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What if the woman insists on paying the bill on the first date? (Page 2)
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I always offer to pay my share. Because I don't want the guy to think I am taking advantage, and I don't want the guy thinking I "owe" him anything.
If I pay for my meal on the first date it is because I asked the guy out or because I have no intention of seeing him again.
If you can't a ford it, then you shouldn't invite people out. The same rule applies for my friends.
At least I can pay for her but I will drop an eye what she is going to buy and why? I can get any thing for her even on first date but I wana be satisfied also according to my senses. I can not buy any thing blindly on first date.
She most likely prides herself on being independent and refuses to allow a man to do anything for her. She probably doesn't want you to hold the door open for her either
I don't see anything wrong with it..hey,it's her money,so why should it matter?
It means you're a rare lucky bastard who went on a date with a woman who actually believes in equality rather than just saying she does.
She wants to seem polite. But most women don't know when to quit. They think it will make them seem humble, while it will only make them less attractive.
Are you a man? If a girl buys me nice things and pays for my food then I will be very attracted to her
I was talking about if she insists on paying when the guy offers to do it -_-'
Stay on topic
Doesn't make a different but okay live in your fantasy world
Less attractive just because she pays the bill? Wow lol
You couldn't be more wrong...well unless you tried very hard.
Wow, you guys are really stupid. Here's the scenario:
Guy: I'll pay
Girl: No, no, I want to.
Guy: No, I want to pay
Girl: No, no, let me.
Guy: Can you please just let me pay?
Girl: NO!
And that's what we call insisting, you dumbasses
Congrats...remember when I said you couldn't be more wrong...your effort paid off. LESSON...it doesn't change their "attraction" or "attractiveness." which is the point you were trying to make. which has been debunked by both men and women here in the comments section alone.
I agree guys will like a girl who insists on paying every now and then. But any guy who thinks they'd love a girl who always insisted on paying for everything either doesn't know what they actually like or is a pretty wimpy dude. Most men want to feel like men, and part of that is "providing".
She doesn't want you to feel like she's taking advantage of a silly custom.
Well it wasn't silly when men were the bread makers and women had very little money
you nailed it mrbluesky but this day and age we all work for a living so its only fair to take turns sometimes or go dutch
At least it shows that she's independent which is a good thing these days. She probably just didn't want to feel like she was in his debt it really depends. RedSmartie has it pretty much summed up.
Would you really want to be with someone who thought that it's always the mans "job" to pay?
Yea it's a job for most guys and fun for them. Apparently sucking our wallets dry is fun.
it sends the message that she's independent and sets clear that she can take control of things... not really a good sign if you're trying to pursue a second date.
or it sends the message that she's generous and considerate
Maybe, could be. But, honestly? I don't know one woman who would insist on covering the bill on a first date. As a woman, I say it is not a good sign and I wouldn't do it. I would pay my half and keep things fair and square.
look at all the guys saying they would appreciate the gesture. don't you think that matters? if a guy is OK with it and see's it as a good gesture, then why not go for it? because you think its not a good idea?
Well...it just means that you're having a lovely dream in deep slumber! But seriously, no woman would do that, unless she has planned to get some benefit from you (monetary or otherwise) later, which is MUCH bigger than what she paid.
I would think that the lady doesn't believe men have to be the one shoulder the bills. Easy going and generous
@update I would say cool she is not someone who will get free meal etc from guys
It means she is an adult instead of an adolescent and wants a relationship that both people contribute to.
well I would think she doesn't want to owe anything to the guy...not good. Paying 50 50 that is waaaaay different
I personally don't like when the guy pays for me EVERYTIME. I don't know, I just don't like that. I once did, so he had the impression that I can pay for my own stuff.
You should consider yourself lucky everyone women I have gone out with expects me to always pay.
I have random luck in this area. But yea it seems like the self entitlement of girls is pretty high nowadays.
Not only do I have to pay for the first date which I don't really mind but the 2nd and 3rd date she doesn't even ask, she just assumes I am paying.
Depends on who makes the most money and who has the most bills. If makes more then me (which is almost always the case) then he pays. Seems simple to me. I hate this new dating crap men expect nowadays. I have children..if you ask me..you should pay for my meal. If I were a Dr. and asked you out-then yes I would pay.
So the man should always pay pretty much is what you think? We both make the same amount of money and I have let her pick the place we would go for 2 of the 3 dates so I would assume she would at least offer.
I guess she is trying to come off as nice. She may be also trying to show that she can take care of herself, but this may be offensive to the man if he wants to pay then let him.
It means you found a rare girl that's not trying to use your money
Only would work if the guy is good looking lets face facts if he isn't 1) She's not dating him and 2) Even if the guy managed to get a date somehow she'll just use him for a free meal.