year. He met my mom after about 3 weeks, then he met my dad after a month and a half because he wanted me to start staying the night. He came to Thanksgiving dinner at my Dad's and at my Mom's as well. I definitely don't think it is too soon. Boys have mixed views on this because this is how it goes for you:

    Boy dating- parents are not going to be as on top of who it is and they generally aren't overly interested or concerned. However, if I girls parents want to meet you early, you may get weirded out and think it's too soon to be serious.

    Girls- the reason why you have to meet our parents is WE ARE GIRLS. Our parents are going to be more protective and more interested and want to know the face of the boy they are going to have to kill if we get pregnant or heartbroken.

    Sidenote: YOU a boy may not see yourself this way, but your the treat when you first meet a girls family.

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  • I think it depends on the relationship. If this is a guy she really likes and is getting serious about, then I don't think it's too soon.

    I can see why you might think this way though. 2 months really isn't a long enough time to be serious about the person. It's one thing to just have the guy over for dinner on a random night. But to have him over for Easter dinner, yes it's big. Usually, at least in my experience, a dinner like this would involve more than just your immediate family. So I guess she wants to introduce him to other people in your family too.

    I agree with you, it might be a bad idea because this guy probably is still thinking the relationship is in the trial period.

    I wouldn't even think to invite a guy over to dinner unless I knew he was serious about me.

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  • My boyfriend brought me over to his home to meet his family 2 months after we started dating. It wasn't any special occasion. We hung out together and he just brought me home. We had known each other for just a month or two before we got together but we met at uni, so it makes it more "legitimate" to me than introducing someone you met online to your family. I introduced my boyfriend to my family probably 4 months into our relationship. It took longer because I don't live with my family, so we kinda had to make the occasion happen.

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  • I think three months is a decent amount of time to wait to introduce your boyfriend/girlfriend to family. I am very strict on this rule and don't falter on this for anyone. Two months is a bit too soon in my book. They still have not gotten to know each other very well. And a lot of people who meet/date online sort of rush relationships for some reason. Its best to take time getting to know each other and really getting comfortable with the relationship before introducing them to family. I feel that before my boyfriend would meet my family I have to know for certain we are serious about each other.

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  • Not necessarily too soon. If they have been seeing each consistently for 2 months, in person & not just online, and they have become close & serious, then it's not too soon. Some folks it's way too soon. It's very situational. You really should not judge their relationship based on how you would feel about your own relationship boundaries. It may be totally different. She may also be wanting to see how he fairs around your family and wants your opinions on him. Be supportive & give them the benefit of the doubt until and "if" you see anything that gives you pause to think otherwise.

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    • there are some things that bother me , one is that he's way older than he at least 10 years older and she looks younger and he looks older so they look like a 40 year old guy dating a 19 year old girl ) , he also started dating her just after she got out of a relationship and after her pet died so she was somewhat vulnerable and easy . it seems like the relationship is a way to get over things in her past . I don't know its all not really my business I just find it all somewhat odd

    • Fair enough. There are many red flags that I would be concerned about too. Just be friendly to him, but "brotherly," if you know what I mean. Cautionly giving your friendship but not your approval yet. Esp. if he asks for it. Let him know why, just what you said, you think she isn't ready for anyone at this pt. because she's rebounding & greiving, & you think she needs space. Tell him that if he does care for her, he should allow her this space. Good luck. Watch her back.

  • it depends on the relationship because you could be pretty serious in two months or you can still be playing games in your relationship. it call depends on what you dtr as

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  • It depends, has he been over before? Has he met your parents? If no, too soon. I think it's normal to have them over for dinner within two months of dating, but holidays I think it should be longer, given they've been around your family for a while.

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  • If you are super serious after two months of dating, go for it! If you still only see each other occasionally, you still haven't met one another's friends, etc, it would probably be too early. Talk to one another about it and see what each of you think.

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  • I said yes only because 2 months is literally 60 days or less and I know you don't see each other EVERYDAY...but if your serious and you know you'll last wayyyyy past those 2 months then go for it, and Id be happy to say that it is not too early then.

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  • if you both really enjoy each others company..and plan to continue seeing each other a lot..i think meeting his/her family is the right thing to do..

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  • OMG, everyone is different. He is obviously important to her and wants to share him with her family. Two months is plenty of time; I've had men introduce me to their parents and extended family after two dates - - THAT is awkward!

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  • If she met him in person, I'd understand that it wouldn't be a problem but meeting online?! Whoa, creepy! Just saying. I think I made my point with that short explanation. haha.

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    • What difference does it make to meet a strange by chance at the store than online?

    • A lot of people nowadays meet online. How is that creepy?

  • With one of my exes, I met his family after one month and it was fine. If you are comfortable with your family I don't think it's a problem to have the person you are dating meet them.

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  • It depends on how well the relationship has been going. I don't see a problem with it.

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  • if you are serious about the person you are with, then within the 1st month of dating is an ideal time to meet the parents. And personally I think the sooner the better!

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  • It might be if she's never even met him in person before.

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    • no they have meet in person and he lives nearby , they meet online but live in same town . although he is new to town so doesn't know anyone else

    • Nah, I don't think so. It's just dinner with the family. If there serious then it would be a nice time for him and your family to really get to know each other.

  • I don't think it's too soon.. especially if you see a future with the person. The family always wants to meet who their daughter is dating, so I think it's a good time.

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    • ok but after 2 months how do you know there is a future there ? she really doesn't know that much about him yet . why make everything seem so serious when its so early in the potential relationship

  • Not really. If she likes him and wants him to be around the family then he is doing something right in their relationship. When he comes over try to avoid hostal words and actions if you are uncomfortable with him being in the family home. Try to see what she sees in him; not just imperfections. I hope dinner goes well =)

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    • i forgot to say it all seems like a rebound , she broke up with another boyfriend of several years just before she meet him , her previous relationship was also very troubled . I'm not convinced an online relationhsip from a free dating site is really going to last , plus its Saturday night and I have other plans , my parents want me to go but I honestly don't care much for the whole thing

    • If he made her happy after her relationship ended after several years isn't that a good thing? It really doesn't matter if he is a rebound or not. If her previous relationship was a flop, I'm pretty sure she will focus on her current one instead

What Guys Said 13

  • 2 months is plenty of time. 2 months is a lot of dates, at least with me it is since its usually 2 a week.

    If it was someone I was serious about they'd be over when it was convenient. It is was just someone I was dating for fun, no real need to at that point but I wouldn't be against it either.

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  • If I had to wait 2 months to meet a girl's family then I would believe the relationship really wasn't heading anywhere... There are stipulations such as her own relationship with her family, locations ect...

    But I would expect to meet the family within a month and a half. It's only appropriate to talk with those who gave birth ect to the one you loved and to thank them personally for sending you an angel.

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  • Totally and utterly depends on the relationship.

    With my current girlfriend I ate dinner with her family -1 month into our relationship. That is minus one month there. We got to know each other in a friendly fashion first and then only got all boy-girly.

    With other girls too they've been around my place before we ever did anything.

    Bringing a girl over with all the fanfair of "PRESENTING MY BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND!"...now that I've never done. To me yes, 2 months is way too short there. That's only gonna happen after a year at least. And only when we're talking serious serious "I might marry this girl" stuff.

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  • Even the first day is OK.

    A family dinner is really much less intimate than what most couples do after a week. It all depends on the parents: will they start speaking about marriage right away?

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    • the parents haven't but the 2 of them have

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    • we started dating (1968) and she's still my wife, the woman I love, looking at the telly right now.

    • I met my (future) parents in law before we started dating.

      That girl I knew asked me I if I 'd be her guide in Paris for 10 days, I said 'yes', her parents wanted to see me before giving their approval (we were 20 then LOL) thus I went there for tea and cookies, met her mom, dad, granny and I was allowed to book 2 rooms. We left, 2 rooms it stayed, I only entered hers to carry her luggage, we visited Paris -I knew it already quite well, the came a first kiss and finally when we got back home...

  • Too soon, you should only bring wifey type girls that you've been with for at least a while until you introduce them to your family. Family is like the HOLY grail and exclamation point on the relationship.

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  • In my books, 2 months is too soon. But if they have a good connection, it's not a bad idea. In summary, it depends on the relationship.

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  • i would only introduce a girl to my parents when I believe the relationship is stable and has the potential to become "serious" - for some relationships and couples that could be in 2 months, in others closer to a year.

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  • I do not think it is too soon at all unless they have only been dating online and have not met each other.

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    • no they've meet in person and he lives nearby , it all seems a little rushed though

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    • How is him living in the same town a problem? I have a feeling you very much dislike your sister either having a relationship or you very very much dislike the guy. Would you rather your sis have aunrealistic long distance relationship so she could never see the guy? Are you maybe jealous of her having a relationship? Can you tell me how long they are supposed to wait before having a meal at your parents? Is two years about right?

    • And his age should be a plus as he may be more established and knows how to treat a lady. Try giving him a chance. Two months is not too soon

  • Not at all, me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 months and we've met each others families already and Iw as at her house for Passover yesterday. Meeting the family is just a part of the relationship

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    • meeting them is one thing , having them over for dinner is another . its more of an indication of seriousness even though things may not really be that serious

  • It's never too soon to make a good impression with potential future in-laws.

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  • I do not think that there is anything wrong with it. Did the parent met the gentleman in question?

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  • why not? free meal is always nice to have

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  • Your sister sounds like the girl I am dating. We also met online and she had me meet her entire family a month after starting to date. I was hesitant as I thought it was kind of soon too, but it was fun and I was glad I did it. Her family really wanted to meet me to my surprise. I learned after getting there most everyone already knew about me from my date telling them about me in phone conversations. My date hasn't dated anyone for a long time. So I suppose it was a big deal in some ways. I don't think we've rushed anything. She understood if I told her I did not want to, but also told me she'd like me to be there. I was flattered I was invited since it was obviously a good sign she saw some potential in us.

    We haven't had sex or anything yet- I'm not sure if you worry about your sister in this way? But it doesn't automatically mean things are moving fast only to cool down later.

    Your sister probably isn't worried so much because she sees herself with this guy for awhile. I would never agree to meet someone's family or them meet mine if I didn't think it would last very long. She could also introduce him as a sort of "good" friend, making it clear to everyone that she likes him a lot, however they aren't a couple in the truest sense just yet.

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